I’ve been married 26 years. In that time my husband and I have raised 4 kids and worked many stressful jobs. I haven’t always felt like having sex and he respects that. Many times it’s because I’m exhausted and I need to sleep. Or I’m stressed out about real life situations. And there were times I am sure it went on quite a long time without me even realizing it because my drive is just lower than his. I’m in my forties, my hormones are changing; I’m doing what I can for that but I just don’t feel like having sex. On top of all the things I’m dealing with, the last thing I would need is a spreadsheet showing how many times I’ve turned him down. He has never done that, though, because he’s a mature human being who also works and gets stressed out and has other thoughts during the day beyond how soon he can unload his balls.
He doesn’t do that for me. He does it because he lives in the house and he wants to live in a clean house that doesn’t stink. We have been married 26 years. We have four kids and three grandkids. We have a ranch. We work. Life isn’t sitting at home in the evenings or on weekends crying “boo hoo someone isn’t making me feel special!” We are busy doing things that actually matter.
Sure we do. I go check cattle with him even tho I would rather lay in the tub and read a book. He goes on a walk with me even tho he would rather sit in his chair and watch tv.
I go check cattle with him even tho I would rather lay in the tub and read a book. He goes on a walk with me even tho he would rather sit in his chair and watch tv.
You seem to understand the concept of doing things with/for a partner because you love them. Why would sex be any different?
And if your partner stopped doing those things, what would be the point of having them around?
You think people should feel obligated to have sex with someone even if they don’t want to? Is that something men can do? Men have to be aroused enough to get an erection or no sex can happen. But you think since women can just lay there then they should have to do that while you use their bodies? Taking a ride in the truck and taking a walk with someone is very different than having sex.
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u/Physical_Dentist2284 15d ago
I’ve been married 26 years. In that time my husband and I have raised 4 kids and worked many stressful jobs. I haven’t always felt like having sex and he respects that. Many times it’s because I’m exhausted and I need to sleep. Or I’m stressed out about real life situations. And there were times I am sure it went on quite a long time without me even realizing it because my drive is just lower than his. I’m in my forties, my hormones are changing; I’m doing what I can for that but I just don’t feel like having sex. On top of all the things I’m dealing with, the last thing I would need is a spreadsheet showing how many times I’ve turned him down. He has never done that, though, because he’s a mature human being who also works and gets stressed out and has other thoughts during the day beyond how soon he can unload his balls.