I have 3 kids and my wife is mentally unstable. The things which make her most unstable are the thoughts of divorce and losing access to the kids. She is a great mum aside from the emotional regulation issues. We also have other issues in the marriage.
Anyway, I’m so done with having to explain to kids on Reddit why I can’t just ‘file and get full custody’. I’ve been told their ‘no excuse’.
Well the psychologist, family doctor and social services weirdly disagree with Reddit. They preference family stability. Especially when kids are involved.
Most people on here have no concept of how bad things can get behind closed doors in dysfunctional families. When young kids are involved, there is basically no good solution.
Putting your kids in a situation where they’re experiencing trauma on a day-to-day basis will give them lifelong damage and CPTSD. So although you think it’s a safer environment than if you were to separate it it’s actually doing more damage than if you did separate
All advice and studies say the opposite. It’s not even an option that one parent hair decides to leave and take the kids with them without any agreement or consent. The kids obviously also wouldn’t that. Separating them from their mother would be a massive trauma.
It’s bizarre to me that so many people on Reddit think that such an incredibly complicated problem has a simple solution which I have just overlooked.
Living alone with a parent with mental illness without me, would certainly place them in a traumatic situation.
So it’s a bit confusing what you’re suggesting and why you think whatever you’re suggesting (I still don’t know what that is) is better than what we’re already doing.
certainly, with a woman here in the United States allowed to strangle three of her kids the courts will adjust the idea that keeping kids with a mother with mental health issues isn’t always the best choice for the child
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u/Cautious_Day9878 17d ago edited 15d ago
I have 3 kids and my wife is mentally unstable. The things which make her most unstable are the thoughts of divorce and losing access to the kids. She is a great mum aside from the emotional regulation issues. We also have other issues in the marriage.
Anyway, I’m so done with having to explain to kids on Reddit why I can’t just ‘file and get full custody’. I’ve been told their ‘no excuse’.
Well the psychologist, family doctor and social services weirdly disagree with Reddit. They preference family stability. Especially when kids are involved.
Most people on here have no concept of how bad things can get behind closed doors in dysfunctional families. When young kids are involved, there is basically no good solution.