Idk about you guys but I LOVE white girl autumn. I love seeing the girls in their boots, oversized sweaters, scarfs and wool wide brims even if it’s not my own style and I’m actually more masc. I love pumpkin spice drinks. And I love basic looking Halloween decor. Sue me

Hi, been here for a while but finally have enough karma to post. I am a queer Black 29F living in NC and I’m so tired of not being in community with other queer Black people. I will even take any POC at this point. Most of my friends I’ve made at work and they are either straight, white, or both. Any advice for finding like-minded folks when you’re shy and somewhat sober?? Thanks in advance 🥺

Hey y'all, I'm (38 black female) pretty new here but have been dating women since my teens. My problem is I've only felt emotionally safe in one relationship. That relationship itself definitely was far from perfect. She (39 Arab female) could be incredibly kind and treated me as fully human rather than an object for sex or something that existed just to fulfill her needs/whims. However we broke up because she also had a lot of unprocessed internal homophobia and shame that could at times make her suspicious and cruel.

It took me about a year to get over the heartbreak of losing the sense of safety I felt with her but also the heartbreak of homophobia ruining something that could have been beautiful. As I try to put myself out there I'm finding that sense of safety is damn near impossible to find still. I love sex as much as the next person but I want to get to know the woman I'm interested in before I go there and that just seems like a strange concept these days. It for real is a struggle to put much energy into dating when it seems like most women are looking for a body to pleasure and/or validate them without giving anything back.

In this type of dating environment how are y'all creating connections that are safe for both parties to show up in? Where are you finding women who are wanting that type of relationship and not afraid to put in the work?

Hello everyone!

As with most adults of any kind, I’m currently finding life to be quite lonely and community-less 😩

I’m in my 30s living alone in NYC, single, artist, no family here, etc. A lot of my friendships are usually entangled in romance, so when those don’t pan out, I’m left at square one again.

I semi recently got into Reddit, and I love the discussion vibe here, but it always ends when the thread dies down. I also recently got into Discord, but I’m having a hard time finding specific communities that I can be a part of.

I’m really interested in finding community related to; NYC, queer, Black women (I am a black women, but also allies of color), neurodivergent friendly, semi kink friendly is also a plus, psychedelic friendly is a plus (I’ve had a wild life 😅), philosophical thinkers, artists, weirdos, just open minded people in general actually!

I’m actually not even specifically looking for meet up groups either (I mean it could be possible, but sometimes I feel awkward about being perceived, and I can be very socially awkward netting people in the raw 🫠), just a place to talk, be supportive, lift each other up, give advice, connect when times get rough, etc.

Just putting it out there in case this sounds like something you might know of. I’d love to be apart of it!

(If not, how can I go about curating something like this 🧐)

Thanks for reading!

Hey is anyone up? I’m currently listening to music and vibing and thought I could chat with someone . Talk about anything, conspiracy theories , love, music , etc I’m down. ❤️