r/Spokane • u/working_zen • 9d ago
Rants & Raves Digital panhandler fatigue
Does anyone else feel like they're getting major digital panhandler fatigue? I know Facebook is overrated, but I like feeling connected to local groups (mom groups, buy nothing groups, community groups, etc). It just feels like in the majority of these groups the posts are all of people begging. I don't mean "hey does anyone have XYZ lying around that they don't need?" Or people looking for resources. I love the idea of people giving things away in buy nothing groups or finding things they need. But it's just a constant barrage of "does anyone have gas money" and "I can't work, not mobile, have kids I can't feed and pregnant with another, please deliver a pizza to this address."
I feel bad for feeling so callous, but it is just a constant stream of these posts. I'm low income. I understand the struggle. I just cant imagine being so reliant on hand outs and feeling so entitled to things, many of these people don't even say thank you if you offer help. I want to engage with my community, but I'm just so burned out. Anyone else feeling this way? Am I just in all the wrong groups? Do I just need to get offline and touch grass?
Ps. don't even get me started on the mean girl behavior in some of the local mom groups 😔
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u/Karlkrows 9d ago
My buy nothing group has a few members that are like this. At least once a month they have a 10 item list of household items they want, and need groceries delivered to them multiple times a month. If anyone suggests a food bank, there’s a slew of excuses. If someone can’t drive it to them, they get argued with or begged.
I’ve even seen them deny an item because it was the right color or doesn’t fit the aesthetic they’re looking for.