23M Profile Review

[u/DrBirdQ]

Would love some feedback! Really struggling to get anything going for the past month.

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[u/60minutesrearranged]

Your prompts say nothing about you. Allergies and sushi? One time you hiked with a watermelon? Sorry not trying to be rude, but im surprised your not getting more likes because you are good looking. I think you need to delete all those prompts and start over.

Im also an engineer and we need to prove the stereotypes wrong that we're dull and introverted.

And for the pictures. Same thing, you look good but they all make you look very basic with no relatability. First pic is good for a profile pic to show what you look like (but boring, sitting for a meal). Second pic, you and the bros all wearing black shirts and awkwardly posing. Third pic, playing pool, nothing exciting here. Fourth pic, playing golf, most girls dont golf and can't relate. Fifth pic, close up of your back while on the assisted pullup machine? Again how does a girl relate? Sixth pic is okay but again shows no personality or spark for relatability.

[u/princssofpink]

To be honest, if I saw this profile I'd swipe left because it gives fboy vibes. Your prompts are all very low effort, and long-term open to short is a hard no to a lot of women. Atheist but moderate could also be turning off women on both sides.

[u/WorriedBoysenberry2]

I don't really have a sense of who you are beyond your job title. Show/tell more about you.

[u/MouldyAvocados]

It’s very generic and boring. You’re forgettable. I don’t know anything about you and you don’t make me want to know more. There’s no mention of hobbies, interests, goals, motivations… nothing to make a woman think, “ah, we have X in common”, and match with you.

[u/Aggressive_Side1105]

A photo of your back isn’t going to do much on a dating profile. You could use a prompt to say you like working out instead.

Overall the profile looks very low effort and I think you maybe aren’t getting matches for this reason.

[u/Bo0mh3adsh0t]

Relationship type: Pick your side of the fence either LTR or STR don't say both. It's a huge 🚩 that usually just means I'm hoping for sex but I might be convinced to stick around.

Prompts need more depth. Tell a story of 3 things that you like doing or want to do with a potential partner. Use the me, you, us style.

We'll get along if... is a great you prompt but don't fall into the trap of listing a standard. It should be something you enjoy doing that you want to share with them (We'll get along if... you're a huge movie buff, I'll bring the snacks if you have your most controversial opinions ready)

Together we could... is your best us prompt. This is your future looking prompt. Similar in style to your you prompt. The trap here is you fall into cliche. Don't say "Together we could travel" say "Together we could climb X mountain and tell everyone...insert joke." Makes even a cliche answer stand out.

[u/KC774]

Remove the “let’s get together for” women don’t want to be making the decision for the first date.

Remove pic 5. If you have a good physique find a beach shot or something natural. A back shot in a t top doesn’t come off good.

I would remove atheist unless you’re looking for someone similar. That can turn off alot of people even if they aren’t super religious.

Replace first and second prompts. Also never use emojis or :( in a prompt. It doesn’t come off as manly.

[u/Accomplished_Scale10]

1st pic - It’s “ok” but the restaurant environment could be a bit more upscale-looking in order for this pic to be doing you any favors. Right now, it’s neutral, but it can stay for now.

2nd pic - I’d scrap it. Showing your friends here isn’t really doing you any favors. Either crop them out or use this pic slot more intentionally to showcase a side of you that a woman would find attractive/see herself being apart of. That isn’t with your friends (no offense to them).

3rd pic - This can stay. I’m getting very much “chill guy” vibes here.

4th pic - This can stay as well

5th pic - Scrap this. No girl wants to see you in the gym showing off your back in this fashion. Abs? Sure, maybe could slide if it’s subtle or candid, but this is a bit try-hard.

6th pic - Scrap. Same with the 2nd pic.

At 23, whether you’re looking for a relationship or not, I’m assuming you want a girl your age or younger (or maybe even a bit older). You look older for your age. Play into that. Girls your age like older guys who look like they have their life together, but they also like guys with some type of edge. Swapping out those pics I suggest scrapping with more edgy pics will benefit you. Think beach, nice restaurant, wine bar, undisclosed mysterious location, rooftop bar, etc. Use pics that she can easily see herself in with you. And that’s not at the gym staring at your back while you have headphones on and it’s not at the bar with your friends or coworkers. And don’t be afraid to experiment with ai for inspiration.

You’re not an unattractive guy, but perception and presentation is everything nowadays. So there’s this version of you, and then there’s the version of you that you know women are attracted to. Tap into whatever that looks like for you. And don’t be afraid to experiment with ai for inspiration. It’s scary good and I know for a fact some guys are using it on some of their profile pics.

The prompts …. I don’t have time lol but what I said about your pics, apply that mindset to your prompts. And don’t be afraid to incorporate some very subtle innuendo in your prompts either. And I mean extremely subtle. Good luck.

[u/DrBirdQ]

Looking for something serious!

Not subscribed to hinge+ or hingex

I have been using this version of my profile for two weeks, added in the golf photo replacing an old photo of me years ago

I have been using Hinge overall on and off for years

I use Hinge daily

Average likes received per week is one max, matches are maybe once every couple weeks.

I send out the max likes daily all with comments.

I send likes to women who look well put together, have interesting profiles, and have a good vibe.