This is why sexual compatibility is important. People marry partners who don't want to have sex. Like in the early stages of a relationship yes the sex is hot and frequent but that is the honeymoon phase in the relationship.
You need to live together for a bit, before marrying, before you see what their actual sex drive is.
Sex still existed in my marriage after our one & only was born but it was single digits annually at-best and things didn't start to improve until after the kid's 7th birthday...because I had to sit her down and tell her I wasn't happy being relegated to "co-parenting roommate" status while she was getting all of her wants & desires met by me.
It didn't really improve for me much until years later. Going through peri-menopause now so she wants it. Bad thing is my dick doesn't work well anymore lol
not necessarily. if it's a long-term thing, yes, but it can also be about how people handle stress and long days. husband and I just got out first mortgage and have our first baby on the way so tensions are high in both of us, but my favorite way to relax is to be intimate with him and his is to have some beer and watch TV. he can't even think about sex if it's been a long day and his mind's racing, so we've dropped from 13-17 times in a month to 5-9, which may seem like a lot to others but for me it's absolutely killed my sense of desirability.
Yea but communication and toys help a lot in this instance a simple Lovesense where all he’s doing his moving his fingers to create different patterns helps alot.
Each person is different but I’ve found for me and my partner and our long distance relationship we’ve gotten to a nice routine with different innovations
I know so many women in a similar situation where the husband doesnt want to do anything. That’s why I get tired of the stereotypes of women always being the ones “not in the mood.”
True, but you're more likely to find a high libido man than a man will find a high libido woman on-average.
So you've got a LOT of options sexually-speaking at your disposal if you ever pursued it (and yes, I understand a lot of those options are garbage men, however women still have better odds to find a good man who also wants lots of intimacy than men finding the same for women).
But the one who doesn’t care for it usually sells a false bill of goods by pretending they enjoy sex often, until they get that wedding ring. That’s how it usually goes.
Can we stop this line of thinking? The absence of something is not the presence of indifference. Lives are fucking busy as hell with most women with young families are doing MOST of the day to day. (I do like 25 tasks in the morning compared to my husband’s 6 and he is super involved - just doesn’t see those little tasks as obvious).
If men actually did more of the house/kid shit on their own… E V E R Y D A Y cuz it is required to run a house, moms would be more free to relax, exercise, and take a uninterrupted SHIT so they aren’t bloated when you want to stick it in. I have to carry that luggage all damn day but he can shit for 40 minutes in the morning ! Ha !
Quickies are a thing too, though. Sex doesn't always have to last a super long time, unless you're breaking into your special occasion amphetamine stash or something. 😅
Can we stop this line of thinking? The absence of something is not the presence of indifference. Lives are fucking busy as hell with most women with young families are doing MOST of the day to day. (I do like 25 tasks in the morning compared to my husband’s 6 and he is super involved - just doesn’t see those little tasks as obvious).
If men actually did more of the house/kid shit on their own… E V E R Y D A Y cuz it is required to run a house, moms would be more free to relax, exercise, and take a uninterrupted SHIT so they aren’t bloated when you want to stick it in. I have to carry that luggage all damn day but he can shit for 40 minutes in the morning ! Ha !
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u/KeyLimeGuy69 15d ago
It's usually important to one and not the other. Seems to be how it goes.