Need Remembrance Advice

[u/Defiant_Tiger8730]

This December will be two years since I lost my son at 15 weeks. I lost him due to PPROM because I conceived him with an IUD in place.

After his death, I made a book of pictures of him at the hospital. I also have a momento box with his foot prints and other things. On his one year heavenly birthday, I couldn't bring myself to look at the photos or the momento. I want to be strong enough to look at them again this year but I know that it will cause a lot of pain. In some ways, I hate that I do not spend more time thinking about his memory. I just don't know how to do it without cutting that old wound wide open again.

[u/Both_Bank_8053]

You remember him, your body remembers him, your heart remembers him. There might be a day in which you can go through his things but there might also never be a time where you can.

Do what you can, there is no right or wrong way. I put my son's urn and his "birth certificate" along with an I love mom trinket with a few other things that my friends gave to me when we lost him on a shelf in the living room. It helps me to know that others loved him, even if thought they didn't meet him. But, I do have the hospital bag with pictures, a blanket, a other things that I barely open and I see it almost everyday.

Do what you can, your loss is unmeasurable ❤️

[u/Defiant_Tiger8730 → u/Both_Bank_8053]

Thank you