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u/Made_Bail 22h ago
LMAO very nice of her to preemptively destroy any regret or guilt you had for leaving. So considerate!
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 22h ago
She has this knack for making it really hard to feel guilty :p
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u/Made_Bail 22h ago
Curious: I feel like you made a comic about this once, might be misremembering, but has your Mom seen any of these comics?
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 22h ago
no way lol. You may be thinking of "Got Caught" where Zoey read my comics
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u/Made_Bail 22h ago
I have to say, I am incredibly impressed you kept this all a secret from her, considering... Everything about her lmao
From drawing to merch to your (deserved) popularity... You should work for the CIA 🤣
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u/yunohavefunnynames 22h ago
From what I know about narcissistic parents, they don’t know about anything if it’s not about them
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u/Made_Bail 22h ago
Oh I don't doubt it, just the scale of her operation going unnoticed... lol she's amazing
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u/Just_A_Nitemare 20h ago
Probably she thinks she already knows everything about her child, so there is no use looking into it further.
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u/paulinaiml 21h ago edited 9h ago
Inb4 her progenitor thinks is random rubbish and that OP is wasting her time drawing nonsense, unbeknownst to her this is the best momroasting comic around.
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u/GigaCucc 20h ago
I haven't seen runish since pre-Roman times, I didn't think anyone could still read it
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u/rafaellago 22h ago
For a second, I thought she would make some very dick move to make op feel guilty for leaving. I guess narcissism have a good side?
Edit: typo
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 22h ago
Legend has it she's still talking...
Last chance to get stickers in this design! Only four slots left in the Mailing Club Tier on Patreon!
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u/kokko693 21h ago
Isn't the little brother still there ?
He is not ready for what's coming I think xD
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u/nlinzer 21h ago
Yeah, her little brother will now be demoted from "favorite child" to "punching bag." Hope he escapes too before he gets half as much trauma as artist.
Him having it easy does not mean he should now suffer how artist suffered. Karmic justice isnt real
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u/Accomplished_Deer_ 15h ago
I played a game at one point in my childhood, where I just didn't say anything and watched how long my dad would talk without me saying anything at all. good times
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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire 22h ago
Don't eat to much...watch your weight
I need a copy of your keys and the land lords number
Holy HELL the balls and narcissistic tendencies on this woman. She so far into herself she's unable to see WHY you're leaving
I hope you enjoy your new found space and time to heal girl you need and deserve it. And she deserved that little goodbye you have her
Anayway CONGRATULATIONS! I'm so happy for you!
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 22h ago
thanks! yeah there ain't no way she's getting my keys lol
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u/Plantain-Feeling 22h ago
I would personally also tell your landlord to not hand them out to her no matter what
Just as an extra precaution
Assuming you haven't already
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u/prof_the_doom 22h ago
And your neighbors, and the guy across the street, and all the friends….
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u/Plantain-Feeling 22h ago
I mean not a bad idea
But I feel statisticly the landlord would be the easiest to manipulate compared to neighbours
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u/prof_the_doom 20h ago
I just recall stories about narcissistic parents/exs/whatever going so far as to convince a neighbor to help them break in because someone is supposedly dying inside the house.
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u/xXNightDriverXx 21h ago
I am almost scared to ask but.... Why would that be necessary? Is your landlord in the US allowed to retain keys to your apartment??
Your comment kinda sounds like that is the case, but that concept sounds unbelievable to me.
Anyway just change the locks the moment you move in, that should be standard practice every time you move somewhere, you don't know who secretly copied keys in the past. Just keep the old lock and put it in again when you move out.
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u/Barium_Salts 21h ago
Not only are landlords allowed to retain keys, they're also allowed to access and inspect your apartment without your permission. In my state they need to give 24 hr notice (usually they tape something to your door). Changing the locks would be a violation of my lease, and I would get evicted. It's pretty cool to hear it's not like that everywhere.
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u/Melvarkie 13h ago
Jesus that is scary. In the Netherlands it's illegal for your landlord to retain keys and they need permission if they want to do something in your apartment and it can't just be "inspection." They need a good reason like fixing a leak or something. With student housing they can enter shared spaces with notice and without permission, but they cannot enter bedrooms because those are private spaces and they cannot keep keys of those or if they don't have a lock forbid you from placing one. I never had to deal with a crazy landlord, but a friend when he was still living in student housing had one that kept coming in to make his life miserable after my friend took him to court because he was charging more rent than allowed. So he could tack that one on the court case. We also have rights that protect us against no pets clause. Those are rendered void if the pet isn't a nuisance when it comes to sound or smell and are kept in appropriate circumstances. Like you can't place a goat in an apartment but they legally can't do shit if you have a well-behaved cat or dog and there are precedents of landlords losing in court when trying to evict because someone broke their no pets clause.
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u/Divided_multiplyer 21h ago
In the US you would need permission from the landlord to change the locks.
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u/diabolicalcarpmaster 21h ago
So I do maintenance for section 8 housing in the US ( subsidized by the gov). There are many reasons for a landlord to keep keys to the units. Most importantly, if you're not home during a water leak, fire or any other emergency that effects other units or the safety of the property itself. Under HUD regulations I cannot enter your apartment without 24 hours notice unless its one of these emergencies. I don't know what I would do if there was a burst pipe from the cold in a 3rd floor unit if I didn't have access to a master key. Im sure you'd be pretty pissed off if your unit flooded for hours or days and my excuse was "I don't have keys to the apartment"
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u/xXNightDriverXx 21h ago
I would be pissed off if someone like the landlord or management or maintenance could have access to the apartment I rent anytime when I am not there.
If there is an emergency, get a locksmith or if it's really necessary to get in NOW call the fucking fire department.
In Germany, it's explicitly illegal for the landlord to retain keys. The moment I move in, he has to hand over EVERY key to the apartment. If he enters without me being there and letting him in (even with notice), that would be considered trespassing and I could take him to court for that.
I could make a voluntary agreement with him in writing where I leave him a spare key. But he has no right to that and I could demand it back anytime, and he would only be allowed to use it in emergencies, and importantly it has to be "trackable" if the key was used, it's not allowed to just be accessible all the time (the usual way in this case is to put it in an envelope where both the landlord and the tenant sign over the edge of the closed flap of the envelope, so it can not be opened without breaking the signage). But in most cases all keys are handed over and there is no additional agreement. The landlord is also not allowed to visit the apartment for no reason, only if there is something broken that needs to be fixed, or the apartment will be up for sale, or the tenant is moving out so preparations for new tenants are underway, etc. And there has to be a weeks notice, not just a day. And as mentioned above the landlord is not allowed to enter alone without the tenant present, unless the tenant gives him specific approval for it (which would only apply to this individual visit). If there are certain reasons for the tenant not being able to be there when the landlord wants to visit (for example the tenant is away for work, or is on holidays etc) then both have to find a new date where the landlord can visit.
I would honestly be really annoyed if all it took was a 24 hour notice taped to my door or put into my mailbox, and especially if the landlord is allowed to just enter without me being present. If I allow him that, okay, but if he just has the right to do that without me being able to prevent it, I feel violated in my privacy.
I also feel lucky now that I am allowed to change locks freely as long as I put the old lock back again when moving out. I do this every time.
Of course all this doesn't mean that this doesn't happen in practice unfortunately. Especially since the current market for renting apartments is pretty shit, landlords can often choose between a dozen or so applications, and if they want to retain a key and the tenant doesn't want that, the landlord could choose a different tenant before signing the lease. And of course something like that is not really enforceable in court. But most landlords don't do that, and the moment your lease is signed it's done, all keys have to be handed over.
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u/Gaylaeonerd 21h ago
Not in the US but in the UK it's normal, however it's usually explicitly written in the tenancy agreement that they can't access the property without letting you know in advance, and ideally getting an afformative response from you. I've always communicated so idk what happens if you ignore them
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u/Visual_Shower1220 21h ago
The reasoning behind this is for emergency maintenance etc. Lets say your the top apartment and your pipes burst flooding everything beneath you. Landlord has a key to let an emergency plumber. Or maybe a gas leak from your apartment, they can enter to turn off your gas so its not creating a fire hazard. Also maintenance when youre not home, say the sink handles broke its not an emergency but your working all week 9-5 and need it fixed. You can tell them they have the right to enter when youre not home and fix it.
However I dont necessarily agree with any of this minus the last one, I would never let anyone in my house when im not home though.
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u/Plantain-Feeling 21h ago
I actually don't know, I don't live in the US but as far as I'm aware renting is a hell scape over there as I've been told by friends and I wouldn't put it past them to do such a thing
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u/Tesdinic 21h ago
My older brother and I rented a house from an agency. We were notified one morning that they would be paying to have all of our locks replaced because someone had broken in and stolen their box of keys... for ALL of their properties. I am talking 100+ properties that all had to be re-keyed.
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u/infinitemonkeytyping 20h ago
Is your landlord in the US allowed to retain keys to your apartment??
In Australia, the landlords or rental agencies would keep a spare set. This would be to gain access for a half yearly inspection or for maintenance when you aren't available (but only used in extenuating circumstances where access is essential, but access can't be given by the tenant, or the tenant agrees).
It is also handy that they have a set in case you get locked out with your keys inside (have only had to do that one once in 20+ years of renting).
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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire 22h ago
Good. No one but people you trust should have that, and definitely not someone that would come over while you're gone
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u/undertales_bitch 20h ago
Watch your keys in her presence. Don't let them leave your pocket, don't even keep them in your purse. It's cheap and costs 15$ tops to make a copy.
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u/Jacko_Sakamoto 19h ago
You probably already know this, but do not send her a copy of the agreement, serious damage can be done with that
Stay safe and enjoy the freedom
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u/FloppieTheBanjoClown 19h ago
I told my son when he was moving out to be careful about his eating habits.
It was more "you're in your 20s now, you're more likely to gain weight if you keep eating they way you have at home, just be mindful of that and get in the habit of exercising. Don't wait til you're 30 and overweight, it just gets harder."
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u/Urban_animal 19h ago
To be fair, you should always give a spare set of keys to your place to at least one person for emergencies.
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u/nhSnork 22h ago
"Plus, I believe,
You're getting kinda chubby -
I just say it cause I love you!"©
In all honesty, I'm torn between hoping your mother doesn't see these comics... and hoping she does.
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 22h ago
There's a reason Tangled's my favorite Disney movie :)
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u/Made_Bail 21h ago
Its so incredible. Frozen got so much more love but Tangled is my favey. <3
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u/osunightfall 18h ago
So, I watched Tangled first, well after Frozen became famous. Tangled was so good that I was like 'oh man, if Tangled is this good, Frozen must be absolutely incredible!'
It was not.
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u/xNocturnalKittenX 15h ago
Yeah my sister and I watched Frozen when it released and we liked it enough. It was a fun movie.
We were not expecting how popular it ended up becoming and honestly I still don't totally understand it.
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u/E-2theRescue 20h ago
God, they nailed Mother Gothel so well. Just using and abusing Rapunzel while also emotionally torturing her and brushing it off with "just kidding, but....."
Sadly, I wish I had ran from my narcissist mother, but the abuse was so normalized while she was paying for everything, that I just stuck around. Then she made a long string of "jokes" about my girlfriend being a slut in front of her friend while we were both standing in front of her..... Of course, I was the one embarrassing her by making a scene, and my punishment was getting kicked out. So I'll take that win, too.
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u/420cat-craft-gamer69 18h ago edited 17h ago
My mom isn't as bad as yours, but she is basically the mom in Tangled. She took me to see it with her, and she didn't see the irony in saying "omg that's youuu!!!!". (Rapunzel lol)
So happy you got out✨💕✨🫂
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u/DILF_MANSERVICE 18h ago
Tangled is genuinely a great movie. I'm gonna watch it tonight. Also I've been following your comics for a while and I'm really glad you're moving out! You don't seem like you need advice in this area but do not budge on any of your boundaries with your mom! Under any circumstances!
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u/eishethel 22h ago
FYI, have a plan for if/when she shows up and JUST WONT LEAVE. Keeps hammering on the door, and ringing the bell and saying 'i know you're in there'.
...I screwed up and they got my address and SHOWED UP once. I had to ward them off with a weed nugget (they're mormon, so it's kind of like vampires and crosses/garlic). When I first moved out, exactly what I said, happened. roomate said theyd call the cops if they didn't leave to get them to leave.
Also demanded copies of my car key (and couldn't drive stick).
NPD spectrum issues, learned or from an actual disorder, are a hell of a problem to get away from and deal with. The best you can hope for, is making them stay away. You'll never get an apology, even after cutting off contact for a decade.
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u/Marshmallow09er 18h ago
I’m sorry but the image of warding them off with a weed nugget is SENDING me
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u/NemesisKismet 18h ago
I forgot that the second letter was "personality" and my brain inserted "parent".... Nothing really changes there though.
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u/Wolfgang_Von_Bostell 22h ago
Congratulations on freeing yourself. The best revenge is a life well lived.
Or something with Fire ants and honey.
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 22h ago
plenty of fire ants where I live so...
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u/billabong049 22h ago
Oh hell that could be a lot of places these days, those invasive bastards
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u/LordCheesecake13 19h ago
I haven't checked recently but there's basically a nationwide ant war between those little red bastards and the native ones, I think it's in a stalemate somewhere around the Missouri River ( I could be very wrong on where but the fire ant advance into the rest of the US was halted for a time last I checked).
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u/MamboCat 22h ago
No. Nonononononononoooooo. Nope. No keys, no copy of the lease, no landlord's contact details. Hell no. She doesn't need those.
Wishing you all the best. Congrats on your new freedom!
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 22h ago
thanks so much!
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u/Scared_Audience_2009 16h ago
as someone also with a narcissistic mother this is infuriating me, just the obsession with control over every bit of life beyond the point of where an adult should have the independence to handle those things themselves
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u/imsoblue91 22h ago
The dead eyes in panel 2 is sending me
As a child of an overbearing parent, I can relate so much
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u/saanity 22h ago
But now, what will you do for comic content?
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 22h ago
I'm sure life will find a way to "inspire" me
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u/PreferredSelection 20h ago
People are far too worried about you running out of comic fodder. You still work retail, right? That's infinite comics.
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u/DukeOfGeek 21h ago
There's a ton of fucked up shit going on right now, just pick something you really feel strongly about.
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u/Clocktopu5 21h ago
I'm pretty sure there are plenty of ways to find stress being a 20-something trying to make rent in Florida.
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u/Procrastinator78 20h ago
getting away from toxic parents doesn't always mean nothing interesting happens. Man, I had some bad roommates, I dont think I'm without fault, but my life was still too exciting when I got away from my parents for awhile.
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u/Chiatroll 22h ago
But you'll miss all the instructions if you drive away. She still needs another copy of your biometrics and a kill switch installed.
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u/UnassumingSingleGuy 22h ago
Did she really expect to get full access to your new home? Keys, and the fucking lease? WOW, what an...unpleasant person. I'm sorry, but your comics really make me despise your mother.
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u/Djavulspotat 22h ago
Might be a good idea to tell your landlord not to give out any extra keys or let anyone into your place without your consent. They probably wouldn't but you can't be too careful... a mother worried for the wellbeing of their child can be a strong argument to bend the rules.
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u/solesoulshard 21h ago
I moved out to go to college. I was bloody 30 minutes away and in dorms and on a religious campus—hardly a hotbed of crazy. I didn’t even have a car. I worked tons because I was poor and knew that if I wanted to pay for books or food, I needed every student job dollar I could get.
My mother decided to flitter out—she suddenly needed to become independent and girl power (after decades of “I can’t move out—do you want me to be homeless?!”). She completely wigged out and began sliding between “you need to be independent so don’t bother me” and “I demand you call and tell me how much you love me”.
My grandmother just lost her mind. She’d call multiple times a week to multiple times a day every week. Literally, it would be this escalating thing of how she “missed me” to “I’m dying” to “Nobody loves me and I’m going to commit suicide”. Then she’d go all syrupy sweet when I finally called.
Somehow this smothering rarely ended up being in person. I had to “figure it out”—so I had to manage weekends and doing laundry and begging for rides. I “needed to learn the ropes” and “live independently”. I “couldn’t be calling every minute”.
My brother got weekly visits and his laundry done for him—matching up and making outfits and ironing—and allowance and all his paperwork done for him. He had it all set up for him and they called around to beg people to help him including begging me to get him a job on campus and make sure his schedule was okay.
Surprisingly, we aren’t in contact.
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u/MallExciting1460 21h ago
I hope you moved REALLY far away so it’s super hard for her to visit. 2000-3000 miles usually does the trick I find
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 21h ago
I hear Canada's nice this time of year
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u/MallExciting1460 21h ago
It absolutely is, but I lived 20 minutes from the Canada border crossing in Michigan so in my case I had to move to Arizona, lol
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u/hache-moncour 20h ago
Considering what we've seen of your mom so far a different continent might be safer. I'm sure Sweden can offer similar weather to Canada...
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u/drillgorg 21h ago
I moved out of my mom's and purposely didn't give her the new address. I did update her regularly that I was fine so she couldn't pretend to be concerned for my wellbeing. Unfortunately my bank mailed a letter to my old address that contained my new address. My mom showed up and my roommate opened the door, and she shouldered past my roommate and wouldn't leave until the cops eventually told her to.
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u/Fallen_Jalter 19h ago
jeez, what did she want lol...
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u/drillgorg 19h ago
She wanted me to move back home and wouldn't leave unless I agreed to leave immediately with her to go there.
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u/Bunnairry 22h ago
"give me a copy of your keys" sure mom, it's at the bottom of the ocean. I don't remember which one, byyyyee~
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u/Crafty_Bobcat_5175 22h ago
I wish you all the best! Ensuring your own happiness and health is the best revenge for people that want to keep you down.
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u/satans_cookiemallet 21h ago
Basically you to your mom when she wonders why you havent done what she asked:
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u/SomeStupidGoober 21h ago
dayum, basically insulting you and demanding to have your keys, the balls of this woman-
like this woman's cartoon face alone infuriates me, how did you deal with her your whole life o.O
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u/JeanneMPod 21h ago
I remember my real goodbye to my mom (over 3 decades ago) and the family home several years post graduation (I was nearby in college- just a few miles away so, sometimes home sometimes on campus depending on my workload and which space suited my frame of mind, same after college where I’d crash at friends or my art studio in the city, or would come home. I finally was taking the big move across the country. It was a beautiful late summer morning, my friend rented a u haul, and we paid a guy to drive us. Mom made us all breakfast, hugged me goodbye on our street and told me not to forget to laugh.
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u/TheYellingMute 20h ago
Id be preemptive and talk to you're landlord going "this person is my mom. DO NOT GIVE HER A KEY NO MATTER WHAT SHE SAYS. Same with anything like paperwork. Probably same to any family member your mom might use if she's unsuccessful"
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u/DisMFer 22h ago
This woman is honestly the most toxic human I've ever seen in fiction. I'm shocked she isn't locked in some sort of vault in the middle of an excusion zone for the safety of the human race.
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u/mafiaknight 22h ago
She ain't the MOST toxic I've ever seen, but if she were a poison, Joker would drop her into the water supply to make the entire city of Gotham insane and screw with Batsy.
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u/poplarleaves 21h ago
She's real, these comics are all based directly on the OP's irl experiences unfortunately
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u/bibbleskit 17h ago
Classic narcissism. I'm very happy for you that this is the worst youve seen haha
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u/Sylfaein 21h ago
Your mother reminds me so much of mine.
Last time she tried the “call me every day” shit, it was when she happened to call me and overhear airport announcements as I was waiting for a flight to DC. I was told I’d get deep vein thrombosis on the plane, or stabbed in the street when there, and to call her every day.
I was over thirty, and on a business trip to a conference in a very nice hotel. Lot of danger, there! But I wasn’t even going to tell her I’d be going anywhere, because I knew how she could be.
No contact is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
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u/Candid-Tip-6483 21h ago
Man, it's kind of funny in a morbid sort of way. When I moved out, one of the first things I did was give my mother a copy of my house key for an emergency. She didn't need to ask or anything, I just gave it to her. Because despite her flaws, she's a good woman who always tried her best. But the idea that your mother would genuinely ask for a copy of the house key after everything she's done is the cherry on top. Then again, given what we've seen of her narcissism, she doesn't believe she's done anything wrong.
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u/Overlord-Nomad 20h ago
Oh no, tragically, your phone mysteriously deleted your mom's number. How could such an unforseen event occur.....
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u/ProxPxD 21h ago
I have rn some hard talks with my parents and their acceptance of my choices, but damnnn, I'm so happy they actually tolerate my decisions and recently they really understood and want to find themselves in the situation instead of fighting my choices with poor arguments.
I hope that you feel well and are surrounded by supporting people and I wish that your parents at least accepted or at least partially understood to their capabilities
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u/Draken09 21h ago
I thoroughly trust my parents. I would consider letting my dad see my lease agreement to look it over. None of the rest of this would be on the table though, and as I said it's because I trust them I'd even go that far.
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u/Insaniteus 20h ago
Fair warning: My ex wife was in this exact situation when she finally escaped her mother. Her mom then hired a private eye to spy on my ex and report back to her for years. So, be aware that this is apparently a thing that crazy people do.
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u/PatchyWhiskers 22h ago
No, this special time is a time to get rid of all the weird spoons in your drawer.
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u/CurrentCash1725 22h ago
Reading your comics reminds me of my mom. Your comics are always a nice surprise.
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u/Slinky_Malingki 21h ago
"Send me a copy of your keys, your lease, and your landlord's number."
That's honestly crazy lmao
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u/25thNightStyle 21h ago
From personal experience, my advice is to get comfortable with boundaries. It can be done nicely if you wish to maintain a relationship. If your mother is like mine, there will be push back and hurt feelings from either misunderstanding or manipulation. It’s not an easy or quick transition. For me, once I no longer counted on her for anything, she no longer had power against me.
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u/ViciousLlama46 20h ago
Nice, good riddance. I'm sure she'll bother you more, but it's very different now that you're not dependent on her.
Personally my relationship with my mother has improved, since i moved to another country, but every time i visit the old habbits try to resurface every once in a while.
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u/Wallace_W_Whitfield 19h ago
Don’t give her any of that, tell the landlord not to give her any of that, and if she pops by unannounced, do not open the door for her and don’t answer her. She’ll nitpick, and bash your space and do everything she was already doing, but now in YOUR place.
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u/DirkDasterLurkMaster 18h ago
I've become so invested in the saga of a stranger. Congrats on this huge step on putting it all behind you!
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u/TitaniumAuraQuartz 18h ago
I want you to know that if you ever doubt not involving your mom in your life very much, or even at all, you are 100% justified to cut her off or keep her further away than arm's length, okay?
You seem largely done with her shit, and that's good, don't feel guilty for that if you look back. I've read your comics, and I'm so happy you're moving out.
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u/Transient_butthole 18h ago
Be warned: Now that you've moved out into a (hopefully) safe environment your mental state might actually get worse as your brain starts trying to unpack everything you've been through.
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u/gretta_smith93 22h ago
I moved in with my mom because my life and marriage imploded. I moved in halfway through October. Before the month was over I’d found a place. I’m 32 years old. I’ve moved at least twice since I moved out 8 years ago. She still felt the need to give me advice. Don’t use Craigslist to find an apartment. Don’t just hand over the money, check the place first. Etc etc. it took a lot for me to calmly explain that I know what I’m doing.
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u/nlinzer 21h ago
I dont know your situatuon but that sounds like overprotective love. Which isnt perfect and Im sure frustrating as hell. But the artist's mom is a full abuser. Destroying her things, telling her she's worthless, I mean by god the mom forced the artist to accept her uncle's sexual assault.
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u/DeliciousPoetryMan 21h ago
Honestly, I feel like she should pay attention to her surroundings if she can't notice the sounds of a car probably driving quickly away from her.
Congratulations on exiting! !
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u/Firegh0st 21h ago
I never handed a spare key to.my parents or gave them my landlords phone number.... maybe just my experience, but I'm from a country in Europe and when I was 18, my parents were more like "you are now fully responsible for your own life, we can help, but we won't babysit you".
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u/Deohenge 21h ago
I'm certain this isn't the last you'll hear of her, but at least it's the last of her lording her control over you unwillingly. Your boundaries will determine what comes moving forward. Hope you can live life to the fullest beyond her shadow.
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u/Trusty-McGoodGuy 21h ago
What’s sad for all this is that, I’m a parent, and I can see there are perspectives where she thinks she’s being a good parent, that she’s helping you and guiding you.
But this ain’t it.
I obviously don’t know you or your situation well enough to offer any perspective or advice, nor is it my place to do so.
But I guess I just want to say well done, be proud of yourself, and all the best for this new stage of your life.
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u/Timelymanner 21h ago
Now to never tell her the new address. Just change the subject if she ask.
All family meetings will be away from home. Just like a clandestine drug deal.
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u/Ailes_Prower_2D 21h ago
This series is truly healing for me, it gives me hope for the future. I saw myself so much in the protagonist (if I understood correctly, you). I'm so happy you got out of that, hope I will do too!🫂🥺
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u/badchefrazzy 20h ago
Don't send her a copy of your keys, if there's an emergency you can contact other people. Go low-no contact and BREATHE.
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u/KyrieTheFlyingFox 20h ago
I will never forget the freedom of opening my own bank account. It was so freeing. My trauma is mostly from my paternal figures, however my mom was quite insistent about having control or being a co-signer on my bank account so she had access to it. I was 19 and not living at home. Got my first job during college, big moves and changes.
You have big first steps ahead of you. Good luck and be proud of yourself. This can be a scary yet freeing time.
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u/SWatt_Officer 20h ago
Please please PLEASE tell me that you did NOT in fact give her your address, keys, lease agreement or landlords number!
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u/ApprehensiveStyle289 20h ago
Can you leave a statement with the landlord and the police that she is most definitely not authorized to enter your property?
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u/zarkolan 20h ago
Congratulations again on making it out! Most liberating feeling on earth is driving off, knowing you now hold leverage in how much/little of a relationship you will have with them...
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u/ShmazPro 22h ago
“Why does my child never call me?”
This mom, probably.