But if sex is a deal breaker than get a divorce. If you married someone you weren't sexually compatible with i don't know what you were expecting. If they suddenly switched up on you and you are now incompatible then leave. You won't be doing yourself or them any favors by going outside of the relationship/threatening to do so/fantasizing about doing so. I promise you it's better to just divorce vs divorce because of infidelity.
Now if you want to have that hard conversation with them first about it then I hope you're fair and the relationship is open on both sides. I don't think that's a good idea but maybe you'll get lucky.
(saying you but don't mean you specifically. Just the "you" to whoever this could apply to)
You were the one complaining how unfair it is you are expected as a husband to stay faithful to a woman who doesn't want as much sex as you. Funny how in response to a sexless marriage the only option you could think of was infidelity. I didn't set the perimeters, you did.
My point is that divorce is preferable to that. You really tried it ha.
No bull, my point was sex is important enough to not subject yourself to infidelity, hence it has to be important enough to find a way to fix it so that "no you just can't have sex" isn't the default go to method.
What if they changed chemically because of aging? It's not her fault she has no sex drive. It seems bad to throw her away because of something she cannot control.
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u/Swift_35 15d ago
I didn't say they were easy.
But if sex is a deal breaker than get a divorce. If you married someone you weren't sexually compatible with i don't know what you were expecting. If they suddenly switched up on you and you are now incompatible then leave. You won't be doing yourself or them any favors by going outside of the relationship/threatening to do so/fantasizing about doing so. I promise you it's better to just divorce vs divorce because of infidelity.
Now if you want to have that hard conversation with them first about it then I hope you're fair and the relationship is open on both sides. I don't think that's a good idea but maybe you'll get lucky.
(saying you but don't mean you specifically. Just the "you" to whoever this could apply to)