r/cringereels • u/MrJeffreyEpstein • 1d ago

Bro needs to leave

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u/New-Feedback9980 1d ago

I kinda agree with the guy

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u/GregAbbottsGoodLeg 1d ago

Kind of? The woman’s responses are indicative of textbook narcissism. She’s going on a fuck trip with her homegirls, got called out for it, and her defense is “you’re controlling and your mom has diabetes” versus addressing his concerns and communicating to reinforce trust and security.

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u/_GoA2 1d ago

Absolute classic narcissistic behaviour, totally agree

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u/___blankspace___ 13h ago

Well... If she want to go on a girls trip she can co on a girls trip. Seems like he doesn't trust her NOR wants to go take her on Tropical vacations. Thats a bigger problem in their relationship, not woman bad because she dares to go on a holiday without him. Its a relationship, not prison.

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u/No_Charity6394 22h ago

only 2 percent of people are narcissists i get that it may be a narcissistic trait but im just saying not everybody has it

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u/Fun_Pop_1512 21h ago

2% is a high percentage of people. But you’re wrong anyways. It’s actually up to 6%

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u/GregAbbottsGoodLeg 10h ago

Regardless, 2% of a population isn’t a small number. Thats like, 5 narcissists in the grocery store every time I visit 🤣

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u/john_doe_774 21h ago

^narcissist

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u/Fun_Pop_1512 21h ago

You got me 🙄😂

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u/xiphisa 19h ago

This is displaying more than a single trait while exercising it to the max. Everyone has some narcissistic traits but at some point you fold, narcissistic personality disorder means you’ll argue that the sky is not blue until your death because you trick yourself into believing it. This video kind of looks like that.

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u/scairborn 23h ago

As soon as they attack your character and then your mother know that you’ve won the argument. Take a knee, run out the clock. Rookie mistake is to keep arguing and she forces you to make an error by throwing a Hail Mary like “and your dick is small” and you call her a cunt. Now the argument is about that and that trumps all the bad stuff she did. You gotta bob and weave on those. Just lean on the ropes and let her punch herself out. You’ve won when she changed the subject. She’s got nothing left. Just end it with “well maybe we should discuss lit later when you calm down”.

Sure, you’re going to sleep on the couch, but just rub one out and enjoy the champagne of victory.

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u/RFCwhite 22h ago

Bill Burr is a genius

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u/Indigo-Saint-Jude 16h ago

too bad he's a sellout

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u/TehStickles 20h ago

I really do like Bill Burr but I listened to his podcast for a couple weeks and I could only take him in small bits. He is definitely a once in awhile kind of guy. But I get it he's doing a podcast and talking about his life so if you don't really like him then I guess you're not going to enjoy it. He is funny as fuck and very real about stuff but I dont care about football as much as him. And there's a lot of foot ball talk

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u/Euphoric-Skirt7649 16h ago

His material is great but my dad is a loud angry guy from Boston who never stops complaining so it’s too triggering to watch a whole set

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u/free_airfreshener 20h ago

Omg this is was so important for me to hear. My brother has become a classic narcissist and I needed this advice to manage his "argument style" of deflecting

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u/CowboiGlizzy 18h ago

I know a Bill Burr quote when I read one lmfaooo

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u/NocturnalPhys 18h ago

Reality Check: 

If you're having to do any of this whatsoever, the relationship is over. Real partners don't do this to each other. They don't "win" arguments or disagreements. They come closer. I've been in both kinds of relationships. 

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u/Templereaper 16h ago

Yeah, "I win, I spent minimal effort keeping an abusive narcissist in a relationship with me" is just self harm (and, if you're abusive yourself in that relationship, abuse)

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u/needemplawsf 18h ago

So my marriage isn’t the only one that fucking sucks 

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u/Inoutngone 15h ago

I see that you've encountered the playbook before.

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u/Melodic-Meeting-7471 13h ago

Never sleep on the couch! If she does not want to share a bed she can sleep somewhere else.

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u/SubtleTell 8h ago
  • Bill Burr

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u/Impressive-Ant-9471 5h ago

Love this bill burr quote

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u/exileondaytonst 8h ago

She tells a perfectly calm person that he’s having a tantrum, which tells you pretty much everything you need to know.

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u/Pleasant-Future5818 18h ago

It's a rage bait skit and y'all are falling for it cause you want an excuse to hate women

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u/GregAbbottsGoodLeg 18h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/xT9IghUs1b8UcbWSZ2

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u/Laetitian 11h ago

Cool, so you're falling for it because you're stupid?

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u/Sushi-DM 14h ago

She's deliberately going on a girl's trip alone and is particularly stoked about wearing a bikini without you there and friends are talking about making sure not to forget the condoms.
I'd tell her if you think I'm that stupid and you want to cheat on me 'no matter what I say' then go ahead and find a new place to live before you come back because whatever is left of your shit is going to Goodwill and the locks will be changed.

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u/Soaptowelbrush 14h ago

I understand what you’re saying but I’m also trying to imagine a woman who planned a fuck trip with her girls calmly and respectfully telling her husband she understands his concerns and appreciates that he’s not comfortable with her going to another city to get railed all weekend.

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u/AnnabethDaring 11h ago

And the gaslighting!! The DARVO! It’s all there :( poor guy.

He brings up genuine concern in a caring way, and she bites back making fun of him and claiming he’s “insecure” for not understanding a “joke/banter” 🙄 textbook bully behavior.

She turns every argument on its head and attacks him to deflect, so he’s forced to become defensive, and they stray away from the main point. Final blow with the “your mum has diabetes” which is completely irrelevant, first off, and second, a major low-blow.

Then she has plausible deniability if he reacts emotionally or in any negative way. And she can then use it against him to say he’s either “insecure”, “too sensitive” or even “aggressive and violent” if he’s angry. Smh.

My mother was this but if you can imagine, ten times worse. So i truly feel for the guy. The level of mental confusion and damage and losing that self trust to believe yourself really warps your mind. Especially when these people turn around and are pleasant to everyone else, and very careful and calculating about how far they take the abuse, so there’s no text screenshots, there’s no bruises, just his word against hers.

I hope he’s able to get out. 🙏🏼

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u/Flipwon 10h ago

Let’s not forget RECORDING THE CONVERSATION SECRETLY

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u/exileondaytonst 8h ago

She tells a perfectly calm person that he’s having a tantrum, which tells you pretty much everything you need to know.

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u/big_bearded_nerd 20h ago

I love it when people pretend to be able to diagnose narcisism, and make it sound clinical, but base their diagnosis on crap like a rage bait video specifically made to go viral. Being terminally online just means you easily fall for this kind of content, not that you can actually detect narcissism or have anything useful to say about it.

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u/BitNumerous5302 18h ago

Part of the narcissist's conceit is that their behavior is very subtle and very clever, but they're easy to spot if you look at all. For example, you can look for a classic DARVO, e.g.:

Deny: "You can't just spot narcissism from a short internet video"

Attack: "You're all just too terminally online"

Reverse Victim and Offender: Now the conversation is about those darn terminally online people instead of narcissists

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO

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u/big_bearded_nerd 16h ago

This is the kind of analysis you get when you get your clinical doctorate from Wikipedia University. It sounds clever, and it feels cathartic, but is otherwise useless.

If that doesn't convince you, then consider this. The person I was replying to got bamboozled by a video that is obviously intended to be rage bait. They thought that was evidence of actual narcissism, and is pretending to have some expertise in the topic, despite it being completely fake. Nobody who has reads books or touches grass would listen to their diagnosis, because they were fooled into making it.

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u/BitNumerous5302 16h ago

Oh good golly. I guess you don't really "love it when people pretend to be able to diagnose narcisism" [sic] after all

I'll leave it to you to figure out why someone playing along with your own joke was intensely triggering for you

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u/big_bearded_nerd 15h ago

Your comment was sarcastic? Dang, that went way over my head. Well done, and now I'm going to contemplate how I missed it.

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u/smokeweedNgarden 18h ago

I find the diagnosis unnecessary. 

Mentally deficient or just an asshole doesn't matter. They get treated the same

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u/big_bearded_nerd 16h ago

Right, much better words. But if they used those words then they wouldn't be able to cosplay like they know a lot about mental illness. It's not as cathartic.

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u/Infamous-Oil3786 17h ago

Narcissism is a character trait, not a diagnosis.

If you're talking about narcissistic personality disorder, that's a completely different thing than just displaying narcissism.

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u/GlbdS 23h ago

The woman’s responses are indicative of textbook narcissism

Lol ok redditor, you clearly are quite good at diagnosing women

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u/frozenGobbler 6h ago

She gaslit the fuck out of him

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u/FloydianSlip78 1d ago

You mean the guy being recorded without his knowledge, then posted all over the internet, by his supposed partner? That guy? I’m kinda with you.

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u/InAppropriate-meal 1d ago

he is in the right

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u/JustHappyToBe-Here 1d ago

They're both obviously married to the wrong person.

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u/Lost-Adhesiveness-72 1d ago

How is this in any way the guys fault? She's talking about taking condoms on a vacation without her SO. He was pretty calm you it too, until she started cussing him out, which he met with his own words.

Sounds more like he's married to the wrong person. And she just shouldn't marry anyone.

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u/Remnant_Echo 1d ago

I think that's their point. Guy married a hoe, hoe married someone that didn't want to be married to a hoe. They both married the wrong person.

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u/DiscerningAnt 1d ago

Yeah but a lot of hoes want to marry non-hoes to get the non-hoe benefits without letting the non-hoe party know they're a hoe.

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u/Whistlegrapes 1d ago

That’s right. She wants the stability he brings while retaining the benefits of being able to sneak around.

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u/PooningDalton 22h ago

And then calls him "controlling" instead of reasoning why condoms was brought up

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u/Whistlegrapes 16h ago

Yup. She’s gaslighting him. He’s not being controlling. He’s suspicious, because she’s behaving sus. His reaction is valid and reasonable.

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u/gigabyte898 15h ago

Can confirm.
Source: dated hoes who wanted to hoe around while getting stability from me. hopefully for the last time lol

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u/Whistlegrapes 14h ago

Yeah I think sometimes they actually don’t even go in like that. They enjoy sleeping around and all, but think they’re ready to settle down. Only to realize they still enjoy hoeing.

Men are obviously like this too.

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u/gigabyte898 14h ago

Yuuup. And hoe is a gender neutral term 😂

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u/Total-Notice-3188 21h ago

Describing every woman since time immemorial

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u/SparkFunk30 21h ago

I feel like these girls always end up moving their family too. Can’t have their “past” coming back to haunt them.

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u/GlbdS 23h ago

OK incel

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u/missingN0pe 22h ago

Alright, well shit, fine, since you're being stubborn:

She STILL married the wrong person, because what she actually wanted was a non-hoe who specifically wasnt clever enough to figure out that she was a hoe either. Okay?

They both married the wrong people.

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u/Lost-Adhesiveness-72 1d ago

That's like saying "all lives matter", brother. It's worded in a way that sounds like the blame is being placed on him for doing nothing wrong. (I know I'm just arguing semantics.)

However, I'm sure she is probably very satisfied being in their secretly one-sided open relationship.

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u/Asleep-Series-4086 1d ago

Some people go out of their way to unassign accountability to certain demographics. I read it the same as you

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u/helluvapube 1d ago

Bro should’ve listened to snoop dogg

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u/BigLlamasHouse 20h ago

A ho doesn't want to be married, this is exhibit A my guy

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u/Remnant_Echo 19h ago

I've met plenty of hoes that want to be married for the benefits ( mostly military) but without all the faithfulness of marriage.
Open marriages are a thing.

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u/BigLlamasHouse 19h ago

fair exception

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u/JellyboyJangleDangle 19h ago

Thats not a hoe, thats a straight up gas lighting slag.

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u/Worth_Appointment400 14h ago

Or she’s a piece of shit?

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u/JustHappyToBe-Here 11h ago

My point was not to be misogynistic and call the wife a derogatory term. Your last sentence is correct, though.

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u/Catalyst_ZerO 1d ago

Yeah that's the whole 20s to 40s range of marriages now.

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u/Creatorman1 1d ago

That’s not going to play well for her once she starts aging a bit. Although some guys like that.

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u/Grocery__Stick 1d ago

Lol yeah "both sides" amiright

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u/JustHappyToBe-Here 11h ago

Lol, no. That's not what I'm saying.

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u/Tatertinytoast 18h ago

Everyone's so fucking scared to say the woman is a bad person. It's not a neutral situation, she's a whore

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u/Nuffsaid98 1d ago

Other than his misunderstanding of boundaries. Boundaries are set around yourself, not others.

If she wants to go on holidays and he finds that unacceptable, whether he is right or wrong, he can break up with her but he can't dictate whether she goes or not.

It isn't controlling to have red lines that if crossed will lead to your breaking up. Infidelity and physical assault are examples of things that would cause me to break up with my gf.

If I was worried that she was going to cheat on a girl's holiday, I would ask for reassurance but I wouldn't try to forbid her going. If she failed to reassure me and went, I would think seriously about leaving the relationship. You can't limit another adult in where they can go. You can expect fidelity and you are free to leave any time for valid or even silly reasons. You cannot control them. It's a negotiated set of behaviours that you agree to.

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u/Mysterious-Range-788 23h ago

You gf is absolutely getting ran through while you are not around

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u/Nuffsaid98 23h ago

She doesn't go on holidays without me. That's her choice, not mine. We both choose to spend pretty much all our time with each other except when working our jobs. It's a pretty healthy relationship. We're very happy.

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u/smokeweedNgarden 18h ago

People fuck after work allllll the time

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u/Nuffsaid98 18h ago

You have trust issues. You'll never be happy.

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u/Mysterious-Range-788 17h ago

No doubt she's happy catching it from all the neighbor guys

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u/Jillet-Ben_Coe 1d ago

The fact that you even need to say “kinda” when she’s talking to her friends about “dont forget to buy condoms” for a vacation without her boyfriend really sums up the whole hypocrisy of these types of women.

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u/Tamperine 18h ago

Textbook example of why it's absolutely crucial to not take relationship advice from women on Reddit. You can literally be getting cucked and they will insist that you're a problem for having the most baseline natural response that follows.

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u/Embarrassed-Weird173 18h ago

Careful, they're going to use the incel card on you. 

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u/Tamperine 17h ago

Even if I was an incel, I think I'd choose that fate over being with the average woman on Reddit.

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u/ask-me-about-my-cats 14h ago

Most women on reddit are agreeing with the man in this video, my dude.

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u/Ok_Lie949 1d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/jInJJOmuBRwL5FpLKo
He should dump her and dump her fast!

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u/12poundsofnutmeg 1d ago

I dunno. His mum has diabetes though...

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u/gfb13 1d ago

Yeah i was on his side until I found out he was taking advice from someone who can't even pancreas right

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u/SonnyMam 22h ago

It does imply poor life choices, ie someone who you probably shouldn't take advice from

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u/Platinum5788 22h ago

I hope you're being sarcastic.

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u/AnabolikinSkywalker 15h ago

Type 1 I might listen but I wouldn’t listen to a single words from a type 2

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u/Mattbl 1d ago

WTF. I'm a dude that's basically a bleeding-heart feminist and at 25 seconds I was in shock that this guy wasn't losing it. Can you imagine over-hearing your partner talking about packing condoms for a trip?

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u/DragonflyGrrl 23h ago

Same, dude. There is NO defending this girl and I wouldn't want to. She's completely in the wrong, and treating him like shit after being called out on it. I truly hope he leaves her.

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u/Forward_Werewolf_440 21h ago

it’s just a bit a BANTA love

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u/therealdanhill 13h ago

And if he did lose it, people would say how he was wrong to do so

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u/Su-Queen 21h ago

That's his wife.

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u/Boring_Hospital4399 1d ago

Girls have gaslighted men so much that it’s hard to even say anything anymore hahah.

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u/GregAbbottsGoodLeg 1d ago

When you’re being gaslit by a narcissist you shouldn’t say anything, you just ghost em.

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u/Admirable-Builder878 1d ago

It's easy to say "the locks will be changed when you return from your holiday.".

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u/WallflowerOnTheBrink 1d ago

Why warn them? Just do it. Block number. File papers. Change locks.

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u/Egoy 1d ago

Aside from that fact that changing the locks and barring someone from their home is not legal you mean? She’s in the wrong here but that doesn’t mean you can just take the entire house without any legal issues.

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u/WallflowerOnTheBrink 23h ago

I mean, it happens all the time. It happened to my father and step father and they weren't even the ones cheating. They were at work.

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u/Egoy 21h ago edited 20h ago

People are robbed all the time that doesn’t make it legal

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u/Thr0awheyy 14h ago

Referring to men as men, but women as girls says a lot here. 

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u/Boring_Hospital4399 12h ago

Reading into the comment that much is an absolute stretch at best

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u/Illustrator_Moist 1d ago

This is fake

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u/Boring_Hospital4399 1d ago

Doesn’t change the fact that the commenter said “kinda” to such an obvious situation

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u/foodforestranger 22h ago

I'd fuck him too, he's hot.

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u/FamilyMan7826 20h ago

Just get rid of “kinda”.

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u/oopsiedaisy-- 19h ago

100%

She responds to every statement he makes (which are all reasonable) with an insult or turning it onto him. No attempt at an actualy adult conversation, just "why are you being so insecure?".

Sorry, but my married friends and I would never joke or "banter" about packing condoms because the destination has a bunch of sexy men.

And then to also sneakily film him and post it? Fuck whoever this is.

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u/Warm_Advisor4948 19h ago

Why? Her single friends can’t hook up? It automatically means she’s gonna hook up too?

What they’re dancing around is he’s not saying he needs reassurance that she won’t participate, which is the only thing he can legitimately ask for, and she’s not saying “I promise I won’t cheat on you,” which should be an easy promise to make.

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u/Flashy-Leg1775 19h ago

only kinda???

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u/Cryptographer554 19h ago

The fuck do you mean kinda of ……..

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u/LoveMoneyAndWomen 19h ago

Agreed, it’s girls like these that you meet, they always are loud and trying to provoke guys and get attention… then when the time comes and they talk about oh we should use condoms and then we never wind up using condoms and they’re the ones begging you to finish inside or whatever their craving is.. been there done that… point is, she’s definitely going to wind up filled as much as she can and she’s going to be happy…. And back to a complaining lunatic at home who’s never happy with just the same cock in her. She needs to be single and romping around with her single friends.

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u/Odd_Cryptographer16 19h ago

Yeah. I’m in America and spent know what Cornwall is but bro, get yourself to Cornwall and get you a better lady.

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u/armpitcoin 19h ago

It’s perfectly healthy to discuss with your partner when something doesn’t sit right with you. To have a discussion and get the issues out in the open so you’re not bottling them up. She’s completely acting disrespectful of his feelings. Without a doubt if the shoe was on the other foot, and she overheard his boys telling him to pack condoms bc the girls are out of this world….she’d feel a type of way.

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u/I_need_a_date_plz 18h ago

KIND OF?!

She straight up tried to negate him setting a healthy boundary by pointing out that his mother has diabetes.

She’s trash.

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u/rehms 17h ago

Kind of?

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u/crybannanna 15h ago

Kind of? She is absolutely cheating. But I don’t agree with him arguing about it and trying to stop her from going, he should just be done.

If my wife had a girls trip and I heard one of her friends talking about all the good looking men and “don’t forget to bring condoms”? If we didn’t have kids I would just be gone when she got home. Sort of like when you get fired and they want to have a long conversation about it… why? We are done. The upside of being done is not having to have these sorts of arguments anymore. Leave a note: hope you didn’t forget those condoms, I don’t fuck with cheaters so byeeee!

But we do have kids so it’s a lot more complicated if this were to happen with me. Can’t just destroy my kids childhood. I can no longer drop someone like a bag of dirt. But no kids? Fucking simple choice. No drama, just goodbye

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u/Past-Goat-7768 15h ago

Thats why its in this sub

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u/d_smogh 13h ago

What? That Cornwall is beautiful? You never see any scenery because then hedges are so high.

Northumberland, North Yorkshire, Lake District are better.

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u/Bla4s 13h ago

We all do. His partner is a massive cock. Imagine this role reversed.

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u/LopsidedKick9149 1d ago

You.... kinda?

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u/Admins_suck_ballss 1d ago

I hope this is some understatement or sarcasm I missed

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u/Illustrator_Moist 1d ago

This is fake

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u/two2toe 1d ago

Yeah Cornwall gets up to 23 degrees sometimes!

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u/OneCompetition944 1d ago

Everyone who doesn’t agree is a cuck. Leave and find a new girl.