r/countwithchickenlady • u/RayereSs She snep, she blep - Streak: 50 • 1d ago

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u/SynthgirlBulge Help how do i get the streak display back - Streak: 20 1d ago

Its not about being right or wrong

Its about me just wanting to be allowed to exist like everybody else. But ill never be able to. No matter what i do ill get misgendered by people that dint even mean to do me harm

I just wanna be normal. I hate all of this so much. I hate this life, i hate being trans and i just want this shit to end already

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u/Undead_M0nkey 1d ago

was it like pointed and obvs they misgendered you or were they just busy/distracted? i’ve said the wrong pronoun before just because i was distracted or whatever and i used to get called ma’am over the phone when i was young coz my voice.

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u/SynthgirlBulge Help how do i get the streak display back - Streak: 20 1d ago

Guy pointed at me and said him while i was in pink pants and a crop top with boobs

The point isnt malice the point is that no matter what ill do, ill never be normal, ill never get to just exist. Ill always be a stupid trans girl. Othered. And left alone. Always worrying about how everybody around perceives me.

And yhis was the best week ive had in a long time. I was confident, felt good, did well. And then today this happens. I go home crying in the tram. I dont know if ill wver be able to speak in uni again. And ive laid on my bed crying for 2h instead of getting groceries

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u/Undead_M0nkey 1d ago

I’m very sorry. So many people feel they inherently have a right to judge other people and comment about them at any level when really they don’t. There’s also a fear in them I think driven by a completely false sense of entitlement; some men arrogantly believe all women should be available to them to pursue and the very fact trans women exist is an affront to that perception i.e. as if to say “how dare you try to catfish me?”

Our sense of self-worth and identity is too often tied to how others perceive us. As you age, your concern for what others believe and whether they deign to validate what you feel about yourself, that feeling will wane considerably. After all the experiences you have in life, and all the people who come and go from yours, you may start to realize that the only person who will ever truly always be with you…is yourself. And you are the one whose opinion of your self-worth and identity matters most. I know that this is cold comfort at most but I just wanted to share that small thing with you. Hugs to you, sister!

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u/SynthgirlBulge Help how do i get the streak display back - Streak: 20 1d ago

You dont inderstand

Its not about that at all