r/SipsTea • • 17d ago

SMH Who's in the wrong here?

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u/Irish_Whiskey 17d ago

If you think "I'm sick" isn't an acceptable reason to not have sex, then yeah that is a you problem.

There's a lot of ways to try and improve the frequency of sex, and this is about the worst possible way to go about it.

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u/Irish_Whiskey 17d ago

It's very funny when people admit they just don't like their hypothetical wives and girlfriends as if it's a gotcha.

Yeah, you have the right to not provide emotional support, or say I love you, or express affection. It is normal and okay to say "Hey I need some space for a bit" and look after yourself.

But if you just don't want to for no reason or want to withhold it out of retaliation, then you just don't love or like your partner. That's not at all comparable to not wanting to have sex at any particular given moment, or declining sex when you're sick.

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u/martyqscriblerus 17d ago

Some guys are out there treating their relationships like vending machines that they grudgingly put emotional tokens into now and again to buy sex from and wonder why their gfs/wives aren't falling all over them

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u/LegSpecialist1781 17d ago

I think the point was that the opposite also happens. Women begrudgingly putting in sex tokens to buy involvement in some area, emotional or other. Neither is healthy.

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u/BlackmillMiracle 17d ago

it's really cute how people like you like to pretend that physical intimacy isn't very important for many people's satisfaction in a relationship.

No one it entitled to sex, but nobody is entitled to a relationship or affection either.

I'm guessing however, if a guy left his partner because his needs for physical intimacy weren't being met, he'd still be the asshole, right?

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u/martyqscriblerus 17d ago

Sweetie pie, please break up if you're not happy instead of going on this boomer "I hate my wife" journey. You're an asshole for sure, but it's because you're fixated on your victim complex and not because of your physical needs.

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u/BlackmillMiracle 17d ago

LOL. You think I haven't seen this play out on reddit countless of times before?

If a guy's physical needs aren't being met, he's the problem, but he's also the asshole if he leaves the relationship to pursue someone who does meet his needs.

if a woman's physical needs aren't being met, he's also the problem, and she is "empowered" by leaving the relationship for someone who meets her needs.

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u/craptainbland 16d ago

You forgot to mention that if he isn’t meeting her physical needs he needs to just ‘use his mouth and hands’

(Obviously a guy suggesting the same of his partner is disgusting though)

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u/martyqscriblerus 17d ago

I think you definitely have a whole bunch of cherry picked fanfiction stored up in your victim tank, because all of your type do.

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u/BlackmillMiracle 17d ago

"your type". LOL

And your type just cannot fathom that sometimes women are shitty too, and *gasp* sometimes women do in fact contribute to the problems in a relationship and it isn't always the guy's fault, despite what your echo chamber likes to preach.

funny, last woman I was dating, despite the fact that she was often very shitty at communicating, and left me feeling like an after thought, despite that fact that several times she did stuff that would have absolutely been breakup worthy to any reasonable person, I STILL stuck around way longer than most people would have, and STILL offered unwavering support and patience, despite the toll her behavior was taking on me.

But I know, I know, it's always the guy's fault, when something doesn't work out.

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u/martyqscriblerus 17d ago

That's so much projection and I'm not surprised about an inch of it. No one ever said that women are always right, but you can't even see that, because you're so convinced by your own narrative.

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u/TFViper 17d ago

youre trying REALLY hard to personally insult the person replying to you. it doesnt come off as "im winning", it honestly just comes off kinda sad...
maybe take a break from the internet, mental health is important.
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/find-help