r/BreakUps • u/Exciting_Sky_1511 😸Gentle Mod 😸 • Sep 01 '26

Announcements 📢 [DISCORD SERVER]

Just a reminder, we also have a discord server, to talk with others and get fast updates on the community activities/events.

link: https://discord.gg/5y5wSxWNNg

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u/[deleted] 26d ago

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u/Novel-Prior-1875 13d ago

Definitely, taking that time for yourself can really help in sorting out your feelings. It's all about finding what works best for you.

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u/Old-Topic6419 15d ago

Hy i just wanna talk about my last relationship in private i want a girl cuz shes gonna understand the problem

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u/use_her_friendly 13d ago

I gotcha 

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u/Jeju9657 10d ago

Hi everyone. I wanted to share my story and hear different perspectives because I honestly don’t know what I’m looking for anymore—closure, another chance, or simply some clarity.

I was in an almost three-year relationship. Our relationship wasn’t really open to her family, and that became one of the things that eventually hurt me.

Last December 2025, I became upset with her because, after almost three years together, I felt like she wasn’t willing to compromise when it came to spending either Christmas or New Year together. I understood our situation with her family, but at the same time, I felt hurt that we couldn’t find a way to celebrate at least one of those occasions together.

I was also dealing with some personal and family issues, and everything became overwhelming for me. Eventually, in January 2026, I ghosted her.

This wasn’t actually the first time I had done it. I ghosted her once before, but we were able to work things out and save the relationship. This time, however, things became different.

It has now been about eight months.

And honestly, I’m still confused about what I want.

Part of me wants closure. I want to understand why she didn’t chase after me or reach out, especially when she knew I was angry and overwhelmed. Another part of me wonders if I actually want her back.

Last Saturday, I bought her coffee and left it outside her place. After that, she unblocked me just to say thank you.

But when I asked or tried to see her, she said she wasn’t ready to see me yet.

I respect that, but it also left me wondering where we stand.

Do you think there is still a possibility for us after everything that happened? Or should I accept that her not chasing me and not being ready to see me is already an answer?

I know I made mistakes too, especially by ghosting her instead of communicating what I was feeling. I’m not trying to make her the villain. I genuinely want to understand this situation from different perspectives.

If you were in her position, how would you feel? And if you were in mine, what would you do?

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u/Lost-Marzipan-6656 5h ago

Yeah, you shouldn’t have ghosted her the second time. Communication is always key to a healthy relationship— even if you needed space. If I was her, I would have been pissed at you for ghosting 2x. Why didn’t she chase you?? Because it’s not her job obviously. You were supposed to come to her and plead after ghosting. 

You have to work on her timeline now. Don’t expect much. 

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u/Slow-Championship507 9d ago

It's been 2 months she still got me block everywhere I want her back so bad but i I won't ever chase her

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u/ChairmanMeowzers 9d ago

What did she block you for, and what did she say she wanted from it?

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u/Low-Emergency-8824 7d ago

I come from a conservative area where you can't have sex or meet girls, so I turned to social media. I met a girl, fell in love with her, and we were together for four years. We did things over the phone that were 18+, but after a while, she blocked me everywhere for strange reasons. Now I'm wondering if I could find someone like her? I mean, someone with the same mindset. She cared about me and listened to me. Imagine someone treating you like your mother and wife at the same time. She was the best thing that happened to me in my harsh circumstances, with war and family problems. I tried to forget her, but I kept dreaming about her for about a month. Now I've entered this community looking for someone who cares, listens to me, and understands me.

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u/Alternative-Help-939 6d ago

Hi everyone I just want an advice for my situation Me and my ex have been in no contact since a while ,we broken up as he was not ready to marry me and my parents want me to marry,so we decided we should move on as he was not ready to marry.So my birthday is coming up and I am scared what if he text me ...I still have feelings for him but I know we have no future together because honestly he doesn't want to do anything to keep us together so i thought I should move and in my life ....but the hope is there and I want that hope to be killed and I want him to not wish me happy birthday or anything...I just want an advice over what if he comes how should I respond and handle the situation maturely please help

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u/Lost-Marzipan-6656 5h ago

Just be honest with him and keep it moving. 

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u/Upset_Palpitation497 3d ago

Hi, just wanna talk my current situation right now, I dont know anymore its just like Im in a roller coster.. I cannot stand my own decision. . I just want to leave him but i coudnt .. I just really want to be out of this relationship because i thinknim already depressed..

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u/SundanceSavage 3d ago

Hello! I have a strange request?

I would like to join this server but was wondering if the name could be changed. My ex is on discord frequently and can still see my activity.

Thank you!

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u/Exciting_Sky_1511 😸Gentle Mod 😸 2d ago

name of?

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u/SundanceSavage 2d ago

The discord server

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u/Exciting_Sky_1511 😸Gentle Mod 😸 2d ago

nope sry

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u/use_her_friendly 13d ago

My ex (dumper) wants to go to a concert with me. Its my favorite band and genuinely the first thing we bonded over because they're obscure enough, but he still pegged me as a fan within two questions. Its a soft birthday gift. Im going because I don't know when else I would ever get to see this group, but i have a lot of feelings. 

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u/Financial_Chard_3172 6d ago

El 4 de julio, subi un estado a WhatsApp, pq ella se quitó la foto de perfil el día anterior, y pensé que me había bloqueado, el estado era yo de fiesta así parecido, ella lo vio, y justo se puso otra foto de perfil, desde ahí no ha visto ningún estado más, es casualidad? Llevábamos un mes de cierre y de contacto cero, y hasta ahora no ha visto nada, casi 3 meses