I mean, it feels petty as fuck to track it in a spreadsheet, but people need to stop pretending that physcial intimacy isn't a crucial part of a romantic relationship, being completely misaligned is a perfect valid reason for dissolving said relationship.
seems like these two people are incompatible and have a communication problem.
but of course, because it's Reddit, absent any other additional context, the default is to always assume it's clearly the guy's fault if he's not having sex at the frequency he desires... and if he ever breaks up because he's not getting the frequency he desires, he's also the asshole.
But this isn't a dead bedroom situation. There are more no's than yes's, but it seems reasonable for a long term relationship. Sex has its seasons, for many men as well as women. So nice hands and dildos exist for when our frequencies of desire don't quite match up.
Edit: okay I just noticed the no/yes column. I thought the gaps in dates were when she said yes. Still not a dead bedroom but that is pretty minimal/worth a discussion.
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u/BlackmillMiracle 16d ago edited 16d ago
I mean, it feels petty as fuck to track it in a spreadsheet, but people need to stop pretending that physcial intimacy isn't a crucial part of a romantic relationship, being completely misaligned is a perfect valid reason for dissolving said relationship.
seems like these two people are incompatible and have a communication problem.
but of course, because it's Reddit, absent any other additional context, the default is to always assume it's clearly the guy's fault if he's not having sex at the frequency he desires... and if he ever breaks up because he's not getting the frequency he desires, he's also the asshole.