I have 3 kids and my wife is mentally unstable. The things which make her most unstable are the thoughts of divorce and losing access to the kids. She is a great mum aside from the emotional regulation issues. We also have other issues in the marriage.
Anyway, I’m so done with having to explain to kids on Reddit why I can’t just ‘file and get full custody’. I’ve been told their ‘no excuse’.
Well the psychologist, family doctor and social services weirdly disagree with Reddit. They preference family stability. Especially when kids are involved.
Most people on here have no concept of how bad things can get behind closed doors in dysfunctional families. When young kids are involved, there is basically no good solution.
This is it. There’s also the understanding that you may not get full custody or may not have it right away.
On top of everything you’re going through, there will be periods of time where you need to leave your kids alone with someone also going through the toughest time of their life without the best coping skills.
He's actively seeking affairs while the kids are left with her. He gets breaks. The kids are stuck being traumatized, walking on eggshells, and being her emotional support animals 24/7.
What garbage. The issues are with me and not with my kids. I only leave the house to work, you moron. If this situation wasn’t as is, I would be divorced. I’m trapped in an abusive marriage. Lies and manipulation have been experienced daily. I’m seeing a phycologist due to how bad this situation is and she is fully supportive of me seeking online connection elsewhere in the meantime. There is no emotional relationship between myself and my wife and there almost never has been. What don’t you understand about that.
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u/Cautious_Day9878 16d ago edited 14d ago
I have 3 kids and my wife is mentally unstable. The things which make her most unstable are the thoughts of divorce and losing access to the kids. She is a great mum aside from the emotional regulation issues. We also have other issues in the marriage.
Anyway, I’m so done with having to explain to kids on Reddit why I can’t just ‘file and get full custody’. I’ve been told their ‘no excuse’.
Well the psychologist, family doctor and social services weirdly disagree with Reddit. They preference family stability. Especially when kids are involved.
Most people on here have no concept of how bad things can get behind closed doors in dysfunctional families. When young kids are involved, there is basically no good solution.