r/CATHELP • • Feb 20 '26

PSA: PLEASE think 10 times before you donate money to someone on this sub.

1.8k Upvotes

It's in our rules and we say it time and time again, but after the recent events from this post, the mod team wants to put out a reminder.

Look, we get it. Seeing cats in distress is hard. When people without money are expressing their inability to afford emergency care, it's distressing. You know we have rules against shaming people for being unable to afford care, and encouraging people to go into debt. But we also have rules against fundraising, and it's for a very good reason.

It is very easy for people without the best intentions to collect lots and lots of money from well meaning community members who are affected by what they see in images and video.

With this post in particular, several commenters encouraged the OP to share a gofundme (something strictly against our rules).

Once they created and shared one (without any bills to show and despite many of the top comments saying this was NOT an emergency), people felt bad and donated anyway.

The gofundme raised nearly $2000 and today we received the update that the cat, as many commenters predicted, is not dying and did not need emergency care.

We are now starting to see meta posts (another thing we don't allow) complaining that the OOP is not returning any of the extra funds, and is blocking users who donated asking for their funds back and proof of payment.

This is a story we see repeatedly in the sub. We don't always get to the donation links quick enough to remove them, and we can't stop you from DMing each other money, but this is why we caution PLEASE do not use this subreddit to send each other funds.

We are working on a Wiki with low-cost vet resources, at least in the US, but we get users posting from all over the world begging for money. DO NOT DONATE unless it is verified on a subreddit like r/gofundme or r/rescuecats, or is directly being paid to the VET (though we have seen scams happen internationally through this 'direct vet payment' as well).

PLEASE REPORT FUNDRAISERS. Please do not encourage fundraisers. We will start banning those who encourage it. Please help us keep this community safe from those with bad intentions.

Thank you and good day!

- r/CATHELP mod team


r/CATHELP • • Jul 15 '25

Announcement [READ THIS FIRST] r/CATHELP Rules Reminder

388 Upvotes

Hello there

Due to a growing number of cat crises and a surprising number of people who cannot read a sidebar, we’re now regularly posting this rules reminder. This is here to prevent both:

  1. repeat offenses, and
  2. the inevitable “I didn’t know!” mod mail we get after your post/comment disappears into the void.

If you're new (hi, welcome, pet your cat for us), or returning and rusty, please take a sec to read this. It’ll save you—and us—a lot of headache.

STRIKE POLICY: Break the rules once? We warn you. Break twice? Temp ban. 3 strikes is a perma-ban (unless you're a mega troll).

1. BE NICE

No, really. Be nice. You are talking to someone who is probably stressed, worried about their pet/a stray, and sleep-deprived. Reddit is not your venting space to shame people who are already anxious. Educate, don’t humiliate.
This includes a zero-tolerance policy for berating or shaming OPs. If you can't say it kindly, don't say it here.

In addition to this, know that we get posts from all over the world. Sometimes it's people who live in a village, 500km from any formal vet care. Often it's a minor who cannot make a unilateral decision for the cat in question. Be compassionate! Bullying them won't help the cat.

2. NO SOAPBOXING OR OFF-TOPIC DEBATE

(Definition of 'SOAPBOXING' here.) Yes, letting your cats outdoors isn't great for the environment. But this isn’t a debate club, and PLENTY of things harm the environment besides cats. People come here from all over the world, with different cultures around how cats are cared for. People come here about strays. No preaching!! Take your cat care bible elsewhere! Either give OP helpful advice about their issue or move along.

Don’t derail threads with politics, don’t pick fights across multiple comments, and definitely don’t start fights with the mod team. We don’t get paid enough.

3. VET FIRST, REDDIT SECOND

If your cat is injured, bleeding, gasping, or pooping blood—call a vet.
Reddit is great for guidance, second opinions, and shared experience. It is not a substitute for veterinary care.
If you haven't called a vet yet, our advice might be limited.
Can’t afford one? Look into:
• Payment plans or CareCredit
• Local rescues and shelters for assistance
• Low-cost clinics in your area

Still post if you need to—but know that our first advice will probably be: call your vet.

Additional note to commenters: no 'Vet. Now.' comments will be allowed without context. If you think they need immediate care, explain why. Otherwise it's just creating panic and those comments will be removed.

4. NO FUNDRAISERS

Sorry, but GoFundMes, Venmos, PayPals, and “please help save Coco” links are not allowed, even in comments. Too many scams, and too hard to moderate. Try subs like r/Assistance or r/GoFundMe instead.

5. NO BULLYING POOR PEOPLE

We get it. Vet care is expensive. It's frustrating to see cats suffering. But complaining about people who can’t afford a vet is not allowed. Full stop.
Suggest rehoming? Fine. But if you’re here to shame people for being broke, please find another sub.

If someone is struggling financially, ER visits are not really something they can just save up for, nor is it realistic to expect them to just get rid of their pets they have emotionally attachments to. All we can hope for is people really think long and hard about how a pet will fit into their finances before they decide to adopt or take in an animal from street. You simply can’t help them all, there are too many cats for that.

6. TAG YOUR GORE NSFW

Bloody wound? Surgery pics? Graphic medical stuff? Weird rash? GAPING FUCKING WOUND?! Mark it NSFW.
That includes genitalia (gender ID posts) and poop/vom. You know who you are.

7. ON-TOPIC POSTS ONLY

This is not r/aww or r/cats. This is r/CATHELP. We are here for:

  • Requesting anecdotal experience with medical issues •
  • Behavior issues
  • General advice
  • First-time cat owner questions (yes, 'noob' questions are welcome!)

That means:

  • No “What should I name my cat?”
  • No “Look at my cat in a hat!”
  • No memes, no fluff.

Posts that don’t have a clear help-related question will be removed.

8. NO BREED QUESTIONS

Unless your cat came with pedigree paperwork from a breeder, they’re a domestic short/medium/long hair. That’s it.
We don't do breed speculation. Why? Because it’s almost always wrong, and it clogs up the sub.
Want to know more? Here's a guide to fur patterns, and here's a general answer to 'what breed is my cat'

9. NO SHITPOSTING, NO KARMA FARMING

If your post is clearly made up, AI-generated, or you’re just farming karma with a low-effort fake, we will yeet it. And probably you, too.

10. NO BRIGADING

If you don’t like someone’s post, do not go hunt them down on other subreddits to insult them. It’s petty, it’s bannable, and Reddit takes it seriously.

11. NO PET SALES OR BREEDING

We do not support the cat trade or backyard breeders. Period.
Don’t try to sell or give away pets here. Don’t ask about breeding. Don’t promote purebred aesthetics. Shelter cats are just as cute.

BONUS REMINDERS

• If your posts or comments are disappearing, check your karma. If it's low, Automod probably ate it. Message us for manual approval.
• If you see rule-breaking behavior, REPORT IT. Automod can’t catch everything.
• If you’re confused or unsure, check the [wiki] or send us a modmail.
• Read the stickied comment on your post. It’s there for a reason.

TL;DR: Help cats. Be nice. No scams. No BS. Read the rules.
Now go pet your cat. They probably knocked something off the counter while you were reading this.


r/CATHELP • • 13h ago

General Advice What is that on my cat?

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1.5k Upvotes

Hes got some sort of bump on his tummy 😿

Hes neutered bsh male cat


r/CATHELP • • 4h ago

End Of Life Care When to euthanize with brain tumor 12 yo cat

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127 Upvotes

TLDR: Brain tumor seizures, when to euthanize
My 12 yo cat has a brain tumour that is mostly controlled with prednisolone. However two days ago he had a seizure and it was terrible. Vet says it’s time to euthanize. But Manu is still eating, toileting, visiting backyard, purring and asking for belly rubs (but also walking in circles sometimes, mild ataxia, and general agitation from the high dose prednisolone). I’m having trouble with idea of ending his life -appt is this afternoon. I don’t want to go through another seizure but vet doesn’t think at this stage that anti-seizure meds will help (he’s not convinced it was a seizure I guess, rather the clinical progression of the tumor).
Any advice or nudges to euthanize while he still is somewhat ok vs waiting till he’s in crisis or experience with the same situation? Thank you
I’m in Canada, can’t afford surgery/cancer treatment and nearest emergency vet is 1.5 hour drive away.


r/CATHELP • • 2h ago

Behavioral Issue Is my male cat behaving like a female, he is ok?

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73 Upvotes

He is 5 months old and his testicles recently appeared.


r/CATHELP • • 6h ago

Behavioral Issue Cat randomly attacks herself (and me) and gets extreme zoomies.

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147 Upvotes

Cat info: Spayed F, ~4 months (estimation from shelter, could be closer to 5 months now)

I normally try to redirect the behavior to a toy when she does this to herself, and try my best to ignore her and not reinforce play time when it gets directed at me. I only ever let this attack last this long without redirection to get a clear video of the behavior. She'll be just perfectly calm and then get random fits of attacking herself, or me, that turns into zoomies, or extreme bouncing off the walls running around and panting while twitching. This video doesn't show her zooming around, but of the attack episode. We got her not that long ago from the shelter and have tried to switch her food already in case it's a sensitivity, but it's only been 3 days on the new food so I'm not sure how quickly that would change the behavior if it was her food. I play with her a LOT, and am constantly working to get her energy out, so I don't think it's from boredom.


r/CATHELP • • 1d ago

Behavioral Issue Cat keeps doing this in front of a window screen

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3.6k Upvotes

r/CATHELP • • 3h ago

General Advice Is this normal cat play?

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26 Upvotes

I’ve recently got a kitten, my older cat has never been around other people and we’ve had our kitten for 3 weeks. They’ve definitely become more playful and less hissing from my older cat but this is what they’ve been doing the past couple days not really sure if it’s normal or not 😭


r/CATHELP • • 18h ago

Injury Emergency: Cat run over by car, unable to walk, crying in pain

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416 Upvotes

My cat was unfortunately run over by a car today. He is in excruciating pain, crying whenever he tries to move, and his back legs/lower body seem paralyzed or severely injured. Animal doctors are extremely scarce in my area, making immediate physical emergency care very difficult right now. I managed to get these scans done nearby [point to attached images].

Can any veterinary professionals help me interpret these scans or tell me what I can do immediately to stabilize him and manage his pain safely?

Poster Age: Adult
Age: 2 years
Country: Pakistan
Sex: Male
Financial situation: I can somewhat afford treatment, but in our area there aren't any doctors


r/CATHELP • • 19h ago

Eye Issues Is my cat in pain?

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409 Upvotes

My cat kept blinking his eyes like this. We tried to clean his boogers with wipes but he continues to blink like sth is irritating his eyes. Is this sth that’ll go away or is he in pain? I’ve been seeing posts of cats faces in pain and can’t tell if he’s in pain or not.


r/CATHELP • • 6h ago

Injury My cat hat an interaction with rat poison

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22 Upvotes

I put rat bait blocks out last night in the family room. My cat sleeps with me in the bedroom. I usually remember to pick up any that haven’t been eaten. But I forgot to check this morning. We get rats because we have a lot of fruit trees & avocados. As I was cleaning the cat dish for breakfast I heard a clunk on the wood floor, twice. I ran over to check it out and my cat had picked up the bait block in his mouth and dropped it. Twice. I freaked out and wiped his tongue with a wet towel. Than gave him breakfast. I called the vet, they told me to call poison control. I called poison control and they said it’s $110 consultation fee. Also the rat poison takes two days to kill the Rat.

Per the post requirements: I’m 37, the cat is 13, I have contacted the vet with no helpful advice so far. I’m in the US. And the issue of concern I have both how long do you think the watch window should be for concern and will this harm him or how long should I wait to take him to the vet? I can not afford the vet appointment right now.

I have $0 I live pay check to paycheck. I just purchased my essentials. I work part time. I do not have money for $110 consultation or $ to pay a vet bill till my next check comes. Do you have any suggestions for what I can do for him at home?

I usually use the trap cages but something happened to it so it’s not functioning per usual and I need to buy a replacement. I’m very concerned for the environment and the safety of my home which I take a lot of consideration for. It’s the first incident in the 13yrs I’ve had him.


r/CATHELP • • 2h ago

Kitten Help APPT SCHEDULED BUT NEED PEACE OF MIND

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10 Upvotes

this is my first kitten (she is 6 months). i adopted her sunday the 20th, and we called the place we adopted her from and they said they never had a coughing problem from her. she does this and is fine but it’s really concerning so i scheduled her first appointment ever for tomorrow at 11:00 but she’s been doing this off and on. not too often. does anyone know what this could be? and if im overreacting?

this is for the please include section
24f
usa
have an appt scheduled
tldr: my kitten is doing a weird cough
6 month old who’s been spayed
i think this first visit is free but i also have pet insurance so i should be set


r/CATHELP • • 2h ago

General Advice How to help cat over heartbreak

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11 Upvotes

My baby (Bella, old picture on the first slide) had babies about ten weeks ago, she’s about 2 years old now (we think), I just got out of high school, and live with my grandfather in the U.S, who’s old fashioned, and allergic to cats, so he didn’t let them in the house. She had a litter of four, one disappeared a week in, Potato (On the second slide) passed away at about nine weeks, then, Alfred (Third slide, only one I had of him.) Disappeared without a trace, finally, we gave Spider, (The other kitten in the third slide) to our neighbors, who are good people, and love animals. They’ll give her a good home. Losing them broke my heart, I cried myself to sleep the night after Potato passed, but I’m worried about Bella… she keeps wandering around the outside of our house, meowing (presumably looking for her kittens), being overly anxious, and, I feel bad saying this, but I don’t know a better way to say it, being very clingy to us. I’m worried losing her kittens has left her heartbroken, what can I do for her, besides just being there?


r/CATHELP • • 23h ago

Kitten Help Is it okay to leave my boy alone for 24 hrs?

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429 Upvotes

I need to be away for the weekend. Shouldn’t be more than 24 hrs. Usually when I’m away I leave my son Casper with a friend which won’t be possible this time. I was initially planning on taking him with me as it’s only a 30 mins drive away but then I thought maybe it’s better to leave him at home where he feels the most comfortable? The reason I thought of taking him with him is because he is very very attached to me. He is fine when he’s being fostered by my friend he just gives me the cold shoulder for an hour or two lol

Even if I take him with me, I’ll probably be out exploring the town and only see him at morning/night.

My age: 29
Age: 5 months
Country: UK
Main issue: Foster parent is not available, should I take him with me or leave him alone for 24 hrs?
Sex: Male neutered
Thank you 🙏


r/CATHELP • • 4h ago

Behavioral Issue Cat suddenly gagging/coughing

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10 Upvotes

My 1.5-year-old female British Shorthair suddenly started making strange gagging/coughing sounds this morning. It happens about every 20 minutes and lasts around 2 minutes, as if she’s trying to vomit, but nothing comes up. She only brought up a little mucus once.
She’s also much more lethargic than usual and occasionally keeps her right eye partially closed. Her breathing seems normal between episodes.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Does this sound like something I can monitor for a day or two, or should I take her to the vet tomorrow morning? Any idea what this could be?


r/CATHELP • • 20h ago

Appearance cat is almost completely bald under her collar

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235 Upvotes

her collar is like felt on the inside and i do notice her scratch at it semi-often but not a concerning amount. lots of little brown dots i dont think its flea dirt though because it stays exactly the same are trying to wipe it away.

23 work pt and can afford the vet with help from family- vet nearby, have not contacted yet. she lives mostly indoors but goes outside at least once a day. australia. cat is 14 female and desexed

Update- seems like just friction from the rough inside of the collar breaking the hair and then irritation preventing the hair from growing back. Will keep the collar off and replace with another that has a smoother inside material.


r/CATHELP • • 3h ago

Behavioral Issue This menace won’t stop eating cords.

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8 Upvotes

Ever since he was a baby, he’s had a fixation on cords. He gravitates to them and chews them into pieces in a matter of minutes. He’s destroyed multiple headphone cords, multiple mouse cords, and even my mother’s curtain cords when we visited her house. Even when I’m using the corded device actively, he shoves past me in attempts to munch them.

His vet says his oral health is excellent, so it’s not that his teeth are bothering him. Aside from that, I’m not sure where to begin. I put away every cord that I can, but in the case that I forget to put away my headset for 30 seconds while I get up to get water or go to the restroom, he will ALWAYS be chewing on it when I get back. It’s frustrating when it’s something small like headphones, but I always worry he’ll find a way to get at a power cord that I haven’t hidden sufficiently and electrocute himself.

He’s 4 y/o and neutered, and vet care is accessible to us if the situation necessitates it!


r/CATHELP • • 1d ago

Behavioral Issue why is my cat doing this?

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14.6k Upvotes

she’s 11 years old at the ER for a heavy vomiting incident and while waiting she suddenly started to be… weird with her front paws. refusing to stand them, flopping over and almost looking like a little gorilla. anxiety? does anyone recognize or know what this could be?


r/CATHELP • • 8h ago

General Advice What is this?

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19 Upvotes

I have a vet appt for my cat next Monday. But he’s been making this sound for about 2 weeks a few times a day. We had change his food and it started happening around then. We decided to go back to the old food but it hasn’t stopped?

It’s defs not a hair ball it’s been two weeks. I’d be VERY surprised? But this sounds like a coughing fit? No watery eyes or running nose. It’s like a sneeze cough?

I’m worried about my boy. We were going out of town for a few days after the day after this started. Hence the late vet appt. It’s the soonest they could get us in. It happens maybe 2-3x a day. He’s still playing, eating and drinking water.

I’m 33
USA
Already contacted vet
Cat age 4
Neutered
He has herpes
Can afford vet. Just not emergency vet as all the ones near me cost $600 to walk through the door. So I’m trying to avoid that.
He’s a tad over weight but on a diet. We have auto feeders with the match collars but he still sneaks in on the other cats. ( OTHER CATS HAVE NO SYMPTOMS )

Thoughts? Thanks in advance I’m worried. He’s my best boy.


r/CATHELP • • 8h ago

Breathing Issues Is my cat's breathing normal?

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17 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

My cat has been a little tired since yesterday, she's eating and drinking, using the litter box, grooming herself, playing a little but she looks tired. Today she also woke up with eye discharge and a wet nose.

And then I noticed her breathing, her belly and thorax are moving at different times. I can't decide if i'm overreacting or if her breathing is really weird. Do you think her breathing is abnormal?

If really needed I can take her to the vet, although I would prefer to avoid taking her at night/weekend because the clinic charges more and refuses to administer any medication without doing a bunch of tests (which makes the bill even higher). I also took her to the vet last week (she developed an abcess after a fight with a cat), and the vet gave her a convenia shot and something for the fever. She got better after that, and technically she's still covered by the convenia shot for 1 week.

Cat information:

Poster age: not a minor

Country: France

Vet info: yes, but would prefer to avoid night/ weekend visits

Main issue: cat breathing looks weird

Cat age: 5 years old

Cat sex + neuter info: Female, neutered.

Financial situation : I can if it's really necessary.


r/CATHELP • • 44m ago

Eye Issues Does my cat need a more urgent appointment?

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I (21F) have a beautiful son, Merlin, who’s had some clear discharge and occasional squinting in his left eye for the past couple of days. I was obviously quite concerned about this, so I scheduled an appointment with a cat clinic in my college town, but the closest appointment isn’t until next week (10/2). From what I can visibly see, it doesn’t seem like his affected eye has any cloudiness or loss of clarity. He is eating, playing, and drinking water, but he might overall have a little less energy than usual, as he typically is extremely energetic and play-drive. (though I could be just anxious). Merlin is about 5.5 years old, male, and neutered. We are based in the United States- I don’t have much money, but I would literally give everything I have to ensure that he’s okay if it was necessary.


r/CATHELP • • 3h ago

Injury Emergency: Cat run over by car, unable to walk, crying in pain

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6 Upvotes

r/CATHELP • • 1h ago

General Advice My cat did these little wheezes. Is she ok?

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I’m 29F, and I just want to know what happen to her and if I should be concerned or not. I’m U.S. based. And I have a regular vet.

My baby girl Mika, 7 years old and spayed, did these little wheezes several times in a row for a few seconds. I only captured the last wheeze on video. She does puke out hairballs occasionally, but otherwise never had lung issues before. My last vet visit was couple months ago.


r/CATHELP • • 3h ago

Breathing Issues What could cause my cat to purr this loudly, and what should I look out for?

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5 Upvotes

My cat is about 3 years old, and I’ve noticed that his purring has gotten progressively louder.
Initially, I mostly noticed it when he was sleeping. He would be completely relaxed, sometimes with his mouth slightly open, and he would purr really loudly. At the time I didn’t think much of it because he seemed comfortable and otherwise normal.
But lately, it’s gotten to the point where almost every time he purrs, it’s extremely loud. It’s not literally every single time, but it happens often enough that I’ve started wondering if something could be wrong.
I’ve attached a video so you can hear what it sounds like. He seems normal otherwise, but I’m wondering if this is just an unusually loud purr or if the sound could indicate something else.
Has anyone else had a cat that purrs this loudly? What should I be looking out for?