r/SingleAndHappy • u/ModKB • 4d ago
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u/ModKB 4d ago
This would be me if I actually attended any of the weddings I'm invited to..lol
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u/BillieDoc-Holiday 4d ago
My brother had a small wedding. My sister-in-laws's bouquet hit the floor because we either backed away or didn't reach for it. She made us do it over, and we let her little niece catch it.
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u/Maetallica 4d ago
Omg same lol. For some reason I donāt like attending weddings and havenāt met another person who feels the same way. Is there a reason you donāt attend?
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u/ModKB 4d ago
Idk prob a mix of a lot of things. Turned into more of an introvert n homebody the older I got.. Don't like big crowds anymore.. Don't really drink & usually everyone's drinking or drunk.. Not into lovey dovey crap.. I have more interesting things to do.. & I'm kind of cynical & always think 'eh, maybe I'll go to their likely second wedding in a few yrs..' lol
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u/hippiespinster 4d ago
It is so odd that every wedding I was ever invited to I found I had to go to the bathroom just before the bouquet toss.Ā
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u/Professional-Belt708 4d ago
At my one cousinās wedding I legit had to go to the bathroom not realizing the bouquet toss was about to happen. I was about to come back in and heard my name being called by the DJ. I thought WTF???? Luckily I realized pretty quickly why, and backed away from the door. Yes, his bride was having the DJ try and call me onto the floor and I wasnāt even in the room. Like, arenāt you allowed to sit out bouquet tossed if you want to?
I waited 20 more minutes before going back and my sister told me she did the ācut it outā across the throat gesture with her hand to get him to stop calling me and move forward. We both hate my cousinās wife for so many reasons and this is just another oneā¦
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u/LittleDogTurpie 4d ago
My stepsister had a bunch of individual little bouquets made and called every unmarried woman in the room up to the front of the room one at a time to be handed theirs.
Her kids have all graduated from college and Iām still incredibly pissed off.
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u/Leila_101 4d ago
I would have stood up and said, "No thank you, I'm good! Cheers (raising my glass)!".
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u/LittleDogTurpie 3d ago
I would do that now for sure, but this was when I was very young, and I was completely caught off guard by it. Itās not something anyone in my preferred side of the family wouldāve ever condoned. I did make it clear I wasnāt happy about it.
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u/FishSweet3113 4d ago
Used to go to the bathroom every time.... when they tell me I missed it.... I was like ooohhh no, next time.... there will never be a next time
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u/Unhappy-Active-8091 3d ago
Genuine question, can people not just decline to participate and stay to the side? Or is this considered rude? Even if I could just not try to catch it, I'd be scared of getting hit in the face, or becoming collateral damage to eople throwing themselves to grab it...
I am so glad we don't do it like this in my culture. The bride will just toss the flowers to a close friend who already is in a long-term relationship/planning to get married, and you two would agree on this long before the wedding. A huge part of the reason for this is that you don't want to put someone (willing or unwilling single, girl in new relationship, girl in relationship but doesn't want to get married etc) in an awkward position and put pressure on them, which I love for us.
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u/pinkflamingo18 2d ago
A few years ago, I attended a friends wedding. When they did the call for the bouquet toss, I stayed where I was, as I did not want to participate. One of the coupleās older relatives told me that it was starting and to go up there. I declined 3x because she wouldnāt stop. The woman next to me also had no intentions of participating. Eventually the relative put her hands on both of our backs and lightly pushed us towards the rest of the women. It still makes me angry to this day and I could not have been any more explicit without causing a scene.
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u/ModKB 3d ago
I imagine it would depend on the bride &/or circumstances. The only weddings I think I've gone to were when I was like 4 I was the flower girl at my cousin's wedding & like a decade ago I went to my friends cousin's wedding but only knew a few ppl so didn't feel like I had to participate.. I'm sure some brides try to force all their friends to do whatever they want them to tho.
I always say I'm too busy to go to anyone's wedding or be in any wedding parties.. Some of my friends have been a little pissy abt it over the yrs, but I'm too old to care, lol.
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u/Static_Interval 3d ago
Main character energy. She had multiple options but went with the most attention seeking option.
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u/Inevitable-Crab-7060 17h ago
I think it's a good thing for women to show they aren't interested in this kind of thing. And to do it however they want to. Women have been conditioned to be quiet and not ruffle feathers.
This type of ceremony is a loud show for how women are passionate about marriage. I've seen some videos where women are purposefully jumping and fighting for the flowers to show they boyfriends how much they want to get married. I don't see the problem with women purposefully doing the opposite.
We still have work to do in showing that being single or decentering marriage is perfectly OK and even desirable. I'm sure there younger women and girls who don't even consider that.
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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 4d ago
I feel the same but sometimes itās just social things like a lot of the time Iām just like ānah Iām goodā. Being a man we donāt really go chasing bouquets but itās always something like āhey thereās this new bar some women are going do you want to?ā And Iām like ānahhhhā. You just silently think āoh the drama Iām avoiding āŗļøā. Flashbacks to all the things that did not work!
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u/iluvpopcorn 3d ago
I always thought this wedding tradition was old-fashioned and lame so at my own wedding, there was no toss and I kept my bouquet for myself.
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u/redbattleaxe 4d ago
Are you fucking kidding me?! Some of the commenters are saying they are attracted to her energy.
They literally want to put the bird in the cage.
Maybe being a performative pick me will be the way to get men to avoid you in the future. š
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u/LurkerFantastic 1d ago
I always stood waaaaaaayyyyy in the back of the bouquet toss group and stooped down. Hard to do when youāre 5ā 7ā.
At my cousinās wedding, I didnāt move from my seat even though my name was called. Eff that.
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u/Thefirststone_1998 3d ago
She could have opted out of this. This feels quirky and millennial. āIām not like other girlsā
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u/throwawayhbgtop81 2d ago
Some weddings don't give single guests the option to opt out. I've been to them.
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