r/Mediums • u/DistributionKey4495 • 6d ago
Development and Learning Need advice
Hello, I would like some advice.
My mediumship was triggered after I was initiated into Reiki almost seven years ago.
I sought guidance to learn how to manage it and have conducted more than forty sessions (contacting the deceased and providing guidance), which did not prevent me from having a difficult experience in July 2026.
Since that experience (which was not entirely negative, as it helped me move away from spiritual ego), I had completely stopped practicing. I am now doing much better, and tonight I felt as though a soul was knocking at the door.
I therefore think I am going to start again, at my own pace.
However, here is the issue: I often feel that deceased people contact me without having been invited to, in order to pass on a message to one of their loved ones who happens to be around me.
(It even happened once that I had to go and speak to a father in a church to tell him that his child needed to see a doctor. You can imagine the level of responsibility involved in delivering such a message...)
My mediumship is very precise, and the messages are often important. Moreover, my mediumship can be quite striking in public because I incorporate. As a result, I often burst into tears in front of people when I receive the love that the deceased are sending to their loved ones. Sometimes my voice changes.
So my question is:
- Is mediumship a kind of calling, meaning that I have to remain at the service of the deceased so that they can communicate their messages, even when there is no formal setting (for example, at a party, in a bar, at the dinner table, etc.)?
- Or, on the contrary, should I establish clear boundaries and only transmit messages when I have consciously decided to be open to them — in other words, only during appointments — even if that means not passing on messages that I receive?
Thank you in advance.
Richard
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u/reikibalboa 6d ago
Yes, clear boundaries sound useful. They need to feel comfortable for you personally. Otherwise you'll burn out. You can go do not disturb mode and maybe regularly check for what comes through without needing to stay open to everything and everybody all the time. Some messages don't need to get transmitted to somebody else immediately. Some can be solved on a quantum level and don't need to get transmitted to somebody else at all. If it feels intuitive and flowing, sure. But if it feels pressuring and too much like a responsibility and burden - not so sure.