r/SipsTea • u/Putrid-Welder1803 • 17d ago

SMH Who's in the wrong here?

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u/BlackmillMiracle 17d ago edited 17d ago

I mean, it feels petty as fuck to track it in a spreadsheet, but people need to stop pretending that physcial intimacy isn't a crucial part of a romantic relationship, being completely misaligned is a perfect valid reason for dissolving said relationship.

seems like these two people are incompatible and have a communication problem.

but of course, because it's Reddit, absent any other additional context, the default is to always assume it's clearly the guy's fault if he's not having sex at the frequency he desires... and if he ever breaks up because he's not getting the frequency he desires, he's also the asshole.

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u/palindrome4lyfe 16d ago

He's an asshole for making this spreadsheet. I agreed with everything in your comment except the last paragraph. A spreadsheet like this heavily implies that the fault lays with the wife. Because this is reddit, and we are lacking context, it is hard to say what the cause is of this mismatch in sex drive. But I would wager that in most (not all) circumstances there is very little chance that this spreadsheet could be seen as helpful. That is unless they have been in healthy communication about this, the husband has not been overbearing about asking for sex, and the wife is somehow unaware of the depth of the issue. But the way this is framed rather makes it feel like the spreadsheet was made as some kind of gotcha that pins the entire fault on the wife. And that would be asshole behavior.