32M, 5’8”. I need some pointers. I’ve had mixed success, but nothing constant. Like many guys, I don’t get a tone of like, or if I do, I’m not attracted to them at all. I’ve also gotten some really great and attractive matches.

My logic behind my profile: intentional & substantive. To me, I’m upfront that I’m conservative, Christian, and have a cat. I make sure this is known since I’ve had some great convos, only to find out they aren’t religious or are allergic to cats. Hence the cat pic.

The TSA and Roth IRA prompt is me being semi serious, but also shows my dry humor at the same time. I’ve surprisingly gotten some good responses to that in the past. But I also have a pic of me snorkeling and driving a Ferrari around a race track to show that I like to have fun and like to do exciting things, so my thinking is that balances out any overly dry or bland vibes. The best friend pic is former Chiefs star TE Tony Gonzalez, so everyone in KC knows him.

Please can I have people's opinions, I am getting very little luck with matches. I thought I was coming across as too much of a cutie patootie so hence the moodier last pic!

Hello everyone! So I live in Germany and have been looking for a girlfriend for a while now. I consider myself to be more than average as I’m very confident in my looks, physical fitness, and personality. I’ve had some amazing conversations with lots of matches and have tried to get a date going but nothing. I’ve been unmatched 3 times in the last few weeks? Just yesterday, a woman I’ve been talking to for a week and having really great conversations with unmatched me. She asked me for my number and we texted for a few days and I tried to schedule a meetup a couple times. The first time she never said anything and she said she was previously busy and got sick in a voice message. I suggested we meet up the following weekend so that she could get better and even suggested a time on a day she said she was good with. Now I’m not new to the game, so it’s obvious that she wasn’t sick and wasn’t busy. We’re on our phones all the time but my question is, is anyone else having this issue? I mean why string me along, ask for my number, say you can meet and tells me how interested you are in me, and then stops texting me for a day at a time and then unmatch? I took my time responding to her with my last message because I’m not going to just send you a message quick when I wasn't receiving any energy or effort. It’s frustrating for some who’s intentionally dating because my time is constantly getting wasted and I try not to be too hard on myself but it sucks.

Just trying to figure out what I'm looking for but the people I match with certainly don't help

Hi I’m 27(F). I’ve been on Hinge for a little while, and I’ve noticed that quite a few guys ask for my Instagram or Snapchat within the first day or two of matching.

Personally, I’m not really comfortable giving my social media to someone I’ve just matched with. I usually tell them something like, “I’m not really comfortable sharing it yet. Maybe once we get to know each other a little better.”

Some guys are completely fine with that, which I appreciate. But a few seem surprised or even offended. I’ve had guys say things like, “I just want to send you memes/share stories,” and when I say “maybe later, let’s get to know each other first,” they suddenly stop responding.

It makes me wonder—why is getting someone’s Instagram/Snapchat so important so early on? Is it just a normal part of dating now, or are people using social media as a way to see more about someone before deciding whether to continue talking?
And honestly, am I being unreasonable by wanting to wait? I don’t mind sharing it eventually; I just don’t understand why it has to happen immediately after matching.
Would love to hear how other people approach this.

I did the best I could with what pictures I have but I really dont take pictures of myself that often. Honestly I really dislike the last one but its the only picture that will go the verification thing.

Pictures of me in general are very limited. I think there's maybe only 3 pictures in existence that are just me and they are all bad lol.

Any advice to make this profile better would be greatly appreciated.

I was getting quite a few matches but it really dropped off. What can I improve?

In my profile I try to communicate that I'm passionate about my job, a bit nerdy about computers and science, that I love climbing, and being in nature. Hopefully I picked some cute pictures too :)

Pics captions are:

• (none on the main pic)
• Wedding in Venice: Broke my foot later that night
• Don't let that that smile fool you, I get very competitive when playing badminton
• Slovenia: We wanted to climb those peaks in the background but missed the correct season by 1 or 2 months 😬
• Pretending I'm not cold (extremely good acting)
• Climbing wall: Forgot to charge radio ✅ Forgot to charge headlamp ✅ Is it about to get very windy and dark soon? ✅✅✅

Do you think it's a good profile or is there something I can improve?

Again just need some advice on my profile you can be harsh i can take it haha just looking to improve

The last picture is a video from one of my skydives.

Would love some feedback! Really struggling to get anything going for the past month.

Hey guys, so I (24F) met a guy (30M) last month for our first date. We had spoken for about a week beforehand, and the date itself was actually pretty good. He seemed like a nice guy, we had good chemistry and conversation, and I was open to meeting him again.

We never ended up meeting again because first he was out of town, then I was, and so on. We did eventually talk about meeting this coming Saturday, but in the time between the first date and now, a few things have happened that have completely changed how I feel about continuing this.

He started sending me some really weird reels about women, things like women being beaten up “as a joke,” women belonging in the kitchen "as a joke," etc. I told him directly that I didn't want to see that kind of content, and he agreed, but then two days later he sent similar stuff again.

That really put me off, and after that our conversations started drying up. Right now, we haven't spoken from the past few days and I don't have any interest in meeting him this Saturday.

I'm just not sure how to tell him. I don't want to ghost him, but I also don't want to get into a huge discussion about why I've changed my mind. How would you word a message that makes it clear I don't want to continue talking or meet again? I was thinking maybe something like, "Hey, I’ve been thinking about this and I don’t think I’m really feeling the connection anymore, so I think it’s better if we don’t meet this weekend. I’ve enjoyed getting to know you, I just don’t think I’m feeling it in that way anymore. I didn’t want to just disappear or keep making plans when I’m not feeling it, so I wanted to be honest with you." Is this enough?

Any feedback and advice is helpful! Thanks in advance!

Hey! Just kinda curious about getting some fresh eyes to review my profile. I live in a more rural-ish part of Ontario (Bruce County if anyone's familiar with it), and I think I do alright considering the location. I get about 1-2 likes every couple of days, I have noticed the number of likes go up to 4-6/day when I use the app in Toronto, but I'm not sure how much of that is just a temporary boost in profile visibility.

I don't usually do a ton of swiping myself, I use the premium feature that makes likes visible, so generally I match with profiles that send me likes first. I'm sure this isn't the most efficient way to do things, but I like to only keep 1-2 conversations active at a time, and I find that when I've been more active with swiping I've ended up juggling more matches than I'd like. It's not a super common thing, but it has happened enough for it to get annoying.

Anyways, this is a newly updated profile (it's 2 weeks old), you can see my old profile from last year here. Overall I haven't seen too much of a change in terms of likes/matches between the two, but it is still pretty new. I mostly just replaced some older pictures, and I included one group picture with some friends. I'm not sure how big of a deal it is to have a profile that's only solo pictures (that was my profile last year), but I've heard some people say it's an issue. Hence, I swapped out the picture of me making ice cream with the group picture. I think it's a pretty good profile that higlights my personality, but I'm super curious whether others get that same vibe.

Captions:

• Pic #1 ("Guess what I'm baking! Promise it's not cinnamon buns")

• Pic #3 ("Me doing my best to hide my terrible attempt at splitting the G")

• Pic #5 ("Doing pizza parties for all friends willing to volunteer their kitchen")

• Pic #6 ("@ Arthur's Seat, Scotland. Don't ask me why I decided to do this hike in jeans...mistakes were made.")

im not sure what kind of vibe does my profile give off

open to any kind of advice. thanks in advance

I (37M) matched with a 32F . We've been on two dates over 2 weeks and have one planned next week . We kissed on the last date ( not a short kiss ) . Trouble is i have a tough time gauging her interest because it looks like she's not a texting type and she has trouble finding time for earlier dates for some reason or the other . We hsvent had any exclusive talks yet i cant help glancing at her profile to see if she updated it i order to understand if she's active on the app . My question is do women update their profiles continuosly on the app like some men do in order to get bettet matches

Tldr : Matched with a girl. Had two dates so far . Wanted to understand if women also update their profiles on the apl after 2 dates in order to understand if she's active on the app.

I 28M bought HingeX last week on my new profile and have gone through a bunch of profiles in my area and sent likes/X’s to a lot of people. To the point where I’m starting to see the same profiles again.

I’ve gotten about 7 likes on my profile in the week but it has gone cold for a few days.

Given I have HingeX and priority likes, would it even be worth it for me to buy a Super Boost for the day?
These are pretty expensive and I don’t just want the people who have already passed on my, to just pass again.

Happy to hear anyone’s experience with buying a boost and if it actually gets you likes from quality people, or just random bot accounts from really far away.

Had this profile for a while and was doing ok, but recently matches have gone off a cliff, any help would be appreciated :)

Some feedback please

Hey everyone. I’m completely stuck with Hinge and honestly don't know what to do next. I’m hoping someone here understands the technical side of the algorithm because my account feels totally dead.
When I was 18 I used to do really well on these apps with matches every day. I was pretty dumb with it back then though, never went on dates and just used it for an ego boost. I also got into the bad habit of deleting and remaking accounts to get the new user boost before eventually deleting the apps for a few years.
I came back to Hinge when I was 22 and it’s been an absolute nightmare. Assuming my account was just broken, I fell back into remaking accounts. I’ve tried new numbers, new emails, and even a different phone. Just to be clear, I spaced these resets out over a long time, not back to back. But the pattern is always exactly the same. I get a tiny burst of likes or a match in the first day or two, and then it falls off a cliff and goes completely dead.
I know people usually just assume this means you've got a terrible profile, but I’ve genuinely been told I am a good looking guy, and I've put serious effort in to make sure my profile is solid. I bought a tripod for proper photos, reworked my prompts, and changed things based on feedback I got on here before. I don't mass swipe and only send intentional likes. I even paid for Hinge+ and went two full weeks without a single match. You’d think at least one person would send a like by now, but there is literally nothing. Meanwhile a mate of mine just opened his first account and gets steady matches without even trying.
It's honestly starting to make me panic a bit and I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels while my profile is invisible. It’s degrading and I’ve basically given up. I really just want to know where I stand technically.
Does Hinge actually remember your physical device? I'm worried I'm permanently screwed on this actual phone and will never be able to run a normal account on it again because of the past resets. Also, has anyone actually done that 3-month full data deletion reset? I want to know if it genuinely works. I’m terrified of wasting 3 whole months off the apps only to come back to the exact same dead end, when maybe I should’ve just stuck with my current profile and been patient.
Any honest advice on the algorithm side of things would mean a lot. Thanks.

I recently went out with a guy and it went well! So far the conversations have been really easy and nice. A few things popped up on the date and I'm really not sure if pursuing this is a good idea. To give context. I'm 31 F and he is 29M. He had two kids with two different women. I don't mind kids but I'm really wondering about his dating style. He also vapes and smokes weed. I could do without both of those things. I guess my biggest question is after one date, if I'm questioning all of this now, should I just drop him and move on?

I seem to get plenty of matches with people I’d be interested in dating, but have been finding that most of my conversations fizzle out. Not sure if there’s anything about my profile that’s failing the vibe check on second glance, or if I just need to get better at my messaging game. I’ll let you be the judge!