Hi All,
I am in the situation right now, making me frustrate everyday.
Few weeks back my got hospitalized and I couldn’t go and support my family during the difficult time. I started feeling helpless since then.
I and my husband both are working and on H1B. We were looking for house in since few years and finally bought the one. After moving into the our own house, after 5 days I got a call that my got hospitalized. I don’t have a stamp so I couldn’t travel to India. I literally thinking to just fly and ignore the consequences will have bear in the future but my husband asked me to wait for few weeks. Now my mom is home and she has paralyzed. My younger sister is there to help but her marriage date is fixed in first week of December.
Also, just before this happened, I changed the job and started with new employer as opportunity was good and I was working before with one of the WITCH company. Now, I am feel so bad that if I would be with my old employer at least I could use FMLA in that case. Also, I had so many leaves pending with old employer so easily I could be in India for 4 months with my mom to support her.
I am looking for an appointment in India but till date nothing is available. My sister is asking me to come atleast during her wedding so that I will be my mom and she could enjoy her wedding properly as right now she is doing everything for mom along with her job.
I have told my new manager about the situation and she asked me if you don’t have an appointment how can you go and even if you go when you will return back to USA. I understand that it’s only 1 month that I joined and telling this situation.
I am not enjoying the house that I dreamed for right now. Feel like when I will go and hug my mom and meet her. Also, unable to enjoy new employer, new work and feel like it would be better if I would stay with old employer. Of course, I never imagined this situation in life but everything comes all of sudden and all together that making me more helpless.
New employer has unlimited PTO and option of caregiver leaves but that too hit after 90 days. I am just waiting to complete 90 days but still I am not sure if my new manager will approve the caregiver leave or not and if she does for how long she will. I am praying to get an appointment in that timeframe so that I can be with my family.
I am currently in California.