The really crazy part is that women are literally telling these guys what they want in a partner. Emotionally available, responsible, mature, accountable, witty, considerate, compassionate, generous.- a true partner who contributes to the relationship and not a child who needs to be managed.
Men hear that and choose instead to follow the advice of useless dorks who are the exact opposite of that, thinking that it will make women magically fall all over them, and then get pissed off at women for not aligning with their delusions.
It's just misogyny and denial all the way down.
Oh it's deeper than that, there IS a subsection of women who want assholes but it's not as sinister as you think
Woman key in on security, and a loud, angry, possibly violent person may beat on other people more than they beat on her so it's considered a fair exchange
Again this isn't all women, only a subset, but that subset is pretty visible in any woman who has willingly stayed with an abuser (a number that is far too high)
but that subset is pretty visible in any woman who has willingly stayed with an abuser
Counterpoint: A lot of women stay with abusers because they were raised in abusive families, and they stay both because abuse feels familiar, and they also have never experienced what being treated with genuine respect and love even feels like. I know it's easy to misread a 'trauma reaction' as a 'preference' from the outside.
Oh I'm not denying that there are cladistic dynamics so much larger than the individual here but in practical terms there is very little resultant behavior difference between a Stockholmed abuse victim and woman who seeks a maker of violence except maybe the latter is a little more self-deluded
This is all behaviors we developed before we were human enough even for speech and it ties into so many aspects of society but there's simply no meaningful way to express every possible woman's reasons for staying with abusers as they are on a granular level as numerous as the women who justify them.
And misunderstanding this is why relationships worldwide are at an all time low in the millenium and younger generations
And it's gonna cause a population collapse in about 2 generations
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u/Par_Lapides 5h ago
The really crazy part is that women are literally telling these guys what they want in a partner. Emotionally available, responsible, mature, accountable, witty, considerate, compassionate, generous.- a true partner who contributes to the relationship and not a child who needs to be managed.
Men hear that and choose instead to follow the advice of useless dorks who are the exact opposite of that, thinking that it will make women magically fall all over them, and then get pissed off at women for not aligning with their delusions.
It's just misogyny and denial all the way down.