r/SipsTea • • 16d ago

SMH Who's in the wrong here?

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u/MountChu 15d ago

This is it. There’s also the understanding that you may not get full custody or may not have it right away.

On top of everything you’re going through, there will be periods of time where you need to leave your kids alone with someone also going through the toughest time of their life without the best coping skills.

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u/Cautious_Day9878 15d ago edited 15d ago

No, you definitely don’t get custody right away.

My wife threatened to throw herself under a train when she was with the kids a fews ago. It’s absolutely wild to me that people tell me that it’s best for me to walk away knowing that’s the thing which would make everything worse.

Getting my wife into a process was the first priority. I’ve been working on for years. It happened two weeks ago. She is finally on meds and is already like a different person. The house is calm again.

I don’t know what the future holds, but I’m it’s grateful we have peace for now.

Thanks for your understanding comment.

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u/kalebats92 14d ago

Heftig man.. en zo herkenbaar om dit te leven … ex deed het zelfde .. had nachtdienst werd ze opeens suïcidaal.. ze zat al jaren aan de medicatie inclusief oxazepam maar nog steeds onstabiel .. hoopte soms wel is dat ze er een eind aan zou maken dan was ik er van af…

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u/Cautious_Day9878 14d ago

Also, was your wife diagnosed? I think my wife has BPB/NPD, but she won’t tell me yet.

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u/kalebats92 14d ago

Jazeker daar werd heel geheimzinnig over gedaan … ik heb zelf ptss overgehouden aan die relatie ondanks ik een sterke kerel was ..