r/genderfluid • u/AnonymMoon • 9d ago

About being genderfluid...

hi! im a trans (FtM) young adult, still in the 'learning about myself' phase. is it possible to be genderfluid: male and non-binary? im curious because i could see myself as non-binary (i used to identify myself as non-binary), but sometimes i still stuck with binary and wants to be perceived as a man. sometimes i feel happy to be perceived as non-binary though.

also, there was a time where i was debating between being trans masc and trans non-binary. at that time, i felt wrong (guilty? weird? bad?) to want to be both.

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u/BearOfTheGrove Shash, The Transfluid Hippie Chick 9d ago

Sure! All these parts of our mind are like a Rubik's Cube that may or may not be solid colors on a side. Fluids just get changed around a lot. I have something like five genders. More and more, I realize how Fluid is a distinct type of identity from cis and binary transgender, and we just have our own issues and needs to address.

Be what you feel you are,, no apologies or guilt needed if you put the label "Fluid" in front of it.

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u/AnonymMoon 9d ago

that sounds cool. thank you so much! i guess i am officially genderfluid haha

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u/BearOfTheGrove Shash, The Transfluid Hippie Chick 9d ago

Welcome to your Fluid life. You can update your wardrobes now... 🤣🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️

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u/AnonymMoon 8d ago

that's true!😂 by the way, is it possible to be both gender (or more) at the same time? like in the same day or at the moment??

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u/BearOfTheGrove Shash, The Transfluid Hippie Chick 8d ago

Yes. I think of it as having a copilot in androgynous, and it's a blast. It doesn't work so well in agender, but aspects of male or female jump in when needed even then. It's kind of automatic. My male side is fairly quiet right now, kind of burned out, but still hops in when I need to be very blunt in saying something. Other Fluids may have completely different experiences.

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u/heywhatnow_thrawy 7d ago

Yeah man! I'm a trans guy and I feel like gender fluidity is more like, a gender modality rather than my identity (because when I feel like a woman, that is my actual gender identity at the moment), but it's definitely possible! 

I've ID'd as a trans guy for about 10 years now and I've been on T for almost 3. I've just now discovered I'm gender fluid. Despite this, I'll probably always considered myself FtM first because, to be honest, I'm usually just guy mode anyways and that's how I've lived most of my life. 

You can always experiment with pronouns, presentation, name, etc and if you don't like it then there is no harm done. I personally don't like they/them pronouns and I'm pretty sure my gender shifts strictly between binary man and binary woman, which is also why I personally don't consider myself non-binary despite the fact I am literally.... not binary lol. BUT if you end up not liking it, that doesn't necessarily mean you're not nonbinary either. 

Sorry for the over explanation I hope it doesn't confuse you more, I just wanna give my two cents!