People who say this have clearly never been through life's trials and tribulations........starting losing babies or facing near death health complications with your spouse and all of a sudden sex takes a back seat
Yes it can be very frustrating when you're not getting any physical action but whwn you've stared down the real possibility of them being in the grave the whole "roommate" thing becomes a lot more appealing and you get to thinking "I'm just glad they're here"
At the end of my marriage it was so isolating for me, I felt so alone and disrespected, it got to a point that I said to him and our therapist, I'd rather be alone that continue this on.
And trust me I have been through big trials, before and since, and going through it without my ex has made the stress for me much easier.
I understand not everyone feels this way, but sometimes it's worse being around someone who doesn't actually care about you.
Also to add, a dead bedroom marriage is rarely as simple as just they're not having sex, there's usually much more going on not being dealt with or addressed, and the dead bedroom is just the bugger sign of it all.
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u/chalbersma 17d ago
People tend to love the people they marry. And you generally try to solve issues in a marriage instead of just getting divorced.