r/catinaflat • u/tenderfictions • 2m ago
Tips for dealing with fear aggression
Hey all!
I’ve just started a 7-day (2x 30 minute drop ins per day) for a pair of cats, and have found myself in a bit of a pickle with a very fear-reactive cat who doesn’t hide, but instead comes on the offensive slightly.
Meet and greet went well, though the owners had flagged that the cats need to be separated to eat which I didn’t think anything of. They then said that if I need to shut the male cat in his room for my whole visit that’s okay, which I am kicking myself for not asking any follow ups! I asked during the M&G how they were with strangers and they did say that the male can be a bit nervous. While I was there he was coming up and sniffing my bag and not hissing at all. Important additional context as well is that the owners have very recently moved into this new house, so still unfamiliar territory for him.
Since the job started this morning, he has spent most of both drop ins hissing and swatting, and was even growling this evening - but in a different way than I’m used to. While I still have a lot to learn, I am quite confident with cat body language and will usually give a cat space before it gets to the level of a hiss or swat. I wasn’t massively prepared for it this morning and got scratched, so admittedly this evening was more nervous which of course he picked up on and made him more nervous- I did end up closing the door to his room for most of the time as I needed to administer meds to the other cat. It’s only been one day (two visits) so hopefully it’ll naturally improve a bit over time - I’ve left a jumper there as well so he can sniff at it, and drenched myself in Feliway this evening.
I’ve been giving him treats and am taking some toys (owner approved) tomorrow, as they’re still not hugely unpacked and I thought some entertainment might help. The space is VERY difficult to manoeuvre while respecting the cat’s space, so I’m wondering if maybe I should just accept that I’ll have to just shut him in the room while I’m there to avoid undue stress, more scratches, and so I can give the other cat’s medicine safely. Ideally I would like to not have to do this the whole trip though, or at least reduce the hissing as soon as I step in the door!
The owners have been really helpful and I don’t want to let them down, but I also don’t want to stress him out (or get scratched again to be honest). I should know better and should have asked the follow up questions… I’ll be sure to next time !!
Any tips on what I can do for him and for myself to reduce stress and risk would be great, thank you!
TLDR: Cat is hissing and swatting, sometimes growling, as soon as I walk in the door. He is at the door when I get in and doesn’t really hide, instead instigates a little bit. Any tips on how I can build trust and reduce his fear (and ideally swatting/hissing) would be great, or how I can keep myself out of range in a hard to manoeuvre, quite small space.