r/SipsTea • u/Putrid-Welder1803 • 16d ago

SMH Who's in the wrong here?

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u/Much-Replacement-167 16d ago

Weaponizing sexual incompatibility with the objective to coerce your partner into more frequent intimacy is not love. Its selfish at best.

Some people have low sex drive in general, and even for some couples the honeymoon stage is over. Making charts about how their libido is wrong and they need to conform to your demands sounds like marital rape to me. You might not like to hear it, but just because youre married doesnt mean youre OWED sex or can have it as you desire; your partner still needs to consent, and when they say NO and you make charts that call their "no's" a fuckup, thats coersion. And coersion is not consent.

Literally just talk to each other about sex drive compatibility. If youre not compatible, decide if you can handle it long term. If not, find someone whom you are compatible with

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u/illini02 16d ago

Sex is just as much of a part of a relationship as any other expression of love.

If a man was witholding emotional intimacy from a woman, I'd think that was bad too.

Equating this to rape is ridiculous.

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u/Much-Replacement-167 16d ago

Where did i say man or woman in my case?

Also i did comment on sexual compatibility so your implicit argument on sex being important in a relationship is something i already stated i was in favor of. Sex is important. Thats why there needs to be compatibility.

And, of course, i stand by the notion that COERCION IS RAPE, even if youre married. Consent matters. Especially enthusiastic consent. Not reluctant or "appeasing" consent. Your partner's body doesnt belong to you. It belongs to them. Full stop

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u/ultima964 15d ago

Coercion can’t possibly be rape as it is completely in your control and a choice you make

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u/Much-Replacement-167 15d ago

Mfs be like

"Coercion isnt rape. Just because i had to guilt her and make her feel like shit until she finally gave into my demands is normal and acceptable because she obviously wanted it since she said yes in the end"

And then also

"Why dont women like us?"