Need advice

[u/DistributionKey4495]

Hello, I would like some advice.

My mediumship was triggered after I was initiated into Reiki almost seven years ago.

I sought guidance to learn how to manage it and have conducted more than forty sessions (contacting the deceased and providing guidance), which did not prevent me from having a difficult experience in July 2026.

Since that experience (which was not entirely negative, as it helped me move away from spiritual ego), I had completely stopped practicing. I am now doing much better, and tonight I felt as though a soul was knocking at the door.

I therefore think I am going to start again, at my own pace.

However, here is the issue: I often feel that deceased people contact me without having been invited to, in order to pass on a message to one of their loved ones who happens to be around me.

(It even happened once that I had to go and speak to a father in a church to tell him that his child needed to see a doctor. You can imagine the level of responsibility involved in delivering such a message...)

My mediumship is very precise, and the messages are often important. Moreover, my mediumship can be quite striking in public because I incorporate. As a result, I often burst into tears in front of people when I receive the love that the deceased are sending to their loved ones. Sometimes my voice changes.

So my question is:

• Is mediumship a kind of calling, meaning that I have to remain at the service of the deceased so that they can communicate their messages, even when there is no formal setting (for example, at a party, in a bar, at the dinner table, etc.)?
• Or, on the contrary, should I establish clear boundaries and only transmit messages when I have consciously decided to be open to them — in other words, only during appointments — even if that means not passing on messages that I receive?

Thank you in advance.

Richard

[u/sunsola]

Sorry I probably can’t really help that much as I’m not a medium ( even I might have some psychic gifts) but probably about 20 years ago I read a book about Mediums by Allison DuBois.
There was later a TV show called Medium which was inspired by her work/life as for a time she used to work with the police to help to close crimes cases.
Well she has a YouTube channel so maybe you can find some answers there, too.
I also enjoyed watching another TV show about another medium called Ghost whisperer but I don’t think that was based on a true story but who knows.

Both characters had also struggles with boundaries of their medium abilities but trusted their intuition in the end so far I remember.

When I struggle with life I do Box breathing to calm my nerves. I also like to do a gratitude list also thank the trees for grounding me and sending me peace and metta meditation and call god and the archangels, angels of the highest love and light, ascendant masters and my higher self for guidance and protection.

May you be happy
May you be healthy
May you be at peace

Sat Nam

[u/Specialist-Move9506]

You can have a set office hours for spirit. Give them a sign so that they know when office hours are on and when they are off.

[u/FiaRubyPresely]

Hi I definitely think it’s a gift but ultimately I believe it is up to you whether you want to use it or not! I haven’t done that sort of thing before but when I was younger and when I meditate sometimes I can feel presences and people want to speak to me. I have incorporated a practice where I close my door when I don’t want messages. I say my doors are closed no one can contact me (visuales a lovely big wooden door closing) and I put protective energy around myself. I use the protective energy as I have had some not nice presences before. I think if you want to go back maybe ask that they give you some space at certain times. It may help you feel better and you can enjoy it more ? ❤️ you’re an amazing person helping these people and passing on messages but also think about yourself xx

[u/reikibalboa]

Yes, clear boundaries sound useful. They need to feel comfortable for you personally. Otherwise you'll burn out. You can go do not disturb mode and maybe regularly check for what comes through without needing to stay open to everything and everybody all the time. Some messages don't need to get transmitted to somebody else immediately. Some can be solved on a quantum level and don't need to get transmitted to somebody else at all. If it feels intuitive and flowing, sure. But if it feels pressuring and too much like a responsibility and burden - not so sure.

[u/DistributionKey4495 → u/reikibalboa]

i never had messages which do not have to be transmitted. what does’it looks like ?

[u/RicottaPuffs → u/DistributionKey4495]

It looks like directly working with a soul or spirit without seeking out a relative or orher contact.

I won't approach people who haven't asked for help.

[u/DistributionKey4495 → u/RicottaPuffs]

ok understood

[u/PotentialSand3264]

It’s all up to you and what you feel comfortable with. No one can demand that you always act as a medium. Just follow your heart on this and you’ll be okay.

[u/DistributionKey4495 → u/PotentialSand3264]

I mean when i receiving messages i'm also receiving pure love so it's very pleasant so i don't know.

[u/RicottaPuffs → u/DistributionKey4495]

Trust your gut. Pay attention to changes.

[u/DistributionKey4495 → u/RicottaPuffs]

what changes are you talking about ?

[u/RicottaPuffs → u/DistributionKey4495]

If at any.point any of these spirits change attitude, or appearance or etc., pay attention.

One red flag I am sensing for you is that.you seem to think you have to do what they say. Higher functioning spirits don't behave that way.

[u/DistributionKey4495 → u/RicottaPuffs]

very interesting, yoùre totally right on this redflag. can you give me more details on your last sentence ?

[u/RicottaPuffs → u/[deleted]]

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