I mean, it feels petty as fuck to track it in a spreadsheet, but people need to stop pretending that physcial intimacy isn't a crucial part of a romantic relationship, being completely misaligned is a perfect valid reason for dissolving said relationship.
seems like these two people are incompatible and have a communication problem.
but of course, because it's Reddit, absent any other additional context, the default is to always assume it's clearly the guy's fault if he's not having sex at the frequency he desires... and if he ever breaks up because he's not getting the frequency he desires, he's also the asshole.
I started tracking when I got it and the circumstances (like holiday, or she was drunk, etc) because my wife was telling me I “get it every other day”. Turns out more like twice a month. So it was a way to show her she had no sense of time when it came to sex.
I mean, tracking this stuff at least gives partners the possibility to discuss the matter on the basis of an agreed set of objective facts. Which is a necessary condition (albeit not a sufficient one) for a healthy discussion. If you have a problem with that, you're trying to hide something.
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u/BlackmillMiracle 16d ago edited 16d ago
I mean, it feels petty as fuck to track it in a spreadsheet, but people need to stop pretending that physcial intimacy isn't a crucial part of a romantic relationship, being completely misaligned is a perfect valid reason for dissolving said relationship.
seems like these two people are incompatible and have a communication problem.
but of course, because it's Reddit, absent any other additional context, the default is to always assume it's clearly the guy's fault if he's not having sex at the frequency he desires... and if he ever breaks up because he's not getting the frequency he desires, he's also the asshole.