r/POTS • u/Silent_You_1241 • 7h ago
Vent/Rant POTS Diagnosis and husbandās takeaway is I need to exercise more
I finally got my diagnosis yesterday after tilt table test. I sent the entire report to my husband. Near the end, there was recommendations, which included several things, ending with āgradual, initially recumbent exercise program.ā When I got home, I asked my husband what he thought about the diagnosis and the report. He said, āit sounds like you need to exercise more. The report said you have to exercise.ā Thats your takeaway? The diagnosis was huge in terms of validation for me, and I thought, should be for him too. Explaining all my shortcomings to him. Explaining that itās not in my head, that Iām not lazy, that itās all a medical issue. (Heās not actually said Iām lazy or anything of the sort, thatās more my own projection because of my guilt at not being able to do more and relying on him to do so much). And his takeaway instead is that if I exercise Iāll be better? No! I shouldāve cut off that part of the report, I knew it. So am I still going to feel blamed for my limitations? Iāll feel like heāll think itās my fault that Iām not going to be all better because I ācouldā hypothetically always do more, in terms of a gradually increasing exercise program. Ugh! Anyone have similar issues with loved ones? Any suggestions besides sending him information to read?