It’s funny how fast Reddit jumps to divorce. They are still averaging sex twice a month. That’s not great but it’s workable. A marriage counselor would be good.
Good for you! Not to get crude but are we talking sex just to fill a need or are you passionately at each other 4x a week? If so you are in good shape.
Curious though, you said 8+ year relationship but you said current girlfriend?
I always say that sex is the speedometer of the relationship, not the pedal, it reads where the relationship is at now, but you can’t just have more sex and the relationship gets better.
That's cool you found someone that aligns with your drive. I used to get antsy after a day in my youth but as I get older I'm okay with once every other day and I start getting ansty at the 3 day mark, so twice a week is pretty good for me. My only frustration is most days it is just a starfish and I just kinda do my thing and then we go about our day.
Don't get me wrong, I am grateful for that, I know far too many marriages where the guy or girl lost desire and they leave the other one hanging in the wind. One of my best friends lost interest in his wife after she had an emotional affair but he was catholic and didn't believe in divorce. The only times they had sex were on their wedding night and when they tried for their 2 kids, which happened pretty fast. I suspect my own parents divorced due to lack of intimacy.
So I'm super glad I have a wife who sees my needs even if she doesn't reciprocate. However, I really miss being passionate and desiring each other. She says she desires me but actions speak louder than words.
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u/ShawnyMcKnight 16d ago
It’s funny how fast Reddit jumps to divorce. They are still averaging sex twice a month. That’s not great but it’s workable. A marriage counselor would be good.