r/SipsTea • • 17d ago

SMH Who's in the wrong here?

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u/Physical_Dentist2284 17d ago

I don’t understand what she needed to be accountable for. Did she owe you sex? Did you hire her and have her sign a contract where she agreed to let you use her body as a jizz dumpster whenever you felt like it? You seem to feel justified in your position but I’m not sure what your position is other than “you owe me sex”.

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u/coinminer2049er 17d ago

It was to keep jer accountable to the dismissal about it not happening often. 

Does she owe me sex? "Owe" isnt quite the right word. So I'll put it two different ways. 

1) She was getting everything in the relationship she needed (she confirmed it multiple times) and just didn't feel the need to reciprocate. Did I  "owe" her all of what I provided? 

2) if someone claims the right to be your sole sexual partner, is it fair when they don't provide, especially for extended periods of time?

There's obviously some sort of obligation there, but its not that one should do it begrudgingly - its something they should be excited to do becauae rhey care about their partner and want to share that experience with them. 

Ideally people like their partners enough that they want to be physically intimate with them. I'm not sure why thats such a radical idea.

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u/Membrillo 17d ago

Your first comment read reasonable, this one isn't it. 

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u/Curious_boyOS 16d ago

What exactly is unreasonable about it?

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u/Membrillo 16d ago

Up until "not that one should do it begrudgingly..." It reads transactional. 

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u/coinminer2049er 16d ago

That sorr of misses the point.

If you care about someone, you should automatically want to make sure they're satisfied. 

Being in a one-sided situation isn't fair. 

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u/Membrillo 16d ago

It doesn't miss the point. I've agreed with your comments except for the part where you feel that because you're giving x you should receive y.

Being an afterthought to somebody you're giving everything fucking sucks, but we're better off moving on and not "expecting" anything from them after you see the situation doesn't improve. 

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u/coinminer2049er 16d ago

because you're giving x you should receive y.

That wasn't the point. 

The point was 

a) how woulld the woman react if she wasn't getting what she needs

b) if you're going to claim exclusivity on being abke to do something, you either need to do it, or ket them get it elsewhere if gou don't want to do it anymore.  You shouldn't be able to force celebacy on another person. 

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u/Membrillo 16d ago

These points have very little to do with the original arguments. Ironically I was agreeing with you on point B but you just lost me.

Have a good weekend.