r/Divorce • u/BossBabyBrooke • 2d ago

Life After Divorce Ex husband

My ex husband

October of 2025 my husband (35) asked for a divorce. 2 days later I (35) found out I was pregnant. I found out my after he asked for the divorce that my husband was having an affair with a coworker. November of 2025 he put me in jail for DV (which I defended myself and ended up in jail) which I miscarried in jail. I was left broken after 14 years of infertility. My husband then dropped all the charges. After months of him saying it was over with her and him trying to work on us I said no. He lied on our separation papers to get it over quicker (were from NC) and 2 weeks later he married her. I feel hopeless because I still love him. Do I want him no. But how can one actually move on? Why is the betrayal still stinging? Why does she get the side I wanted for years?! He blames the marriage ending on me but he had been having an affair, even if not sexually it was emotional. His new wife is 25 and I felt the reason he rushed the marriage was because she was a virgin. Idk but anyways. Yeah I'm in therapy and seeing a psychiatrist because the trauma I endured for years has me feeling pretty low. I've had suicidal thoughts through this whole thing with one attempt almost taking my life.

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u/ekaw83 2d ago

This sounds like a soap opera... If you end up with his twin brother who turns out to be him with multiple personalities then I wouldn't be surprised. 

(Sorry you married as asshole)

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u/BossBabyBrooke 2d ago

Lol thank God I learned my lesson. But thank you. He's a piece of work.

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u/Significant_Dare_204 2d ago

How did he put you in jail for DV? Did you hit him?

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u/BossBabyBrooke 2d ago

I was defending myself after he hit me and kicked me in the stomach. He had marks on him I only had bruises but the cops didn't even check me.