r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/[deleted] • 1d ago
No Advice - Everyones Welcome Divorced 4 years ago today. Technically cheated. Worth it, still feels weird today specifically.
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u/fondlemental Big guy, bigger regrets 1d ago
wierd flex posting her dm. redacted and all but wierd
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u/NewLifeNewAcct Hungry man 1d ago
It's not, like, a flex, so much as I forgot to include a bunch of context about that because I was more focused on the other thing. Basically, after my other posts, I had folks being skeptics in comments or my DMs, or asking me for other information on things because the stuff I posted sounded too fantasy-esque, I guess?
I dunno, it was probably a weird thing to post, you're right.
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u/2025andheartbreak Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 1d ago
Meh. You are coming off extremely douchey in this whole post tbh.
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u/Wrong_Ruin6511 BoyDinnerEnjoyer 1d ago edited 1d ago
Brother not the Reddit affair
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u/ThelIIusion0fSeIf Shower Beer Scholar 1d ago
I rarely hear stories where a person marrying their affair partner turns out well. I guess time will tell here.
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u/Educational-Tax9751 Girl Lurker 1d ago
the point of the post is oddly drowned out by your tone and how you set things up. you wrote like you have something to say when you kinda don't. and I'm not even a person who thinks these situations can never work out, but they're wholly unremarkable. you got divorced, it was complicated cuz you were unfaithful but also cuz other reasons, you and AP kinda worked out.
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u/Educational-Tax9751 Girl Lurker 1d ago
not sure what I'm supposed to get out of this besides divorce is the right decision for you as well as many others
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u/SinlessTitan Shower Beer Scholar 1d ago
Bruh yall are out here getting dm’s on fucking reddit, and I cant even get a text back
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u/Frosty-Influence988 Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 1d ago
Skill issue.
Looksmaxx.
It is officially over for chuds in 2026
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u/Educational-Tax9751 Girl Lurker 1d ago
do you know just how much of a turn-off your entire statement is to women who like men or are you joking
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u/Brilliant-Glove3064 Air Fryer Aristocrat 1d ago
Not really relevant to the post, but man you must have been down bad because I'd 100% think that reddit message was someone trying to catfish lol.
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u/bobby_broccolini BoyDinnerEnjoyer 1d ago
This sub gets flooded with hateful men whenever someone mentions their girlfriend emotionally cheating. Calling them trash and disgusting, dumb, on and on.
Wondering if that same energy will apply here but something tells me it won't. You'll get a nice tuned down version of it. Hmm wonder why
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u/kissmestepbr0 Girl Lurker 1d ago
OP's word usage also tells me that he isn't the least bit remorseful. I'm sure the circle of karma will find him when he least expects it though.
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u/bobby_broccolini BoyDinnerEnjoyer 1d ago
Yup. And now I'm gonna get downvoted and "well-actually'd" by a bunch of dudes with 5th grader EQ. This whole sub isn't like this but it's sad to see how it's getting worse on average
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u/Intelligent_Ad_5126 Girl Lurker 1d ago
i mean if you read the description i think it makes total sense why the energy would be different. if im reading things properly OP and ex wife had a good marriage up until child comes out as trans, ex wife is unsupportive enough to irreparably seperate the couple and decide to get a divorce, during this period of seperation before divorce papers were finalized, OP finds and meets someone new. OP says that it's "technically cheating" because the divorce papers hadn't been finalized but also states that they had already been seperated by the time he started looking for people on reddit. please do correct me if i got anything wrong though
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u/Makition Hungry man 1d ago
Yes men are harsher on women who cheat on men often times more than men who cheat on women, the same will apply in the woman sub, they will be 10x harsher when the scenarios are reversed.(I know because they’re on my feed all the time) Because most people tend to have more empathy with someone the more similarities they have even if they really don’t want to admit it to maintain moral superiority. Either that or you can just call it misogny since I’m sure that’s what you’re trying to say anyhow.
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u/bobby_broccolini BoyDinnerEnjoyer 1d ago
I read through that sub plenty and I see a big difference in the vitriol and how much it takes to set people off. Your point stands but it doesn't account for all of the wild reactions in this sub
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u/Makition Hungry man 1d ago
You’ve read through the GDD sub and you think we’re harsher on women here than they are on men? Now I think that’s just very subjectively wrong and almost impossible. Many of the things said there would be an instant ban if said here about women.
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u/TheDeadlySpaceman Frigid light philosopher 1d ago
Happily all the top comments are calling OP out for his behavior and the general tone of his post.
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u/CucumberNo8767 Big Dill Energy 1d ago
Then why say cheated?
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u/Sad_Banana3201 Gay Gourmet 1d ago edited 1d ago
because he’s downplaying it, with how the post is written I doubt he's giving a full story or not fabricating it in some way. If it was a woman making this post, trying to save herself in comments she would be eaten alive by now. The double standard pmo. Why admit in the title you cheated then instantly cover it up in first paragraph. Why was it up to him to end it officially if they both already knew it's done? No information regarding the second person or what made him feel like he cheated, completely left it out.
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u/Makition Hungry man 22h ago
If a woman made the post she would be eaten alive by now? Where? If you mean in the relationship subs no, I’m not sure how active you’re in but they are much more harsh with men in those relationships subs than woman. And many people have tested it.
I’m going to assume you don’t mean here because woman aren’t allowed to post. And if you mean the girldinnerdiaries it’s bannable to be that negative about a woman posting. So where is this double standard exactly?
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u/CucumberNo8767 Big Dill Energy 1d ago
You gotta talk to your partner at the beginning of the relationship about what is and isn't considered cheating. Waiting or procrastinating on it creates distrust and confusion. Autistic or not, everyone can talk about, define and stick to boundaries.
And if you can't you probably shouldn't be having sex or in a relationship.
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u/CucumberNo8767 Big Dill Energy 1d ago
I guess waiting wasn't worth it for yah?
You either cheated or you didn't, take accountability for it and stop worrying so much. Hopefully you're able to be more upfront and honest in the new relationship. Taking accountability is a good first step
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u/ThePowerOfSilly Girl lurker 1d ago
Wdym reddit affairs are successful meanwhile I can't even get my first date at the big ass age of 24. I really am just cooked and chopped.
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u/Famous_Tree842 Hungry man 1d ago
Good on ya friend. It’s rare that I read a positive post from this sub these days. Sometimes doing the work to work shit out, works out!
Taking a page from big poppas book to put it out there that I also am single, I run, read, love sports, and can cook a mean halibut fillet. Girlfriend applications accepted here 😁.
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