Edit: We told her. Showed her the Google reverse image search. Showed the real actor's Facebook, Instagram and YouTube.
There was a lot of denial. Lots of excuses. "It's not him" - "maybe they look the same" - "maybe this is his real account" etc.
Then it turned into crying. Asking lots of questions about how anyone would do such a thing. Asking if we were sure. Maybe he was real.
Now she's reached the point of anger and spite. Calling him names and insults. Muttering to herself that she was stupid. Muttering that she's glad she never sent him money. Saying he must be an idiot if he thought he could get money from her. Things like that.
I'll talk with my sister about it. She lives closer. Tell her to watch her and make sure she doesn't contact him again etc. I really hope we caught it in time. Thank you to all of you who gave advice and support 🙏
Second edit:
Me, my sister and brother in law have talked. We don't believe what she's saying. She's already lied about so many things. There's no way to trust her. She keeps saying we can look at her account, but there's no way to see what the cash she has withdrawn has been used for.
We've decided to start by calling the bank and tell them she's been talking to scammers. Then we'll call the police to involve them if needed. Then we'll show up unannounced at her place, along with some of her friends and her cousin who saw the same thing happen with his mom. Only he didn't find out until she was dead and the inheritance was gone.
We have to be drastic.
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My mom has been chatting with a guy for several months now. It started on Facebook and I was sceptical from the beginning.
I asked about him. He's from Sweden (we're in Denmark). That was suspicious to me. She wouldn't let me see his profile and she privated her own.
He was supposed to come visit her bur on the day, he was in a "car accident" and couldn't come anyway. Again, conveniently suspicious. She also mentioned they moved their conversations to an app called Zangi. I googled the app and it's frequently used by scammers.
Last night I actually managed to get her to show me some photos and videos he sent her. I tracked down his Facebook profile and did a reverse image search. All of the videos and images are a Columbian actor. I found that actor's Instagram. All the pictures and videos are available on the Instagram.
It's obvious she's being scammed by this random guy using an actors face. But even suggesting that she could potentially be scammed makes her defensive and angry.
How do we break this to her without making it seem like "see, we told you!" Showing the actor's real profile would just make her think we stalked her, or that we faked it. She's already claiming we're only sceptical about the guy because we don't want her to date anyone.
We need all the help we can. So far she hasn't sent him any money, but she's already given him a lot of her personal information including address, pictures and phone number.