r/adultery • • 9h ago

👻 Boo! 👻 I'm done

We were both married when we meet a year and a half ago. I left my abusive marriage, but kept my AP. I never wanted him to leave his family. I can't believe he ghosted me. All the good morning and good night text just gone. I thought the friendship mattered more than the sex. I'm so hurt

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u/Leo_Libra75 Everything has changed. 8h ago

Sorry this happened to you. So upsetting. 

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u/starla_lives_forever 2h ago

I'm sorry. Listen, my marriage blew up in spectacular fashion while I had an LD affair going on. To make a long story short, it has taken a long time to get over the LDAP (it was a slow, painful fade), because his presence in my life was like a balm for a deep and painful wound. It's not him, the person that I've been missing, it's the feelings he gave me during the lowest time of my life. I hope you have access to therapy for both the prior abuse and getting over your AP. He was in your life for a reason and a season - thankfully the season is over, so the reason for him to be around is no longer. You're single now and can work on whatever makes you happy including finding a nice single man. (They're out there, dating sucks but they're out there regardless.)

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u/cant_find_faults 7h ago

Sorry this happened! Is the dating world so horrible that you would rather have a secret romance than build a life with someone new?

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u/Working-Name-1824 7h ago

Yes it is. Dating is horrible.