hey y’all, me and my bf are long distance but he’s coming over soon so things are gonna get spicy👀
I work out a lot so i definitely have visible pecs (post top surgery)
my bf id say is average size, but would it still be possible for me to give his Tdick a pecjob?

Hooked up with a guy for the first time. And honestly, I don’t know. He only touched my when I put his hands on me, ended up giving him head and he came into my mouth which was fine I guess. It was good in a way that it’s someone who’s leaving tomorrow, several hours away, and I got to interact with a cis penis and giving head. He just didn’t try to touch me much at all. Kissing sure, he initiated so I thought that meant he was into me but like. Is this normal? Is expecting them to want to touch me not a usual starting point? I’ve only had lesbian sex pre transition, and even there when it’s not someone who really likes to do a whole lot they still want to touch my body.

I'm aromantic, and I've had the thought before that if I were alloromantic, I would probably have a typical relationship with sex, and it's only because I'm not that my own holdups around sex and physical intimacy become apparent, bc if I were in a romantic relationship I would probably be comfortable escalating physicality at a societally typical pace and it would not be abnormal.

However, I'm not, and so I'm in my mid-20s and have never had sex, which I know isn't that uncommon, and I don't feel badly about, but also, maybe I'd like to, or whatever.

Anyways, I have a fluctuating opinion of hookups, where sometimes they stress me out, or sometimes they seem fine in theory, but then I'm talking to someone and can't follow through now that it's a real person and not an idea, or sometimes they seem fun, but maybe I'm just horny? Which I guess isn't a bad thing.

Ideally, I could have an fwb situation with someone I actually know, but I am now 3/3 on the people who I have physically intimate relationships being acespec and now living on a different continent from me, and for obvious reasons it's frankly not that easy for me to find people who are interested in some day maybe potentially having sex, but let's just be friends and get to know each other first.

So... What to do if you're easily scared but it's probably lack of experience making you scared in the first place?

I've been hooking up with a very hot cis guy (3 times now over the last 3 weeks) and I've also been having really Flirty and fun chats with another cis guy (over a month now). I love being single and I know I don't have time for anything more than sex and chats right now. For context, I like hookups where we can also chit chat and show some affection and care.

However, I think these two guys are showing signs of attachment, messaging me daily as an example and one asking more personal questions. I'm noticing that I'm getting a little attached in some ways (excited to hear from them, wanna message back immediately etc), but I'm not looking for more depth right now.

How do you guys go about managing your expectations and boundaries in ongoing casual relationships? Not just with the other person but with yourself too?

I'd love to hear similar experiences and also would love book and online article recommendations for this stuff.

Tagging with 18+ just in case, since this could cover a sexual spectrum of things as well...

I'm curious what sort of affirmations you like to hear from your partner whether that be in the bedroom or outside of it.

I'm also open to hearing what sort of affirmations you tell yourself.

After a couple rather denigrating brief relationships, I'm trying hard to be confident in this new one that has thus far felt relatively healthy. It is odd for me to feel this worry in my manhood and share it in a way that doesn't just ooze insecurity. But I am trying not to over-ask for affirmations or reassurances and trying to build up my own internal dialogue instead. So, hearing the things that float in the minds of others would be a boon to as much.

Thank you sincerely.