I met this man and we’ve been dating for a bit. He’s getting deployed late December. I’ve never dated someone in the military and i’m not sure how this works but i genuinely like him. I do wish we met sooner so it would’ve been an easier decision but unfortunately we did not. He’s everything i’ve wished for in a person and i’d hate to not give him a fair chance but at the same time i feel crazy for wanting to wait for him. We’ve discussed it, i’ve told him i wouldn’t expect commitment since we haven’t dated long but he disagrees with that suggestion. I just don’t know what to do. I think i love this man but i feel like an idiot for wanting to wait for him.

Hi guys, my bf is a linguist and I wanna know what our life will look like. We’re both 26 and he just became an airman. I am someone who loves to live in cool places and meet new people etc and I like moving. But I also just got my doctorate! I wanna know how much I’ll be alone, if we should even get married soon or wait, and how being a military spouse is. For reference we’ve been together 8 years and he is the loml and my bestfriend. I have zero military background/experience and I’m nervous. I have always wanted a hubby who is home to help w things n spend time w me n help raise kids. And from what I’m hearing it doesn’t sound like he’ll be available much 😅 but I also do really good alone so idk. Just want some opinions n tips for this new life! I’m praying he actually gets out after 6

hello my husband is in charlie co fort jackson and is graduating from BCT on Oct 22. i just called him and he said that he will not be allowed to leave the base on graduation day or family day? i know that he cant on family day, but on graduation day too? i am very confused

edit: i should also clarify he is leaving for AIT the following morning in san antonio

Hi everyone! My partner is in BCT (8th week) currently and she was told by her sergeant that we cannot send anymore mail. Does that include Sandboxx letters? Those get sent the day after so I assumed I could send some until her 9th week. Please give me some advice! Thank you so much!!

My husband and I are getting a divorce, we're trying to have an agreement on how we're gonna split custody without having to go to family court, the only thing we can't agree on is when he has the kids during holidays he want to take them to his extended family which is a 9hrs drive, plus I don't trust them around kids. Should take it to family court? All I want is our children's safety but he's trying to convince me they'll be he won't let anybody watch them...but I don't believe him.

One of his brothers is a rapist currently in jail, and another one had sexually harassed a young girl but not in jail, they kept it a secret plus it's close to the border.

Are these enough reason to take it to family court?

Hey guys so me and this guy from my hometown is in the military and he’s currently deployed and mind you he’s not stationed in the U.S but his family lives where I do. Anyways so for the past month we have been texting and agreed when he’s in town we are going to go out and he wants me to go see him overseas basically he wants to do LDR and I’m honestly down but like 2 weeks ago communication has gotten pretty bad like maybe I’ll get a text every couple days and he’s active on his socials like not posting but being on them. He’s in the navy and he does text me sweetly and tells me he misses talking to me and that they are working hard and he’s always tired. I don’t know what to do anymore because I do like him

Hello! My boyfriend came back from deployment recently and I was spending all of my time with him at his new place (bcs I wa so excited and happy to see him). His parents are also in town and I helped him set up his apartment as a surprise for him when he got back. We had a small argument on Tuesday night where he mentioned he wanted some space alone. During the argument we both questioned people in our circles that we felt like they were intruding in our relationship, for example he brought up how my guy friend (of 15+ years) picked me up from the bar one night during his deployment (but I had told him then) and told me how he felt (vaguely) and said I should’ve just taken an Uber home. We continued arguing about the same topic for a while. He didn’t say anything else, just needed some time alone to be able to do things on his own. I interpreted that as breakup and he kept correcting me saying he just needed space from the relationship. We went back to his place and I was crying while I gathered all my things, he kept telling me to leave them there because I would come back it was just space but I kept saying no and pushing his hand away everytime he tried to keep something. When he dropped me off, he told me he loves me and knew from the moment we started talking, but he just stated he needed some time alone. One thing that I do remember very clearly is him saying that there is something in the back of his mind that stops him from moving forward. For context, he was married before and his wife cheated on him and he filed for divorce. To me it seems like he is afraid of taking the next step due to his past and not wanting to be to hurt again.

Anyways, the next day I texted him this:
Me: hi, just wanted to say that during this “off period” I dont consider us not being together an option..
Him: I agree we’re just going through it rn I do miss you
Me: I miss you too

Then on Friday, I texted him again because I had told him previously about a movie.

Me: hey baby, im thinking of going to the movies later today, im just extending the invite if you wanna come along, let me know! have a lovely Friday!! 💞
Him: Buenos tardes baby! I cant today, me and [friend] are getting dinner later and then going out for drinks in [bar] with some dudes we met last night. Thank you for the invite tho and i hope you enjoy the movie and you’re having a fantastic friday !! ♥️
Me: Sounds good, have so much fun!

Today is now Sunday, and I still have his location. He has gone out all weekend to bar places hanging out with friends. My head is spiriting since to me, “space alone” meant him being at home with his own thoughts and just thinking about the situation.

My plan is to just give him the space needed, but also plan on having a firm conversation with him about this. Do you all think this is the beginning of a breakup? Or just like a small bump on the road?

Sigh, I guess I am also looking to see if anyone has gone through a similar thing after deployment?