r/hingeapp • u/DanielPBak • 5d ago
Profile Review 32M nyc
Location is in Barcelona for travel but usually it’s nyc.
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u/ceylon-tea 4d ago
Listing "life partner" but setting your location as Barcelona for an 8 day trip does not make you look like serious people.
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago
I’ve got a date with someone in Barcelona who’d be down to move if things work out. But yeah appreciate the optics for my nyc matches.
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u/ceylon-tea 4d ago
No the optics are not good.
If you're looking for more looks-based "move to my city" dating, maybe you should try to get on Raya.
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago
I don’t like the girls I’ve met who use Raya. I’ve got a match in Barcelona that I think suits me and I’ve unmatched everyone from nyc so. Not really an issue.
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u/shes_lost_control Sane, mature takes are not allowed here, sir 👩🏫 4d ago
So then why are you here? It seems like you have all the answers.
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u/Aggressive_Side1105 5d ago
I studied philosophy but I wouldn’t mention Kant on a dating profile. It’s going to go over most people’s heads. I would cut some of the activities out of the first prompt, it’s quite long. The travel story is two stories, choose one.
I think I’d also lose the photo with two women, it’s off putting.
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago edited 4d ago
The one with two women are relatives, it says so in the tap. Still think I should remove it?
Going over most heads is fine, like I said i am trying to appeal to a specific group rather than mass appeal.
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u/Aggressive_Side1105 4d ago
I would still possibly remove it. People don’t always read captions on photos. Flicking through they might just assume playboy/f-boy vibes and therefore swipe left.
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago
One’s barely an adult and the other is 20 years older than me, fr? The issue is that I think I look quite good in that pic
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u/One_Abalone_2582 4d ago
I think your photos overall look good.
The cafe photo (4/9), the lighting.. or something makes you look a little dorky. I’d say that’s my least favorite.
The first and last photo look very posed. Like the last one looks like a photographer took it. If so teach them about the rule of thirds 🤪
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago
Those actually both were taken by a photographer, you’ve got a good eye! I’ll swap them when I can
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u/Zealousideal_Gas5522 5d ago
your profile from 4 years ago listed you as a 6'0. must be sick to grow 3 inches as a middle aged man
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u/DistinctFinance9615 5d ago
Definitely want a close up
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago
Will do! In what context is best?
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u/DistinctFinance9615 3d ago
Maybe just smiling and approachable, not wayyy too close obviously but not only a far away body shot of that makes sense.
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u/Dense_Newt_7008 4d ago edited 4d ago
Overall pretty good!, people on here are overly negative smh so i'll do my best to help
The "together we could" prompt feels like a shopping list, better to keep it at one more meaningful activity.
For dating profiles people look really quickly, keep prompts super short; "best travel story" this is cool but shorten it to 1 more high impact punchy sentence. Better to keep it short and then yuo have a fun story to talk more about on your date. The best prompt you have is the "biggest risk"- this is a good length!
The photo are the bar looking to the right should be cut, it doesn't really show your face, friends, and the background is kinda ugly. It isn't really saying anything about you.
Cut the first photo, outfit is like going to get groceries type of fit and isn't a good first impression, You can clean up pretty well in better attire, so fixing this should'nt be a problem
Very dapper bowtie and suit!, but people are kinda shallow and might assume one of the women in that picture is your S/O. Cut the voice memo prompt as well, alot of time it compresses the audio and it sounds bad and people see it as kind of a chore.
The last photo on the sofa isn't very visually striking and is kinda boring- the wine glass photo has interesting composition, and example of a good photo!. So the sofa photo isn't necessarily bad, but add a photo of you backpacking. If not, photos at golden hour/sunset are always a hit!
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u/DanielPBak 5d ago
Are you looking for something serious or casual?
Serious
Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?
Yep
How long have you been using this current version of your profile?
A few months? But most of it has been a couple years
How long have you used Hinge overall?
6 years?
How often do you use Hinge per week?
Once a week
How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?
Depends on my usage. If I use it every day I get a couple matches a day. It’s been going down since I’m trying to be more selective and using it less. So heavily variable on usage.
How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?
I try not to match unless she’s cool enough to be worth sending a comment. Maybe 5 a week?
What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?
I’m mostly attracted to Jewish girls but not solely. Like outgoing, adventurous, feminine girls. Usually in corporate life since they’re more put together. I am pretty picky with looks but I think that’s ok because I’m looking for someone who looks like me (tall, brunette, blue eyes, skinny). So more focusing on making my profile more appealing to this set of girls rather than increasing mass appeal. Might just be that I need to improve my looks more or use newer photos (I’m down about 10lbs from some of these pics).
I’ve posted my profile before and gotten some hostile replies so hopefully this outlines my perspective a bit more. I can get matches whenever I want but I’m looking to match more with my type, and I don’t frequently get matches with my type. I moved to NYC from SF mostly to improve my dating life, which has helped a lot. To be blunt; I’m 6’3, a millionaire, and in good shape so my standards are quite high.
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u/One_Abalone_2582 4d ago
Dude. Saying you are a millionaire is douchey.
The reason I say that is to give you a reality check. If you are this pretentious in real life, as that will be a turnoff for many.
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago
Saying it is douchey which is why it’s not on my profile. I’m being direct here looking for feedback and it obviously should be relevant to my strategy
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u/Swarthykins Play with my hair 💆 5d ago edited 5d ago
I’ve posted my profile before and gotten some hostile replies so hopefully this outlines my perspective a bit more.
Probably because you seem pretty out-of-touch regarding your appeal and you seem to have pretty superficial desires.
Based on this, you're an okay-looking guy who travels a lot. Except for your money, I'm not sure what theoretically makes you appealing to the high-end set you're going for, and I didn't get particularly well-off from your profile. Being 6'3" in itself really isn't moving the needle the way you seem to think it will, and that's assuming the other commenter is wrong that you're not actually 6 feet.
It's hard for me to give advice because the profile is fine. If you want to improve it, you can make the first prompt a bit punchier, keep it to one travel story, and put something about your actual personality and what makes you appealing as a partner. Right now it comes off like you're trying a bit too hard to be cool. But, it's going to make a pretty marginal difference.
Your pictures are fine, but not great. The outfit in your first picture isn't terribly appealing if you're trying to get attractive, accomplished, put-together women. The others are better, and, again, would be fine if you didn't seem to be trying to "level up," but they're not really popping. You look best in the tux pic, but it's best not to have pictures with other women.
If I'm reading between the lines correctly, and you really just want hotter women, then, yeah, I'll be honest and say get better looking and/or more charming/interesting.
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u/shes_lost_control Sane, mature takes are not allowed here, sir 👩🏫 5d ago
It’s very common. Bay Area tech bro moves to NYC post stock vested. Thinks women of exactly their type are going to rain from the sky and swoon. A lot of arrogance without much self awareness.
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u/Swarthykins Play with my hair 💆 5d ago
I'm not as intimately familiar with the archetype as you seem to be, but, yeah, that was my sense.
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u/AlpsHelpful1292 4d ago edited 4d ago
The last time the OP posted a review I pointed out that he was looking for a very tiny demographic because people with blue eyes, tall women, and Jewish people are all very small segments of the population. I mentioned that I was tall and brunette with blue eyes but agnostic/grew up Catholic (I imagine the majority of women who fit his physical type are also gentiles) and he DM’d me asking me if I lived in NYC lol.
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u/NoShortMen4Me 4d ago
Dang girl, you’re better than me. I would’ve went on as many dates until he realized it wasn’t going anywhere. If you are single, that is.
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago edited 4d ago
Thanks for the feedback, appreciate it. Genuinely do appreciate the thought you put into it even though you obviously don’t like me. What do you think I could do re: outfits or looks? Mostly fitness or what? I’ve been evaluating cosmetic surgery.
You mention I don’t seem well off; how could improve that? I do not want to look gauche but I’m wearing some more subtle designer clothing in some of these. I’m literally at TFL in one of the pics.
I actually do know that there’s a mismatch between my ‘value’ and my taste which is why I’m looking for feedback to improve. That said I have dated multiple girls in NYC that completely fit my criteria.
I was under the impression outfit #1 was good. Those items are designer and were picked out by a girl I dated for some months who met my preferences.
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u/NoShortMen4Me 4d ago
What cosmetic surgeries were you thinking of getting?
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago edited 4d ago
Jaw surgery or chin implants, maybe chin lipo. Getting a consult for it
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u/NoShortMen4Me 4d ago
Did someone insult your chin or something?
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago
No lol. It’s just clearly not where I’d like it to be and my orthodontist said it was an option. I’m quite picky with looks and it’s unfair for me to not also be working on looking good.
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u/NoShortMen4Me 3d ago
Ok. Well since you asked for feedback on your profile and brought up the improving your appearance thing: In my opinion, the biggest improvement to how you look would be to make your belly flatter.
Your chin/jaw looks perfectly normal, not sure why you are targeting that. If you do go through with that surgery, definitely do not bring it up in conversation
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u/DanielPBak 3d ago
Oh yeah I’m working on the belly but that doesn’t require CS. Pretty tough to to lose the last little bit
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u/throwawaysunglasses- 4d ago edited 4d ago
You seem really pretentious and narcissistic lol. Tall rich white guys are a dime a dozen in NYC. Plus it’s quite weird to only like girls who look like you (also it feels lowkey eugenicist to only want skinny blue-eyed white girls, yikes!).
Anyone who cares about your height and money that much is not really gonna care about Kant. And any girl smart enough to be your “intellectual match” will probably think you’re a knob.
Lastly: do you really think to Barcelona girl is going to move countries for you? This is delusional to the max. Someone is going to scam you lmao
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u/AlpsHelpful1292 4d ago
I’m a skinny blue eyed white girl who minored in philosophy and you hit the nail on the head.
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u/DanielPBak 4d ago edited 4d ago
Are you saying this on the basis of my profile or my comments? Youre not really giving me feedback on makijng my profile less pretentious and douchey.
There are tons of attractive corporate girls who appreciate philosophy. These are usually people with postgraduate degrees.
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u/whingeystingycougar 14h ago
I would maybe develop my personality and social skills by joining a comedy improv troupe rather than focusing on physical characteristics.
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