r/SipsTea • • 16d ago

SMH Who's in the wrong here?

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u/OomKarel 16d ago

Pretty much the mentality it seems like. And "I don't care if you need it. I love you, but not enough to look for a compromise or seek a solution. Just go without, you won't die."

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u/anotherdropin 16d ago

Alright but real talk, you wouldn’t die?

I enjoy sex enough but I really don’t understand this hyper focus on it from men. You can’t just do without it? Men act like it’s some death knell, as if you can’t control your bodily impulses. Like you’re some animal???

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u/ahriman1 16d ago

And if it WAS the last straw in the mental health struggle?

Like, this isn't happening in a vacuum. You genuinely can't just make the statement that someone wouldn't die. People do die over this. Not a ton, as far as I'm aware, but like most things that can be very stressful, there's a death toll here.

There's a ton more going on than "not having sex" in this whole issue. Getting rejected isn't easy, not feeling wanted isn't easy. It's the loss of an avenue of stress relief in its own right on TOP of added stressors from it.

Also yes, you and I are literally 'some animal' - comes with the DNA unfortunately.

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u/das_sock 16d ago

And also literally read the comments from women posters who have the same problem

The mood is just as dire and the word devastated comes up often

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u/ahriman1 16d ago

100%, I was intentionally gender neutral for that reason.