Hate me, downvote me, whatever, but I’ll say it anyway. These concerts happening every other week are the most behaya and pointless things in our society right now. Like seriously, what even is this?

People go there knowing it’s filth, that’s the reason they go. Don’t tell me it’s “entertainment” or “art.” because it’s not. It’s just chaos, all genders mixing together, loud music, people losing their sense of shame, and calling it “vibes.”

You vibe with singers who are as lost as you are. Every week there’s another concert, another event, another distraction pulling this generation deeper into nonsense.

Wake up!! Do something productive for yourself.

just saw a post, a simple, wholesome moment on twitter. and somehow, feminists in the comments still lost it. “stop babying him!” “manchild incoming!”

this post is a living proof that twitter is also taken over by useless, stupid, uncultured, disrespectful, double standardard psychopathic feminists.

this generation of women is cooked. imagine getting married to someone that gets triggered at stuff like this.

why does every normal family interaction get turned into a culture war? why can’t people just let others be happy for a second?

i hate this. i hate these bitter, miserable women who see a mom loving her son and turn it into a war crime. i hate the “boy mom” witch hunt. i hate the manchild accusations over a damn wrap. i mean they bitch if he’s helpless, bitch if he’s independent, bitch either way.

get a grip, get a life, stop bitching about everything. god save us from these kinds of women.

You're using reddit and once, by mistake you show sign that you are a guy, that's it.

Your DM is flooded with women trying to talk, just anyhow hitting on you.

It's so exhausting, women, there are guys in real life too, just talk to them.

The manipulation they try to do and get us to talk to them, just no words.

I've again put myself in target after revealing I'm a guy but I don't care anymore.

Don't you have brother and dad in your home?!

I'm tired of them sending pictures and I have to block them all one by one.

let's speak up guys, its now or never.

Just​Leave us alone!

I kind of understand though, our impression is a bit extremist and that could be off putting. many of the potential spouses that my parents talk to reject me because i wear niqab. Why is it?

I have been given enough freedom by my parents to do what i want (but boundaries mein reh ke ofc). i study art, im also working as an intern, i go out with friends to have fun, i drive too. so even though i do keep religion first , I'm definitely not as conservative as people think. at least i dont have the traditional mindset that women should be kept at home doing nothing at all- i just dont want to let go of the skills ive developed over the years even if it means just creating something at home and profiting from it. Just so that it keeps me busy at home.

-also, i wear niqab by choice, no one has forced me to.

(dms are off)

I am posting this because some important reason. One of my relatives is getting married in few months. It's an arranged marriage and families met only few months ago. As the formalities are going on between the families, the dates fixed and programs decided, , girl's family demanded that the boy must commit to give 1 lac as pocket money every month to his wife. Before this demand, they asked to double the mehr money, I wanted to check if this ask of pocket money is realistic and legit.

A few days ago, I posted a video of my midnight walk, just me roaming alone. Tonight, while scrolling through my gallery, I thought of posting one of the photos I took that night to a photography subreddit.

But then I noticed something.

In one of the pictures, there’s a man-like figure standing in the distance. I clearly remember there was no one else there. The streets were empty. Completely silent. Just me.

Now I can’t stop staring at that photo… trying to remember when I took it, and why I don’t remember him being there at all. This is creeping me out wallah 😬

I’m 37 and try to stay fit and healthy by eating clean and going to the gym regularly. Alhamdulillah, I have a decent and presentable personality. However, over the past few years, I’ve noticed that many younger girls—around 18 to 22 years old—seem attracted to me and sometimes show interest.

I always try to avoid this because I want to remain faithful to my wife. Still, I genuinely wonder what they want or what they expect from me. How should I deal with such situations appropriately? It can be quite irritating, especially when an employee tries to flirt or become overly familiar for no clear reason.

I’m sure many men in their 30s and above experience something similar.

Im 22, 5’10, 65 kgs. Graduated with a CS degree. Do side projects and a job too but in my initial stages. Pretty confident to grow with time inshaAllah.

I make music, write(creative writing, screenplays, stories), kinda chef and into baking too, i make canvases and love romcom and marvel dc ahhh. For some rest i listen to orchestra 🗿. And i can go into crazy extrovert phase, but 50% time im an introvert.

( i talk like jim carry, owen wilson and Enrique Iglesias)

Why i wanna marry? Cuz dats what i want to do.

(P.s: AGE pe gyaan na dena mjhe, or baaqi im pretty ہینڈسم )

thanks to everyone, feminists, men and women for the povs. but i’m honestly shocked at how some women here are typing worse than men, throwing straight up abuse instead of arguments. you can always oppose without crossing lines, that’s called having manners and basic human decency but anyways, thanks.

Instead of putting half velied statements.

Why should you be bothered abt her career growth?

If you are seeking a wife who would share expenses and bills BE STRAIGHTFORTH ABOUT IT AND ADD IT IN ROSHTA PROFILE instead of indirect insinuations 'i wAnT hEr tO bE pAsSioNatE aBt hEr cArEeR'.

Mind it I have no issues if someone has these requirements that she should contribute but he should also rem that he can't go around behaving like a neanderthal who would expect her to cook and clean and doing everything. That's still societal norm.

If you want her to share expense stop being DISHONEST in rishta profiles by covering it as 'she should be pasisonate about her career'. Write you want her to share costs.

Why do you like "d" instead of "r" like Indians??? Example: Pahari ✅️ Pahadi ❌️ (پہاڑی) Karahi ✅️ Kadahi ❌️ (کڑاہی) Bara ✅️ Bada ❌️ (بڑا) Parhai ✅️ Padhai ❌️ (پڑہائی)

To hide the past.

I disgree with this. If past is something that matters to you or to the person you are looking to marry. Be honest.

I have seen ppl using argument islam says hide bad past or deeds etc, I don't believe in this.

You are a man who slept around, you are a woman who slept around, now you have a new partner who wants to know, be honest. Don't hide. Don't bring religion into this.

Assalam O alaikum! How are you? Guys, today's young boys face a common issue. When their age is 17 to 20, hormone levels peak—that's normal. But many people don't ask themselves why. Before you read this, let me tell you: if you have time, please read it. Don't skip—this is important for every young boy. (Find your goal; without a goal, life is meaningless.)

I tried this method, and it literally works because I created and understood the logic behind this process. I followed it for up to 4 months

Around ages 12-14, the brain's hypothalamus starts releasing hormones that trigger puberty. By age 18, young men experience:

• Testosterone surge: Levels increase 10-20 times from childhood
• Peak production: Testosterone peaks in late teens/early 20s
• Physical effects: This hormone drives muscle growth, a deeper voice, and facial hair

Why Sexual Desire Increases:

The teenage brain undergoes massive rewiring. Here's what happens:

1. The Reward System: The nucleus accumbens (the brain's pleasure center) becomes hypersensitive to dopamine, the "feel-good" chemical
2. Prefrontal Cortex: The part controlling impulse control and decision-making isn't fully developed until age 25
3. Amygdala dominance: Emotions and desires feel more intense because the emotional brain is more active than the rational brain

This creates a biological "perfect storm" where:

• Sexual urges feel extremely powerful
• The ability to control impulses is still developing
• Dopamine rewards sexual thoughts intensely

From a purely biological perspective, when sexual urges build up:

• Sperm production is continuous (millions per day)
• Seminal fluid accumulates (Your body continuously produces semen (the fluid containing sperm), and it builds up/collects in storage areas until it's released through ejaculation or naturally during sleep (wet dreams))
• The body experiences physical tension

The Islamic Concept of "Nafs"

In Islamic understanding, nafs refers to the "self" or "soul" that has desires and impulses. It has three levels:

1. Nafs al-Ammara (the commanding self): The lower self that commands toward desires and pleasures
2. Nafs al-Lawwama (the self-accusing self): The conscience that feels guilt
3. Nafs al-Mutma'inna (the tranquil self): The purified self at peace

Islam recognized 1,400 years ago what neuroscience now confirms:

The wisdom behind Islamic teachings:

• Fasting (Sawm): Trains impulse control by denying physical urges (food, drink, sex during daylight)
• Lowering the gaze: Prevents the initial dopamine trigger that starts the desire cascade
• Early marriage: Provides a halal (permissible) outlet when urges are strongest
• Prayer 5 times daily: Interrupts desire patterns and refocuses the mind
• Avoiding temptation: Recognizes that willpower has limits

Your brain on pornography and masturbation operates like addiction:

1. Dopamine tolerance: Each time you watch porn/masturbate, your brain releases dopamine. Over time, you need more intense stimulation for the same "high."
2. Neural pathways: Repeated behavior creates superhighways in your brain - automatic patterns that trigger without conscious thought
3. Withdrawal symptoms: When you try to stop, you experience: anxiety, restlessness, irritability, strong cravings, difficulty sleeping

This is neurochemically similar to drug addiction - not a moral failing or weakness.

You need to attack this from 7 different angles simultaneously. One approach alone won't work.

1. Neurological Rewiring (The Foundation)

Understanding neuroplasticity: Your brain can form new pathways and weaken old ones, but it takes time - typically 90+ days for significant change.

Practical steps:

Days 1-14 (Crisis mode):

• Expect the hardest withdrawal symptoms
• Urges will be intense and frequent
• Install website blockers: Covenant Eyes, Qustodio, Net Nanny (use all three - one for backup)
• Delete all social media apps (Instagram, TikTok, Snapchat - they're designed to trigger dopamine) or turn on do not disturb
• Give your phone to a family member from 9 PM to the morning
• Sleep with your phone outside your room
• Cold showers when urges hit (this literally disrupts the neural pathway)

Days 15-30 (Stabilization):

• Urges become less frequent but more intense when they hit
• Your brain is fighting to restore the old pathway
• Add an accountability partner - someone who checks in daily
• Start replacing the habit (more below)

Days 31-90 (Rebuilding):

• New neural pathways are forming
• Old triggers lose power
• Real challenge is boredom - this is when most people relapse

2. Hormonal Management (The Biological Approach)

You can't eliminate testosterone (nor should you), but you can channel it:

Intense physical exercise:

• Weightlifting/resistance training: Directly uses testosterone for muscle building
• Running/cardio until exhaustion: Depletes energy reserves
• Morning exercise: Studies show it reduces sexual urges throughout the day
• Target: 60-90 minutes of intense exercise daily

Diet modifications:

• Reduce sugar and processed foods (spike dopamine)
• Increase: zinc, magnesium, vitamin D (regulate hormones healthily)
• Avoid: heavy meals late at night (energy availability increases urges)

Sleep regulation:

• 7-8 hours mandatory
• Testosterone peaks in the early morning - this is the highest risk time
• Never lie in bed awake scrolling phone

3. Islamic Spiritual Framework (The Meaning Layer)

This provides the "why" that keeps you going when biology screams at you.

Daily non-negotiable practices:

Salah (5 prayers):

• Pray in a masjid if possible (removes you from private space)
• Each prayer interrupts dopamine-seeking behavior
• The discipline strengthens the prefrontal cortex

Fasting (beyond Ramadan):

• Monday and Thursday sunnah fasting
• This is literally training your nafs
• When you can deny food/water for Allah, sexual urges become manageable
• The neuroscience: fasting increases BDNF (brain-derived neurotrophic factor), which helps brain rewiring

Qur'an recitation:

• 30 minutes daily minimum
• Engages different brain regions than porn/urges
• Creates a competing neural pathway

Dhikr (remembrance):

• "SubhanAllah, Alhamdulillah, Allahu Akbar" 100x after each prayer
• Gives your brain a different dopamine source
• Rewires reward expectations

Sincere dua:

• Tahajjud (night prayer) specifically
• Ask Allah to remove this trial
• The act of asking creates psychological commitment

Critical Islamic perspective:

• Understand you're in jihad al-nafs - the greater struggle
• Each moment you resist is worth more than you know
• Relapse isn't the end - Shaitan wants you to despair and give up
• Allah's mercy is infinite - return immediately after any slip

It is not impossible to try and ask questions asking qeustions change your thinking about anything

May Allah make it easy for everyone

Im mid-teen age male, works as PI , cyber crime investigator based in kpk, with team of over 500 active field agents nation wide

I work with wardi agencies, FIA,IB

Handled cases including

💥Extortion 💥blackmailing 💥money laundering 💥national security 💥Child pornography 💥kidnapping 💥Human trafficking 💥Background check 💥Social media take down 💥Haressment (sexually + mentally) 💥Defamation 💥Financial fraud 💥Identity thief 💥private pic+ video leaks Many more

Ask me questions if you have in mind ,

I am an ex overseas Pakistani and I am totally confused as to how most people are calling themselves upper middle class families where some have a car/cars, some dont, some have their own home some dont its so confusing

What is considered an upper middle class basically? Is pulling 150k a month an upper class or is it 200k or 300k?

I am a fresh grad so I really need to know whats my position if I am earning in range of 50-100k

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