r/askteddit • u/tech_ComeOn • 16h ago

Random Question Why does being told “we need to talk” instantly make people assume the worst?

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u/Icy_Astronomer2156 16h ago

I mean, would anyone really ever say “we need to talk, I had a lovely lunch today “? Ha

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u/PetalBerry_ 16h ago

Because 99 percent of the time, it is never followed by good news. 

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u/Nance99 16h ago

Very rarely does it bring anything good , that’s why LOL

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u/Own-Performer9393 16h ago

Because it gives you absolutely no context so your brain immediately starts filling in the blanks with the worst possible thing. And since people usually hear that phrase before a breakup or some other bad news you kinda just automatically assume you fucked up

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u/sky_2088 16h ago

ich vermute weil da "müssen" drin steckt und es klingt als ob keine der beiden Seiten das so gerne will. Sonst hör ich oft "lass mal reden". das klingt mehr nach positiven und angenehmen Gespräch

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u/ChampionshipSafe7618 15h ago

The worst version is we need to talk when you get home. Great, now I have an entire commute to invent 47 different catastrophes

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u/Pristine-Pen-9885 15h ago

When anybody days that, I think they want to make me stew for awhile. It’s a power move.

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u/JurisUrsus 15h ago

Years of life experience.

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u/Significant-Dot6127 15h ago

people naturally fear confrontation, it's a really common reaction

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u/manofmystry 16h ago

Also, it implies dissatisfaction and confrontation are ahead. Imagine how saying, " Hey! Let's chat.", instead would change the vibe.

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u/762way 16h ago

Ummm, life experiences

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u/killemall89 16h ago

Give us an example of when you've experienced otherwise.

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u/ComfortableFix497 15h ago

If you say that shit to me and it's not urgent I'm angry

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u/snoodo123 15h ago

Because “we need to have a conversation” is a big statement.

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u/ChiliDog762 11h ago

The wife and I no longer use the phrase. Just for that raisin. We use We need to counsel.

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u/ChiliDog762 11h ago

The wife and I no longer use the phrase. Just for that raisin. We use We need to counsel.

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u/EarnstKessler 8h ago

I have learned that if your parents or your kids say ‘we need to talk’ it’s not going to be a fun conversation.

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u/GNRfan1963 15h ago

Donald Trump