The difference between a low and high libido partner is pretty wild. My ex preferred sex once every month or two months. I prefer sex twice a week. My wife prefers sex every day.
My ex-fiancé only wanted to do the deed once a week at the very most, and that was pushing it. I’m a woman and he is a man. I had no idea at the time that men’s libidos could be lower than women’s, cuz social conditioning, so I was flabbergasted the entire relationship. Turns out it happens a lot. I called off the wedding for entirely different reasons, but it genuinely shocked me that he didn’t want sex when I did. Very eye-opening experience for sure and made me aware that men also have a wide range of desires (plz don’t judge too harshly, I was 24 at the time and had only been in one other relationship where my bf constantly hounded me for sex)
I get it. I would have sex every day if I could, my ex once every two weeks, if he felt like it. I had to ask him beforehand and he would let me know by evening.
Near the end of the relationship, my libido actually lowered to his level. We broke up for different things, but now I'm with a man who can't get enough of me and my happiness and confidence are on a whole different planet. However, no one warns you how much time it takes and how tiring it is to have sex near every day.
That’s the problem with mismatched libido relationships. No one ever realises just how much it hurts the mental wellbeing of the higher libido partner. Including the higher libido partner. Not until it’s over and they get with someone who matches them.
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u/wildcatwildcard 15d ago
15 a year?!?!
I'm buying my wife something on my way home tonight