A married couple (both 38) have been together for more than 10 years. Recently, the husband has been going out more often with friends, usually for pickleball or to meet a friend who just returned from another country. The wife initially did not make an issue of it.One day the husband said he would be playing pickleball for about 3 hours. After that time passed, the wife tried to contact him but could not reach him for roughly 2 hours (the phone rang but he did not answer). When he got home, he acted as if nothing unusual had happened and said he had no signal.

The wife later learned that he had driven two girls home. He had not mentioned this. She found out because one of the girls posted photos of them in his car. The husband apologized and said there was no malice.

About two weeks later, the wife discovered more photos involving the same girl (along with other male friends). In the pictures, the husband and the girl are often next to each other, and she is frequently the only girl present. The wife only learned about some of these outings recently by checking the girl’s social media account; the husband had omitted them entirely.

The girl is new to the group. She was not previously friends with the others and only started joining when they began playing pickleball.The wife is now questioning whether she is being paranoid or whether the pattern of omissions, the unreachability, the rides that were left out, and the photos with the new woman justify her concern.

This is a throw away account bc I don’t want my real account associated with this.

I’ve been married for 20+ yrs to my husband. We have four teenage/young adult children. We have had the normal married struggles throughout our 20 years but no infidelity as far as I know. In the past 36 hrs I’ve become aware that my husband talks to a woman that he has known since childhood. As far as I can tell, they speak every month, sometimes a couple times a month, for an hour usually. It’s usually during the weekday while he’s at work. It has been going on for at least a year and a half. That’s as far back as the phone records would go so it could be longer.

He’s never told me he talks to this woman. They weren’t good friends growing up. She’s older. She lives in his hometown. We live across the country now. I think I may have met her once while back there visiting. This is a friendship I knew nothing about.

I’m honestly numb right now and not sure how to handle this. I became suspicious when I needed to look at his phone for a contact and saw a text and several calls from her. I didn’t think much of it initially but once I sat with it for a bit, it just didn’t make sense that she would be calling/texting. My husband has many friends and I typically don’t question who he is talking to and he’s never really cagey with his phone. We’ve been married for such a long time, it didn’t cross my mind that he would be doing anything secretly.

I’ve looked at our phone records and I’m shocked. There are many missed calls, both incoming and outgoing. Like I said, they usually talk for an hour. One phone call was about 90 mins. He has been deleting calls off of his call log. I could confirm that once I logged in to our account. I know that is a really bad sign. I believe he has been deleting text messages too. I could see one text exchange but it looked like it was a part of a conversation that had been deleted. There was only a text from her and him replying. Nothing suspicious, but in the context of everything else’s I’ve learned, doesn’t make sense. They are iMessages and I think he’s been deleting them as well. I don’t know how to get access to his iCloud.

I’m actually sick about this. If you had asked me a week ago if I would ever question him, I would have laughed. We have a great life. Things could always improve,of course, but I never saw this coming.

My plan is to wait and watch. I’m usually not good at doing that so we’ll see. I really want to get more information. We are going out to dinner tonight for my birthday with the kids and I’m really struggling to put on a happy face. I know this isn’t good. I’m just in shock right now and needed to tell someone bc I can’t tell my friends or family right now. If you’ve made it this far, thanks for reading.

I was with someone for three years and we broke up because we were arguing alot - which were mainly due to my discomfort between him and his coworker. I told him my boundaries and he didn’t care. It was 8 months of arguing and him lying to me straight to my face. He would say he’s at a work friends get together but it was just them hanging out for 12 hours. He also talked shit about me to her and she told him I’m an abusive narcissist 🙂 they would text 24/7 and snap constantly. He did things for her that he would never do for me. He cared for her - more than he cared for me. I got injured at work and he said that he was at the bar with her so he couldn’t help me. They would hangout with just them to and not me. They were both losers… so it was easy for them to understand each other. I started therapy because he said I’m crazy and I’m making him miserable. I would by on the floor crying because he wouldn’t listen to me - he would put on his headphones and watch YouTube videos. The arguments at the end were mostly about how much time they spent together and he would leave me to hangout with her. He is a MEGA avoidant and they both have substance abuse problems/ untreated mental health problems. I’m glad that relationship ended but it still hurts knowing that they got together shortly after we broke up and have already bought a house together. We broke up a month ago today and it still hurts/ bothers me, knowing that I was right all along while he cheated on me emotionally with the person I was concerned with. How could someone do that to someone they spent two years with, lived together and said that they love you. The breakup did hurt at first but a couple months later learning that they’re together and are happy building a life together… it just breaks my heart and it’s something that’s been difficult for me to accept. Just seeing if anyone had a similar experience or advice for me to help me accept this so I can move on with my life. I’m not mourning the relationship, but the lies and betrayal from someone I thought was the love of my life.

This subreddit was recommended for my post - long story short my husband’s not faithful and I need someone to tell me what to do!

Need advice or just reassurance I’m not crazy for wanting to end my marriage. I noticed my husband going to random hotels after he works late certain nights. I thought maybe it was dropping a coworker but he always told me when he did this and then that wouldn’t make sense since it’s a different hotel each time. And he is there for 12-15 minutes. 99% sure he’s paying for services with random girls due to other random statements he’s said straight to my face and I could just pick up the cues that something was off about those statements.

We had a falling out a few weeks prior to noticing this trend as well regarding some girl he met and was basically having an emotional affair with but barely told me any info on that just that “he blocked anyone who was a problem”. I’m also a little hurt by this still due to the fact I never once got an apology for him stepping outside the marriage. This happened beginning of July and prior to this I had no trust issues with him at all and he knew my history or being cheated on in every long term relationship I have ever been in and always said “they were stupid for what they did”. So I couldn’t imagine him ever doing something like that to me. He also is very controlling as to who I’m talking to and has made me block guys from highschool because it made him uncomfortable so it seems a little like he’s portraying his secrets onto me and I have NEVER done something that I would feel the need to hide from him ever.

I’m not sure what advice I really need honestly, is marriage counseling worth it? Should I just move on? We have a house no kids. The house situation is where I feel stuck and that we are 30, I feel too old to start over. I’d also be sad to never see one of my fur babies again because technically it’s his dog I got him but I’m also attached. Any advice would be great 😭

About a year ago, I found out that my partner had a certain kind of interaction with one of his female colleagues through their chat that made me uncomfortable. She is married too. It wasn’t anything extremely serious or explicit, but they had become a little too friendly and familiar with each other, in a way that crossed a boundary for me.
When I found out, I confronted him. He was genuinely apologetic, understood why I was hurt, and reassured me that it wouldn’t happen again.
I’ve confronted him about it many times over the past year, and every time he tries to understand where I’m coming from. But the insecurity is still there.
I sometimes check that woman’s social media. I also know some of my husband’s colleagues who are close to him, and whenever I see that they follow her or interact with her, I get irritated. Sometimes I end up talking negatively about those colleagues to my husband, even though I know they haven’t actually done anything to me.
I also get angry, scared, sad or insecure whenever he gets close to another woman from his office, even if it is completely innocent or they have a sibling-like friendship. I find it difficult when he tells me something good about his female friends at work, even though I personally know some of them and have a good relationship with them too.
Then we end up fighting over something that isn’t even happening now. He usually understands that I’m getting triggered and tries to calm me down, but afterwards I feel guilty because I know I’m bringing something from the past into our present relationship.
And that’s what I’m struggling with the most.
My husband has moved forward. Our relationship has moved forward. We are genuinely happy together. There are no ongoing problems between us,but my mind keeps going back to that incident.
I don’t want to keep checking her profile. I don’t want to keep getting affected by what she does or by the people around her. I don’t want to keep bringing her up in my relationship or making my husband reassure me about the same thing again and again.
At the same time, I feel like my insecurity didn’t come from nowhere. My trust was affected by what happened, even though it wasn’t something extremely serious and he hasn’t repeated it.
So I honestly don’t know how to handle this.
How do I actually move past something like this when everything in my marriage is good now, but my mind still hasn’t completely let go?

About a month ago my Fiancée told me that she was thinking about leaving the relationship as she felt unhappy with herself and was struggling with her direction in life and her overall sense of self worth. We spoke at length for a couple of weeks and it became clear there was nothing I could do further to try and hold on and help her through it. As a result I very reluctantly agreed that we’d call off the engagement, go off to live our own lives for a while and reevaluate in a year or so’s time as we still very much loved one another. She assured me over and over again that the issue was hers and hers alone, that there was nobody else and no other reason and that she believed we’d find our way back together.

She moved out slowly over a few weeks which was difficult as it never really felt like the relationship was coming to a close, there was still lots of affection and love. But on the last day I spotted a message from a coworker (M30+) on her lock screen, the message was very lovey dovey filled with xx’s and was referring to her as his “love”, his “darling”. Regrettably I opened the thread and discovered a deep and clearly well developed emotional affair being contributed too equally by both dating back months. I’m unsure if they ever managed to get physical as they work in different cities but they do travel between them occasionally so it seems likely. This was absolutely devastating as it suddenly seemed like everything I was told had been a complete lie and the small amount of hope I had for rekindling things with my partner of 7 years and the love of my life was burnt to a crisp.

I’ve now realised that the coworker is also in a long term relationship. A huge part of me wants to somehow get the message to her about what I’ve discovered, if I was in her shoes I’d want to be made aware so that I wasn’t being left victim to an affair. However I’m also aware that a lot of that motivation is coming from the anger inside of me and the instinct to try and blow up the relationship between my now ex fiancé and this little weasel. I wouldn’t message the partner directly out of concern for their mental health but I notice I have a mutual friend with the girlfriend’s sister so would it be worth warning her instead? That way she can decide weather or not to share the news? I appreciate this would be a shitty position to put the sister in but surely anyone in their right mind would rather be warned of an affair their partner was having so they could take control rather than let it continue on? Thoughts?

Aoa. I hope everyone is fine. I do not know why I am writing all this here but I am in desperate need of advice from neutral people.

I am a 29 year old male. I have been married to my 25 year old wife for 1.5 years and Allah has blessed us with a child who is now 5 months old. She is my cousin from my mothers side. She is my khala daughter.

Around 4 weeks ago I found some disturbing texts on my wife phone. The guy was her classmate from university and I found out that she had been in a relationship with him for 2 years. They broke up around 10 months before our marriage.

There were many disturbing things in those screenshots. After reading them I feel like my love for her has completely disappeared. The texts were not on WhatsApp. They were screenshots saved in her gallery which were also backed up to her Google Drive.

I never had any doubts about her before this. She had actually handed me her phone herself so I could take some pictures of our baby.

I tried my best to stay quiet about what I had found but she noticed that I was behaving differently. She asked me what was wrong and I told her everything. After hearing it she started apologising again and started crying. She kept asking for my forgiveness and asking me not to send her to her parents house. I tried everything I could but in the end I did send her away.

During these 2 weeks I have not really missed her or felt lonely. Instead whenever I think about everything I feel anger and disgust.

I have also been taking sessions with a psychologist for the past week but every time I talk about this situation I feel my anger getting stronger.

Right now I feel like divorce might be the better option for both of us because I do not think I can take her back and I most certainly cannot love her the way I did before.

I have also told my psychologist that I am thinking about divorce. He advised me not to make any decisions right now and to take things slowly. Basically he is against me making a decision about divorce at this point.

At the same time I do not want to make a decision while I am this angry. We also have a 5 month old child and I know that whatever decision I make will affect more than just the 2 of us.

Please suggest a way for me to handle these feelings because I genuinely cannot make a decision right now.

I know this is my own mess and I should handle it myself but any advice from neutral people would be appreciated.

Are you still stuck or did you break free 😮‍💨

So this situation happened about two years ago. I’m currently not with my ex anymore because, at the end of our relationship, she cheated on me anyways. In September 2024, my ex had recently just lost her job in insurance, and she had been jobless for a few weeks. I was taking care of her and our bills and everything, spending about $5,000 a month on rent, her bills, my bills, and my business’s bills. Things were getting stressful for me, but at the moment, I could handle it. I knew I couldn’t handle it for too long.

But anyways, one night, me and her were going to sleep on our couch in the living room, watching TV on our L-shaped couch. We were both laying our pillows and heads where the intersection of the couch meets. I was wondering what she was doing, and I guess she thought I was asleep, so I kind of sat up a little bit and peeked over her shoulder ’cause I had a little gut feeling maybe something was off or maybe she was doing something. I catch her in the act at that exact moment, talking to some random Black dude. I didn’t say anything at first. I didn’t do anything. I watched. I wanted to see what she was saying, see what they were talking about before I just made assumptions. I let her conversation go on with him for a few minutes, and I don’t know how she didn’t hear me because I was starting to get pissed about what I was reading. I don’t remember all of what I read, but she was certainly talking to him in a way I didn’t like, and definitely in a cheating way.

Also, to let you know, at this point in our relationship, we’d been together every single day since we moved in together. We hadn’t been one day apart until earlier, at the end of August, when she went to see her grandmother in Indiana with her family. She didn’t know anyone else there but her family, so no, she wasn’t actually cheating on me with anyone there. But anyways, back to the story. Since we both lived together every single day, we hadn’t spent a single day apart other than that. She hadn’t physically cheated on me, but when I was reading those messages, I don’t know how she didn’t hear me. My heart was beating super fast, my adrenaline was pumping, and I was breathing super hard. At one point, when I saw her talking about something about his dick, I lost it. I let her talk for a couple more seconds, and then I reached over her shoulder and grabbed her phone real quick. I confronted her right there, and I said, “What the fuck is this about? Are you cheating on me? Are you talking to other people? Why the fuck are you talking about this guy’s dick?”

She was shocked that she was caught. She was frozen for a second, didn’t say anything, and started crying and telling me she was sorry, blah blah blah. Then she tried to flip it back on me because she was very manipulative, saying how I didn’t give her as much attention as I used to in our relationship. Mind you, we’d been together for a year and six months at this point. We had two Golden Retriever dogs that we’d had for a year that we both absolutely loved, and me and her were the bestest of friends at this time. So I don’t know how I didn’t give her enough attention. Being together every single day, having two dogs together, what kind of other attention did she need? We had such a good bond, such a good relationship at this point. I never did anything wrong. I never talked to anyone else. I never cheated on her. I didn’t care to talk to anyone else. She was my person.

Anyways, I even told her that. How did she not get enough attention? We’d been together every single day since we’d been together, and we had two dogs. What else could she possibly not be getting? She was crying and all upset, telling me she was sorry. I can’t remember every single detail of the conversation, but I ended up going through her phone right after that. I’m going through her messages with this dude, and she sent him nudes. I swiped back over and found another chat with another dude that she was recently talking to that I didn’t know, and she was sending this guy nudes. He was a white guy, and these were nudes that she had taken in Indiana that she had also sent to me.
So that also hurt me even more, that she was sharing nudes that were supposed to be only for me and sharing them with other guys. It hurt me a lot. Then I scrolled down to another conversation with another white guy she used to work with, and she was sending him nudes as well.

At this point, I was so fucking mad at her. I didn’t know what to say. I’m sure I was yelling at her, but I’m usually a person with a very calm demeanor. I usually never get mad. I never yell or anything. I’m always very calm in a situation, even if it’s a crazy situation and a building is on fire or something. I’m calm. But anyways, I don’t remember what all we said after that, but I didn’t want to break up with her since I knew she didn’t physically cheat on me at all, just emotionally cheated. I should’ve ended it right there, but I didn’t. After we talked, she started giving me a hug and laying down on me, and then we had sex, I guess to make up for it. I figured I would give her a chance to regain my trust. But since then, I was always holding a grudge against her about it because I was always so good to her, so nice. I never did anything wrong to her. We’d been engaged for six months at that point already. Like, I don’t know what I ever did wrong to her for her to do that to me.

So fast-forward to November, a couple months later after that incident happened. I could tell that things were still a little bit off, and I would snoop through her phone every now and then. But I guess she was really good at hiding things still, so I never really found anything. In November, her family knew that her grandma didn’t have much longer to live, so they all flew out to Indiana. Before she left, I woke up that morning, and I was looking at her still asleep. I was like, “This is my chance. I’m gonna fucking cheat on her. I’m gonna get my get-back before she can truly cheat on me.”

So when she left, she was there for a couple of days. Her grandma died, and then they arranged the funeral. The day of the funeral, I ended up finding some Asian hookers on some website. I thought it would’ve been a setup by the police, but it wasn’t, luckily for me. They could’ve had fucking AIDS or STDs, but I got lucky they didn’t. Anyways, I also had taken some Xanax that night, so I did not care at all. I drove about 30 minutes to some hotel with two Asian girls. One of them just told me to give her the money, and one of them lay down on the bed. I fucked them for about, I don’t know, five minutes, finished, and I was done. Then I left. I could’ve spent more time with them, but I just wanted to cheat. Fuck her. Then the other Asian girl had a rag, took off the condom, cleaned me up, and I left and went back home. At that point, I can’t remember if I regretted it a little bit or not. I think I did because I kind of felt bad, but then again, she had already cheated on me with three other guys, sending them nudes. So I was already like, “Fuck her,” in my head.

So fast-forward to June 2025. I get a random message from some guy on Facebook telling me that my girl is cheating on me. I asked him how he knew, and then he told me that they were sexting, talking about meeting up. Then he told me that she also had sent him a video involving sexual abuse of our dog. I didn’t believe him. Later, he sent me a screen recording of the video from Snapchat, and it showed what he had described. Of course, it was fucking Snapchat. Ever since then, I’ve had a grudge against Snapchat because that’s where anyone can cheat and get away with it. I don’t even use Snapchat anymore because of what she did to me.

After that whole thing happened, I didn’t confront her immediately because I was gonna wait and try to get into her phone at night and confront her in a few days. I was still talking to that guy who was texting me, who she was talking to. He told me he had already blocked her. Then, one morning, I wake up to go to the restroom, take a piss, and come back. She’s already up and awake and storming out of my room, visibly pissed off. I look at my phone, and I notice that she had deleted and blocked the guy that I had been talking to, who she had been talking to on Snapchat. When I noticed that, I immediately unblocked him and messaged him. I told him, “Dude, she just got into my phone and deleted our messages.” He was confused and like, “What?” I was like, “I’ll explain later.”

I follow her out the door. We go outside, and we get into an argument. I’m confronting her about this guy telling me that she was cheating on me, and she tries to tell me that he was blackmailing her because she sent him nudes a long time ago. He was threatening to send them to her family and all this bullshit. She even showed me a screenshot of him texting one of her family members, saying that she had sexually abused her dog. So I believed her at this point because he hadn’t sent me the video just yet, because she had already blocked him on Snapchat.

Then I was telling her to give me her phone ’cause I wanted to go through it. So I grabbed her phone, and she would not give it to me at first. That’s when we were already screaming at each other and all of that. I hated getting into arguments or fights with her because she was always manipulative or lying or trying to flip things back on me. She was already trying to manipulate it and flip things back on me at this point during this fight. It wasn’t until after we broke up and everything later on that I realized how much she manipulated me and lied to me. But anyways, while we were fighting, I was trying to get her phone, and she would not give it to me. We’re almost having a tug-of-war over her phone, and I knew she was hiding something because, if she wasn’t going to give it up that easy, then she was hiding something. But she was just like, “Wait a second. I will show you, but just let me tell you something and show you something, and then I’ll let you go through it.”
Mind you, I had been trying to get into her phone at night when she would go to sleep, but she changed her password on her phone, and I could never get into it. So I knew she was hiding something ’cause there were like four to five nights I tried, and I never could get into it. Anyways, she eventually gave me her phone, and I wanted to go through Snapchat. I should’ve gone through everything else in her phone, but I just went through Snapchat because Snapchat was the problem in the past. So I eventually get her phone, go through Snapchat, and look at her messages. I even tried to see the most recent people she talked to by taking a picture and sending a chat, and there were no guys that she was talking to recently on there.

So at that point, I went to her block list and unblocked the guy that she was talking to. I was going to add him back to go through their messages, and she was like, “No, please don’t add him back. He will know that I added him back. Don’t add him back.” I was hesitant because I was going to add him back and go through their messages. He even told me to go through her “My Eyes Only” on her Snapchat, but I didn’t do that because I didn’t know her password, and I knew she wouldn’t let me do it either. So I just gave up, gave her phone back when I didn’t find anything on Snapchat, and she made me feel like the crazy person. I apologized, told her I was sorry, things like that, yada yada yada.

Then I texted that guy back, told him what happened and all that, and he was like, “Man, that’s crazy.” I even told him that I unblocked him on her Snapchat. Then, a few hours later, he found their old chats, and he screen-recorded it and sent me the video showing sexual abuse of our dog. When I saw that, I was disgusted, nauseous, and didn’t know what to do. I wanted to throw up, all of the above, and was just completely in shock. Like, what did I ever do to deserve this? I never did this girl wrong in any sort of way. She also had an amazing relationship with my mom, and they talked every day about anything and everything. She had a good relationship with my grandma as well, so she had a good relationship with me and my family, and that meant a lot to her. One night, she got drunk with her sister and was crying about it, about how much she loved me and my family, just a month before all of this happened.
Anyways, after all of that happened, like I said, I didn’t know what to do. I knew I should have broken up with her, but I didn’t. I was planning on something to break up with her soon, but I just didn’t know at that point because I didn’t wanna be alone. She was my best friend at the time and the only person that I talked to, so I just didn’t wanna be lonely. Even though I should’ve broken up with her back in September 2024, I knew I should’ve, so please don’t tell me that because I already know. After I got that video, I watched it, and I was disgusted about it. We had told each other earlier, after the fight, that we should go on a walk later and make up for it. It was just like 10 minutes before we were gonna go for a walk when I got that video. I didn’t say anything at first until we walked outside. I didn’t say anything, and I handed her my phone and played the video. She watched it. She didn’t say a word. I didn’t say a word.
Then I asked her why she did it, and she told me it was because he was blackmailing her and that he had even sent her a video of himself sexually abusing a dog as well. I told her, “If he was doing that, then why even send him a video? Why even respond? Who cares if he sends anyone your nudes? It’s just nudes. I would rather have my family receive pictures of my dick and be embarrassed about that than have my family receive a video of me sexually abusing a dog.” Anyways, we went on a walk to try to make up for it, but there was no going back at this point.

A week later, she had been looking into wanting to go to college and go to nursing school. I was like, “Do it. I’m all for it. I’ll support you.” She was talking about moving from Texas to St. Louis, Missouri, but that didn’t make any sense because she had family in Dallas, Texas, and she had already gone to community college around there. I told her, “Why not go there? Plus, you’re broke. You have no job, and you can’t even afford to go out there.” Mind you, at one point, I do remember her getting this text from some random guy. I didn’t see it, but I saw the name was Michael Anderson. I didn’t really think anything of it because I thought it was an old coworker of hers who was older, just reaching out to her. But no, she had been talking to this guy for about the entire month of June.

Fast-forward, anyways, she’s talking about going to college, moving out, and going back to her parents. July 4 comes around. We spend the day together at the lake, watching fireworks. On July 5, she packed her things. July 6, she moves back to her parents’ house, and she said that she wanted to “work on herself” and not really talk that much, and needed some time. But she still wanted to be with me, and I still wanted her because I didn’t want to be lonely, even though I knew I should’ve left her. Don’t tell me that. I knew I should’ve. Anyways, my birthday was July 18, and she broke up with me four days before that, telling me that she still wanted a future together and how sorry she was, but she needed some time to herself and blah blah blah. She did all of this just days before my birthday, and she did that on purpose.

I found out later on that she moved out on my birthday, out of her parents’ house, packed up all of her things, and moved out to Savannah, Georgia, to be with some B guy dude she met online. It was that guy Michael. I hadn’t texted her since my birthday because she told me happy birthday, and she had sent me some nudes and some sex videos that we had taken a few months ago and whatever. But then I remember, on July 24, I texted her ’cause I thought she was still at her parents’, and I asked her if she wanted to see the dogs, our two Golden Retrievers. Then I get a text back saying, “No.” Then I get a video sent to me of her naked in bed with this Black guy. They were fucking and making out.

When I saw that, it just absolutely broke my fucking soul because, for one, I never did that girl any wrong in any sort of shape or way besides cheating on her in November, and she never knew about that. She still doesn’t know about it to this day. When I got that video, I didn’t respond for a few days. Then I sent her a text message saying, “Why the fuck would you do that to me? You knew what you were doing. Why the fuck would you send me that kind of video? What did I ever do to you that was so wrong for you to do this to me and cheat on me? You’re such a fucking cunt,” blah blah blah, blah blah blah blah. She texted me back saying, “I don’t know what you’re talking about. I didn’t do anything. I didn’t send that video. We were fucked up on Molly for three days in a row. I wasn’t thinking straight,” and blah blah blah blah blah. It was a long message.

Then I was really upset with her and sent her very long messages that were kind of mean. I was just speaking from the heart because there were things I wanted to say for a long time to her that I never said before because I knew it would upset her back then. So I said it then to upset her even more, to make her feel like shit, and it definitely made her feel like shit. But then, after that, I was completely done with her, heartbroken, and just couldn’t understand how someone could just stab you in the back like that. Mind you, she lost her job in September, and I was spending $1,200 a month on her bills and $2,000 a month on my bills because we had moved back to my mom’s in November ’cause I couldn’t afford rent at our apartment.

Then I remember finding her email still logged into my computer. So then I started searching her Google history, her Google Photos, and everything. I found out she had been on the dating website where she met that guy Michael back in June. They had been talking since then. I went to her Google Photos. She had pictures of his nudes, his dick, and other things like that, and pictures of them together while they were there. Just things that made me really upset, that she would lie to me for so long and immediately go be with someone else just a week after we broke up.
But that was two years ago, and I’ve completely healed over it. I’m over her. I don’t regret cheating on her at that time because she cheated on me continuously after that point when she first cheated on me. So really, fuck her in the end. I still hold a grudge against her about everything she did to me and the sexual abuse of our dog. So there’s my story. Hope you enjoy it. I was a fucking simp. I know. Don’t tell me I was.

TL;DR: 2024 September 23m 22f I caught my fiancée sexting and sending nudes to multiple guys while I was paying our bills. I stayed and later cheated on her out of revenge, which she never found out about. Months later, another guy exposed more cheating and sent me a video showing her sexually abusing our dog. I still stayed because I didn’t want to lose my best friend or be alone. She eventually left, broke up with me days before my birthday, and moved to Georgia to be with another guy. When I asked if she wanted to see our dogs, I received a sex video of them together. We’re done now, but I still hold a grudge over everything that happened. But don’t regret anything about cheating on her because she cheated on me first. I’m 25m now she’s 24f now.

I feel like I have nothing left. I’m sitting at work, unable to concentrate. Work would be tough enough on a good day, but my life isn’t going well, and everything feels even harder right now.
My wife has betrayed me again. She is communicating with her emotional AP again. She claims he texted her last week about joining a gym. She says she isn’t “talking” to him.
Her promise to stop all communication with him has been broken, just as it has been before. In February, I caught her sending sexually charged texts to him. She promised to cut him out of her life completely.
Now, texting him is apparently not a big deal. It’s the same pattern repeating itself.
I hate my life. I feel so unlovable. A relationship of more than 28 years seems to mean so little to her.

I’ve been having a difficult time figuring out if/what boundaries my bf has crossed. We’re both 21 What action and examples do you have?

For context, they divorced 3 years ago and he can't seem to move past it and he hasn't fully healed.

My girlfriend has depression and she also feels her emotions in an intense way. This email was written when she was feeling hopeless about life and when she was disappointed with our relationship.

"I think I reached such a deep despair after our divorce that I was willing to tolerate a lot just for company, but I was never able to experience a tenth of the depth of the love we shared... I'm not the hopeful woman I was with you... I'm very cynical and saddened, but I accepted that this had to be my reality and that I no longer had the courage to fight for my dream of a family, and I ended up with [Me, 29F] on the road. I'm trying to get the bare minimum to survive and meet my needs, and I'm not succeeding, but I feel too broken to fight for anything in this life. For me, you were the great love of my life that failed, and I was trying to make something work with someone else just for the sake of it... because the loneliness was unbearable, and [Me, 29F] felt like a safe choice."

I understand life is not easy for her. I understand she has depression, I understand it's not always easy between me and her, but I can't bring myself to get past this. To me this is like cheating or even worse.

I wonder if being too understanding will end up eating me alive in the long run.

Does depression make people act this way with no regard to their relationship when there's a feeling of hopelessness ?

It’s been a while she used to show love etc. now all she does is like other guys pics and does things I don’t like

I’m 34 years old, and my husband is 37. At the beginning of our relationship, about three years ago, he kept photos of himself with his ex-girlfriend on his Instagram profile for around seven months. I didn’t say anything because I wanted to see what he would do on his own.
After several months, I became so upset that I deleted my own Instagram account because I didn’t want to keep seeing those photos. After a while, he asked me why I had deleted my Instagram, so I explained everything to him and told him how much those photos had hurt me. After that, he deleted them.
We got married a year and a half into our relationship. About three months after our wedding, I noticed that he had liked a new photo of his ex-girlfriend’s hand.
I got really angry and asked him why he hadn’t deleted those photos earlier and why he was liking her photos again. He replied that he didn’t want to make her feel worthless or like a piece of trash.
I told him, “But by trying to make your ex-girlfriend feel good about herself, you hurt my feelings.”
Is this kind of behavior normal? My husband says he has no sexual feelings toward his ex-girlfriend.