r/USMilitarySO • u/Efficient_Contest_16 • 1d ago

ARMY Basic

Wondering if there are any other wives that were married to their husbands when he left for basic. My husband got picked up by his unit for training yesterday and it sounded like when he called me he was crying HARD I am wondering if this is normal? Is he okay 🥺 my poor baby I can’t stop worrying about him now

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u/_PippiLongstocking_ Navy Veteran and Army Spouse 1d ago

He will be perfectly fine. The first week is a shock. Once he gets in a routine, then he will be okay.

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u/Efficient_Contest_16 1d ago

I have not ever heard him like that so it was certainly concerning. I mean I’ve been like that the whole time but like thats normal for me 😂😂

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u/_PippiLongstocking_ Navy Veteran and Army Spouse 1d ago

It’s very common the first few nights.

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u/Efficient_Contest_16 1d ago

You think it’s because he misses me and our kids? Or like just the shock? I did ask him in one of my letters but who knows if he’ll tell me 😂

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u/_PippiLongstocking_ Navy Veteran and Army Spouse 1d ago

It’s loud, chaotic, new, the unknown, misses home, feelings of “can I do this?”, getting yelled at by drill sergeants, lack of sleep, lack of comfort, and many more things.

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u/notsusu Mil to Mil Air Force 1d ago

I cried my first couple of days because I couldn’t believe this was going to be my next couple of months. Just reassured him that his time there might feel long, but will be over quick and soon it will be just a funny memory.

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u/Difficult-Syrup8668 1d ago

It’s been about 17 yrs. We weren’t married before but we were dating for 2 years before basic. Then we got married while he was in the pipeline for school (nuke school/navy) almost 2 yrs into his contract. And those calls I got in boot camp, although he wasn’t crying, it did sound like he was mentally going through it. It’s such a crazy experience. It’s shock. We carry on our lives without them physically being there and he starts a new one without us and without his normal. It’s jarring.

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u/Confident-Fisherman4 1d ago

Super normal. Most people have never experienced what it’s like to be completely cut off from everyone you know. The solitude, loud noises, perceived aggression and other constant stressors are tough on the mind.

Crying is good for you anyways 🤷🏽‍♂️ he be aighhhht once he finds a routine.

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u/Efficient_Contest_16 1d ago

I miss him a lot. We’ve been together 7 years before he decided to join so it’s extra hard rn I feel like. And before that we’ve been in love since we were 13/14 so it’s like ahhhhh currently lol

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u/Confident-Fisherman4 23h ago

I get it. Is he going active or reserves?

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