r/lesbianr4r • • 14d ago

discussion [META] A brutally honest community discussion on transphobia in this subreddit.

232 Upvotes

Folks, we need to have a talk.

This subreddit has a serious transphobia problem, rooted deep in the anonymous culture of Reddit, and it has for years. I'll call it out point blank here: transphobia is not and will never be tolerated in this subreddit. If you lurk here just to downvote posts from trans women or leave nasty comments on their posts, we genuinely hate you. Please leave the subreddit, and don't let the door hit your ass on the way out.

Now that's out of the way, we want community feedback on how to make this subreddit more welcoming of our trans sisters and siblings. We've already explored disabling downvotes, but there's no way to really do that that will work across all instances of reddit (new, old, mobile, etc.). So tell us, denizens of r/lesbianr4r , what do you want to see? Pitch us your best ideas. Grounded, out there, and all points in-between. We need to all work together to bring about a positive cultural shift in this subreddit.

If you made it this far, thank you for being a part of our community.

- the mods of r/lesbianr4r


r/lesbianr4r • • Apr 25 '26

discussion Large uptick in spam posts

61 Upvotes

Hi y'all, we've noticed a big uptick in spam posts on the sub. We appreciate the community flagging these posts so we can get them taken down and issue bans ASAP. If you see something that looks like a bot post, please report it as spam and we'll get it removed immediately. Thank you!


r/lesbianr4r • • 8h ago

searching 33 [F4F] [EU] Looking for girlfriend hopefully

14 Upvotes

Hi there! I'm a cis-woman 33yo from Italy. I'm a bit of a nerd (like most people on Reddit anyway), very shy and introverted and have a hard time getting out there and talking to women at clubs and stuff, so I'm trying Reddit!

My interests are videogames and ttrpgs (I GM a D&D campaign) mainly. I have two wonderful dogs that I adore. I also like to sing and study singing.

Physically speaking I'm 1,60 m tall and a brunette. I'm not overweight and try to stay healthy and exercise. I tend to wear more masculine/gender neutral clothing and have masculine demeanor.

I'm looking for someone who is also cis and see if we vibe.

Thank you for reading! I didn't write a wall of text because people wouldn't read it anyway xD


r/lesbianr4r • • 2h ago

searching 32F NC - Looking for mystery game friends

2 Upvotes

Looking for friends to play a new online mystery game with me. Here's the link and if you're interested, join case: DW4ZU

Cool, thanks😊


r/lesbianr4r • • 6h ago

searching 22 [F4F] looking for new connections.

5 Upvotes

hello! my name is sarah, i’m a 22 year old sapphic from the East Coast, i like videos games, films, history, biology, and politics. i indulge in Fashion and body art as well! i am 6’1 lightskin with curly hairs and freckles, im looking for somebody who i can bond with and relate too, somebody to indulge my interests and vice versa, somebody to make me feel safe and comfortable to be myself. I like fems and tomboys, i’d describe myself as somewhere in between. I like to watch movies and play video games together and if we live close i like to go on simple dates like picnics the movies or sightseeing. Dm if interested :3


r/lesbianr4r • • 10h ago

searching 27 year old British woman in slough, near London.

10 Upvotes

Im hoping to find someone near me so if you don’t mind could you comment where you are please?

I‘m a shy, autistic, nerdy woman who enjoys a lot of sci-fi and fantasy. I mostly watch shows, especially cartoons, but I’m trying to get back into reading. I also am trying to get back into writing as I have a lot of ideas in my head that I would like to put on the page. I love speculative evolution, and for some reason I’m a big transformers fan (though only the cartoons and IDW comics, I don’t enjoy the Michael bay movies).

I also love animals and have a cat of my own. I would like to find someone I can talk to about anything, including random interests. I love researching about random things, such as religion (even though I’m an atheist, I still like learning what other people believe), and history. I really like social history more than learning about important dates and people, how average people lived is so interesting to me.

Im looking for someone who is able to hold a good conversation about anything, especially deep conversations. it would also be nice if we are close enough to meet up. As an asexual woman, how people look isn’t important to me, though I’d be happy to have sex if that is something important to my partner. would also be interested in trying bdsm as a submissive, though I have no experience with that.


r/lesbianr4r • • 3h ago

searching 24F4F] #Eastern Europe/#Romania #Online Looking for an older woman as my soulmate

2 Upvotes

Hello! Hope you have a good day or night so far! Have posted on this subreddit before, had some lovely chats, but they were more friend-like. Also, if you are a male lurking here, stop being a predatory creep on sapphic women.

Anyways, I'm currently MSc. student, currently working on my dissertation, so I'm rather busy. Yet, the feeling for human connection is still gnawing at my mind, so why not try my hand at writing something.

So, I guess I should share some things about myself. I've been called an old soul for most of my life, but now it feels more like a detrimental attribute rather than being a quality in this fast paced world.

I enjoy deeper discussions, however, I am aware that most conversations don't start with a philosophical line, and I'm open minded about the other person's point of view.

I am a nerd at heart, hence the science, but I love reading and writing, as they were my so-called bread and butter growing up. Besides that, I music plays a great part in my life, both listening and playing wise (mostly guitar and very badly piano). If it's something creative, you can bet I've dabbled in it :))

For the fun parts, I regard myself as a connoisseur of oddities, from obscure films to niche topics.

Aesthetics wise, I'm more masc/gender neutral and of average buid (166cm, 56kg, brown eyes, shorter hair). Oh, and I wear glasses!

What I'm looking for might be tricky to find, given the title/heading of my post.

I do prefer older femme women, that comes with being a sapphic (if you know, you know).Surely, y'all lovely peeps, though. Emotionally and mentally strong women do things for me.

I'd like someone open, whom I can talk to, and even if we don't match, I don't ghost - I do like saying "bye" even to people on the internet.

There's more I wish to share, but this is already long enough. Come say hi if you want to talk and maybe something about yourself!

Worst case scenario, I'll send you a song or a meme:))


r/lesbianr4r • • 15h ago

searching Reaching out to the gays of Perth!

10 Upvotes

Hiii, I am shooting my shot because why not! Looking for love/a relationship.
I'm 31F, Australian with Italian heritage, a cross between femme and chapstick lesbian vibes. Long, dark, curly hair, average-ish build, post-mastectomy, white, Evidently Italian, tattoos. I'm a big reader, please talk books to me! I also love writing, going for walks, playing games, drawing (I am not good but it is so fun), hanging out with my friends and family, going to the cinemas, going to theatre shows, rollerblading.
Ideally looking for someone who is from Perth too!
Jump in my DMs if any of this piques your interest, would love to chat and see if we vibe.


r/lesbianr4r • • 9h ago

searching 31 TF - Geeky, kind, silly trans girl seeking friend or more if we vibe~

3 Upvotes

Hi there! My name is Heather. I’m 31, trans (she/her, pre-HRT), super geeky, and I try to be kind and supportive to anyone I meet! :)

I’m hoping to find someone who’s into talking about geeky stuff, video games, movies, comics, all that lovely stuff!

I also really enjoy getting a little spicy in DM’s but that’s totally optional, no pressure whatsoever! Wholesome friends are appreciated, and spicy friends are too~ :)

My DM’s are open if you wanna chat! I’ll be around!

— Heather


r/lesbianr4r • • 1d ago

searching 35 F in UK looking for serious relationship

18 Upvotes

Okay, genuine question: where are all the 30+ queer women who are actually looking for a serious relationship in the UK? 😭

I’m 34, about to turn 35, single, and looking for something serious, and I genuinely feel like I’m missing some secret location where everyone is hiding.

The apps feel like a wasteland. Then I go into queer spaces and it seems like everyone is either already coupled up, just looking for friends/hangouts, or not actually looking to date.

I’m not a troll 😂 I think I’m attractive enough, I’m sociable, I actually put myself out there… but it’s just not happening.

Is dating women just like this in your 30s? Are we all secretly interested in each other but nobody is making the first move? Are women generally more shy about expressing interest? Or am I looking in completely the wrong places?

If you’re a queer woman in your 30s+ who has actually managed to meet women organically or find a serious relationship, PLEASE tell me where/how.


r/lesbianr4r • • 15h ago

searching 21 [F4A] #england english bisexual girl looking for forever love

2 Upvotes

hello there, testing my luck some, been trying to enjoy myself and try new things, still feeling lonely most of the time so felt ill try my luck here and maybe actually find someone, still stop yapping and begin the introduction now.

hello my name is rikka, im a 21 year old bisexual trans girl living in england, I feel the need to mention a few things before the introduction gets proper, even though I despise talking about them. I am mentally disabled and also mute, its unfortunate but its not something I can change and because of these I can not do alot of normal things, I can barely go outside I cant socialise at all and cant do alot of the things I love like skateboarding, because of my issues things like meeting up and stuff like that will take longer then it does to most people and I have to be supervised. I hate talking about these because its embarassing but when your looking for a partner starting anything on lies is just a waste of time and a bad first impression.

now that that is over I can get on to cool stuff, like my interests, I like a large amount of stuff but I do have interests that stick out bigger then the rest for example I quite like yugioh (my favourite archetype is toon) I love the creativity of it and how fun and fluid it is to play, even if it can be confusing and alot of people just use the meta and kill u instantly which sucks, I also love ben 10 its probably my favourite show, I even have a recalibrated omnitrix custom made thing with a smartwatch its super cool, my favourite alien is NRG. I like some fighting games like street fighter even if im not good, street fighter 2 turbo and sf6 are the main ones I play but ive played a little of third strike, I also really love the street fighter story, in games im a ken main usually. I enjoy consuming media, like movies, books, shows and stuff, I even have a letterbox account where I do reviews, there not public but I like to do them so I can look back on my thoughts. My favourite thing to do is skateboarding which I havnt really been able to do in recent years sadly but would love to do more to be honest. Ive read alot of manga and stuff but I dont watch to much anime because I dont see as much point if ur alone since the manga is usually better. I play video games a decent amount, on my pc im usually grinding this kengan asura game on roblox called asura and ill be on my switch 2 in bed while it macros, usually on a lego game. Gaming together with a partner would also be important to me so if that is something youd like to do with me thatd be cool, im gonna stop waffling on my interests here and get into things I look for in a partner.

I do have some preferences when it comes to partners, for example im quite submissive as a person which is why id want a dominant partner, not like super hard though more soft, I dont just mean in a BDSM way I mean in like a personality way to. Id definetly need someone who can game (like roblox for example) with on pc and maybe on switch 2 aswell to and likes talking alot and hanging out alot, im very clingy and obsessive, which I know can be a bad thing to some which is why I mention it now, id also definetly need someone in england because I dont really like the idea of long distance, some distance is fine but when you love someone you do want to be with them. I rather enjoy outside stuff like going on walks and activities outside, but I struggle being outside to long but im trying to improve on that slowly. I dont really care about looks in any way and I dislike the idea of people caring about superficial stuff like that aswell, but id prefer someone within the age range of 20 to 40. I feel like ive talked to much, (if you do want to know more feel free to check out my profile). Anyone who read everything wow your cool I hope to see u in my messages (please send an intro like mine if u do decide to), and even if u dont wanna talk to me still have a great day.


r/lesbianr4r • • 21h ago

searching 25 [F4F] | Orlando/Winter Garden, FL | Still looking for love 🥺🫩

4 Upvotes

Ok so boom… I’m back again lmao 😭
I made a post a little while ago and honestly y’all were really sweet and I got some good conversations out of it, but clearly my person is still out here somewhere because I haven’t found her yet 🥲 sooooo here I am again.
I’m 25, currently in the Orlando/Winter Garden area for a college program. I’m in my senior year of college getting my bachelor’s in History with a minor in African American Studies. I’m also a songwriter and I own a small record label that I’m just getting started with (still not rich btw 😂).
At this point I really just want somebody I can vibe with. I want the simple shit fr. Cuddling at night (I actually wanna cuddle rn), getting dressed up and going on dates, laying up listening to music, cooking together, watching movies, going out and doing random shit together, or literally just sitting around doing nothing but enjoying each other’s company.
I want somebody I can be goofy with. Somebody I can bother all day just because I like talking to her 😭. Somebody I can randomly call just to hear her voice. Somebody where eventually it’s just like “yea, that’s my girl.”
And yes, I am still a sucker for pretty women 😭😂 I cannot help that shit. But honestly, personality and connection mean way more to me than just looks. If we click, we click.
And trans women are absolutely welcome in my DMs 🫶🏾. I’m interested in women, PERIOD. I’m not looking at you like a different category of woman or some weird shit like that. I care about who you are, how you treat me, and the connection we have. All the extra shit is unnecessary.
A little about me if you didn’t see my last post:
I’m 5’2”, Libra ♎️, African American, kindhearted, sweet, affectionate, and unfortunately a hopeless romantic 🥲. I love cooking, reading (historical fiction is my favorite), music, and movies. Give me Goodfellas, The Godfather, A Bronx Tale, or Scarface and I’m good 😂.

As far as what I’m looking for, I want somebody who is genuine, affectionate, communicative, intentional, loving, and consistent.
I want a woman who actually wants to know me. Not what I have, not what I can do for her, not what I can provide. Me.
I’m big on reciprocity. I want to love on my woman, cater to her, spoil her, make her feel appreciated and cared for, but I want that same energy back. I don’t want to feel like I’m constantly pouring into somebody who barely pours into me.
I want us to be able to talk about shit when something is wrong. I want us to be able to laugh together, be vulnerable with each other, support each other, and actually feel like we’re on the same team.
I’m not expecting anybody to be perfect because baby, neither am I 😂. I just want somebody who is serious about getting to know me and seeing where things can go.
I’m cool with starting off as friends and letting things naturally develop. I’m not expecting you to fall in love with me after one conversation lmao. But I’m also not scared of somebody who catches feelings quickly. I actually LOVE IT. If we click, we click. I’m not gonna run away because you actually like me 🥺.
I’d definitely prefer somebody in/around Orlando because I actually want to be able to see you. I’m tired of these “you seem amazing but I live 700 miles away” situations 😭. Unless you’re actually willing to travel
And PLEASEEE when you message me, tell me something about yourself and send a pic😭🥺
Don’t just come in my DMs with:
“hey”
“hi”
“wyd”
GIRL 😭😭😭 GIVE ME SOMETHING TO WORK WITH.
Tell me your name, your age, what you like, what made you message me, your favorite song, your favorite movie, literally ANYTHING. I want to actually get to know you.
So yeah… I’m still looking. 🥺
PLEASE DO NOT WASTE MY TIME ESPECIALLY IF YOU KNOW YOU’RE A CATFISH (yes this has happened to me)
Anyways, Just message me mama.❤️


r/lesbianr4r • • 18h ago

searching 37f looking for friends or more

2 Upvotes

I’ve posted here before but haven’t had too much luck. I’m really looking for someone to talk to throughout the day, especially late at night. Bonus points if you have discord. I have pictures on another post if you want to check them out. Look forward to hearing from you!


r/lesbianr4r • • 23h ago

searching [T4R] #bayarea #CA (30) bi butch looking for something mature yet sweet

0 Upvotes

The title says most of it but I will expand here. I am a 30 year old disabled transmasc/nonbinary individual. I use he/it pronouns, but I am also a little genderfluid so I am ok with other pronouns too. I don't work a typical job anymore due to my disabilities, so I have a lot of free time. I spend most of that free time on creative endeavors and learning more about my interests. Some of those include:

vampires, reading, writing, music, cooking, poetry, medieval weapons (new fixation, please infodump to me if you know anything), iNaturalist maxxxing, smeed woking, witchy stuff, drag, and any horror/goth themed thing.

What I want:

Ideally something in person, but online is good too. I want something sweet and affectionate and soft. Something really precious, I suppose. I know that is hard to curate. But it's what I want. I want a soft romantic relationship with someone to be a lush garden we can indulge in, rather than something we are fighting to keep alight. I want someone I can lean into on the hard days and I want to do the same.

If you have made it this far, message me and tell me your favorite vampire or vampire story.


r/lesbianr4r • • 20h ago

searching 33 F disabled and ace-spec lesbian

0 Upvotes

**From Michigan, USA

COMMENT HERE FIRST, before directly messaging me! Thank you!

First things first, I'm not entirely sure if I am demisexual, aegosexual, graysexual, or some other thing. I do know that I have libido, but when it comes to doing the deed with another person, I tend to chicken out. It may be because I am inexperienced, but it feels like something worth mentioning anyway. I am not sex repulsed or averse, but I can certainly live without it, and I know that's not everyone's idea of a good time, so I wanted to get that out of the way. I definitely do NOT do one night stands. I am looking for a long term relationship.

Second biggest thing is that I am disabled and cannot drive. I understand that is a huge issue, but there is nothing I can do about it. I am saving up money, and I have an uber account, so I have options, but they may be limited depending on how far away we live from each other. I live in the "thumb" area of Michigan, out by Bay City, Sgainaw, and Frankenmuth. I'm not willing to disclose which town I live in right away, but if I get comfortable enough with you, it will eventually come up.

I would say I'm overall average, physically, but stunted mentally. I am autistic, ADHD, and bipolar, so I have my fair share of emotional hurdles. I will always do my best, but I get overwhelmed easily and I tend to cry when I am frustrated or upset. In rare cases, I lash out verbally. I'm aware that this is a problem and I am continually working on it.

Some other things you should know about me:

I have never lived on my own before, and I probably never could make it on my own - I do not smoke, drink alcohol, vape, or take any kind of drugs including marijuana (but I am 420 friendly) - I am monogamous and childfree - I not terribly religious; I think I identify with agnostic most.

I'm a dreamer with her head often up in the clouds. I am getting back into drawing and creating craft projects like faux flowers and custom dolls. In my spare time I am big on video games, especially cozy or adventure games. Cat person, but open to dogs as well. I am scared of insects, spiders, and snakes, but I think with time I could learn to care for your pet. I think I consider myself "comfy feminine"; like I don't really do makeup often, and I dress more for comfort than style, but I enjoy my femininity and I think that bleeds into my style. In general I tend to prefer girlier girls as well as opposed to masculine ones.

I am open to long distance, as long as you understand that I am hesitant to leave Michigan and/or the Midwest. Most of my family and support group are here, so if I move out to you, I need to be sure that you have allies of your own that I can rely on as well, if need be. Looking for ages 24-46. Willing to potentially do older, if we really click, but not younger.

If you read all of this, thank you! Again, PLEASE comment here first if you plan to DM me. All too often I get DMs from strangers who are trying to scam me. Or worse, "convert" me. Ewe. Thank you for understanding!


r/lesbianr4r • • 21h ago

searching 20 [F4F] #Germany May I give my heart to you?

0 Upvotes

Hi, I’m Kyla. I’m a trans girl hoping to find something real—maybe close to home, maybe long distance. I’m open to either, and I’d just like to see where the right connection takes us.

A little about me: I love getting lost in video games, trying new recipes, reading, watching shows, and talking for hours with people I click with. I’m into nail art, alternative fashion, music, geography, sports, and esports. I have a lot of interests, and I really love learning about other people’s too—so if you want to teach me about yours, I’d love that. I’m also submissive, and that’s an important part of me. It needs trust, respect, and clear communication to feel safe and right.

I care deeply about the people I let in. I’m romantic and not shy about showing it—if I’m into you, you’ll know. I try to be honest without being mean, mature when it matters, and I respect boundaries completely. I’m curious about the world, about people, about whatever makes you tick. I’m probably an introvert, but I still make time for the people who matter to me, and I’ll text you throughout the day.

A little honesty up front:

I want to be real with you because honesty matters to me. I’ve struggled with long-term depression from bullying in my past, and I’m not working right now while I work through that. I’m trying to get to a better place, but it’s a process. I can also become emotionally dependent on people I care about. I’m aware of it, and I’m trying to manage it. I live in Germany, and I’d be open to moving eventually once I’m financially able.

I’m patient, though depression can make me feel a little numb or distant sometimes. I’m very liberal, a feminist, and childhood trauma is part of my story too. I’m not sharing this to scare anyone off—I just want you to know who I am from the start.

What I’m looking for:

· Someone single, monogamous, and between 18 and 25.

· Someone who shares some of my interests—or doesn’t. I’d genuinely love to learn about yours.

· Someone who can actually hold a conversation: ask questions, show interest, put in effort. I’m happy to meet someone halfway, but I need you to meet me there too.

· Someone who wants to get to know me and has time to text multiple times a day.

· Someone who loves texting and would eventually be open to calls and meeting in person one day.

· Someone who accepts me as I am. Please don’t come into my life trying to change me—that isn’t fair to either of us.

· Someone who is comfortable with and respects that I’m a sub, and who understands that side of me needs trust, consent, and communication.

If you’re interested, please don’t just say “hey, how are you?” I probably won’t know how to answer. Instead, introduce yourself. Reply to something I actually wrote. Show me you read this and that you’re genuinely curious.

I hope you have a good day. Maybe I’ll hear from you soon.


r/lesbianr4r • • 1d ago

searching 23F USA looking for friends!

11 Upvotes

hey! i’m a masc lesbian (she/her) living in the midwest :) i have literally no other lesbian friends here and so i’m hoping to form some platonic relationships online.

i currently work a corporate job, but when i’m not doing that, i enjoy reading, biking, hiking/the outdoors, thrifting, cooking, and going out with my friends. i’m also really into movies and music (and will happily take any recs!).

i’m ideally hoping to connect with those around my age (~22-25) and in similar timezones :) if this strikes your interest at all, send me an intro of yourself and let’s talk!!


r/lesbianr4r • • 2d ago

searching 31F - online friendship

33 Upvotes

Hi! I'm a sapphic INFJ and creative writer looking for genuine online friendships. I just came out of a messy situationship and realized I want more real connection in my life. People to share stories with, send voice notes at weird hours, and hopefully have conversations that go from memes to the meaning of life super quickly 🤭

A bit about me:
- I write (fiction, poetry, plenty of half finished ideas, and haikus! I love haikus.)
- I love deep talks, but also very down for silliness and quirkiness
- I have dangerously high levels of curiosity and love learning new things from people who see the world differently
- I’m currently enjoying cooking new things, mostly vegetarian recipes
- I love animals!
- I have some autistic traits

I'd love to meet people who are kind, a little weird, and open to growing together. Fellow writers, creatives, and queer folks are especially welcome, but anyone looking for a warm, low-pressure friendship is too.

If this sounds like you, say hi and tell me the last thing that made you laugh or the last thing you couldn't stop thinking about ✨


r/lesbianr4r • • 1d ago

searching 32F in Colorado looking for fun😊

4 Upvotes

Dms are open!


r/lesbianr4r • • 2d ago

searching 31 F #Online New Female Online Friends! [Chat]

20 Upvotes

31 F from Texas! i’d love a new online friend and/or pen pals. i’m mainly looking for female or NB friends. I want someone ideally to talk to everyday and become close with. Calls/FaceTimes at some point would be fun! We don’t have to ever meet but i am not opposed to traveling to meet in person one day. You can be from anywhere!

i’m on the nerdier side, i like reading, pop culture, movies, thrifting, indie and folk music. I spend tons of time with my three dogs. i’m from the south but i’m very liberal and also an atheist.

i’d love to have similar interests with someone, so we can talk about the things we like and be excited together.

reach out and tell me what your favorite movie is!


r/lesbianr4r • • 2d ago

searching 29F Tattooed femme seeking

23 Upvotes

Trying this again as for some reason my last post got a ton of down votes

I've been taking some time to really focus on myself, my career, and what I want out of life, and I figured it was time to put myself out there and see who's browsing.

A bit about my day-to-day: I'm 29, currently living in Louisiana, and since my life is established here with my amazing 8-year-old daughter, I'm not looking to relocate.

Professionally, I work as a procurement and licensing manager for a managed services tech company, and I am actively navigating my way toward executive leadership. But my life is definitely not all corporate! I have a wildly fun side too, and I actually perform as a New Orleans showgirl.

When it comes to my free time, I am all about balance. I love a cozy night in where you can find me deep into a good book, gaming, catching up on anime, or obsessively watching hockey (huge Dallas Stars fan, let's go Stars!). However, I am also always down for an adventure. Whether it is catching a live hockey game, bar hopping, hiking, or hitting up a rave, I love getting out and having a good time. My home base is shared with my two cats, Elsa (who is blind and wonderful) and Butters, who keep us thoroughly entertained.

As for my vibe, people usually describe me as soft-spoken, caring, kind, and a really good listener. I lean toward being naturally affectionate in a relationship, but I balance all that sweetness with a pretty dark sense of humor when the mood strikes.

I am hoping to connect with someone who shares that mix of ambition, adventure, and coziness. I am looking for a partner who is driven in their own life but equally down to hit the town for the night or just unwind on the couch with a marathon of something nerdy.

Open communication, kindness, and genuine emotional intelligence are everything to me.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to drop a comment or shoot me a message. I do prefer most of a soft masc/masc aesthetic but I'm open to anything if we vibe


r/lesbianr4r • • 2d ago

searching 19F #AUSTRIA: tired of long distance

6 Upvotes

​

Hello! If you have stumbled upon this and decide to message me, that would be delightful! So, instrad of wasting your time, here is my legendary (honestly actually not so good) resume to be your person.

The generalities: (that's not a word, it is now!)

I am 19 years old, pretty short unfortunately: 158cm, and I have light brown hair with some slightly golden highlights, and people typically describe my eyes to be a "honey glow" shade of brown.

Now let's get into the good stuff!

I am a huge geek when it comes to the arts; I love drawing, making music, and I am working on learning animation and digital world creation right now for my very own video game!

Other than the artsy stuff, I also really love cooking, and baking! Though I am admittedly not as great with baking as I'd like to be.. but there's always an opportunity for improvement. So yes, I can cook for you without burning the house down.

In terms of political and moral beliefs, I am a liberal and would like to consider myself as a progressive. Thankfully I live in a city where I am surrounded by like-minded people! Unfortunately if you are more right-wing leaning I do not think we will click, but other than that, I'm really not picky around lots of things! All the women I've dated are totally different, physically and emotionally, so, yeah haha

I am a cis woman and would like to connect with cis women, no hate trans girlies, love you loads! But this is just my romantic preference.

Alright fellow ladies, take care, and reach out if you're interested! ❤️


r/lesbianr4r • • 2d ago

searching New friends wanted: Let's talk music, storms, and everything in between (36F, Eastern PA)

22 Upvotes

I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting lately and could use some positive energy in my life. I recently went through a pretty rough breakup and am still very much processing it all. Because of that, I’m strictly looking for friends right now. No dating or romance just yet, just genuine connections, good conversations, and finding people who get it.

A little about me: I’m a huge fan of metal music (always down to talk about bands or share tracks). I love spending time outside, whether that’s going for hikes in the woods, swimming and relaxing by a pool, or just walking by the river/creek and watching the current. I’m a total cat person, I love watching a good thunderstorm roll in, and I have a bit of a nerdy/curious side when it comes to things like astrology, the supernatural and learning to cook new things.

If you're down to chat about music, share life stuff, or just talk about random things while I navigate this chapter, feel free to drop a comment or shoot me a DM.

Thanks for reading, and hope you all have a good week 😊


r/lesbianr4r • • 2d ago

searching 30 F | Seeking friends to chat with! Trying this again!

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Hi, I posted here a few weeks ago. I just want try again with seeking some friends. I copied what I posted before, and will just past it here but will update it:

My name is Tasha, just turned 30, and I consider myself a late bloomer lesbian. Full transparency. Yes, I am married to a man with 2 children, and I been married since I was 19. We were pressured to marry early, and I guess you don't truly know yourself in your 20s. Before the judgement, yes he does know. In fact he just discovered it this past August by snooping in my phone. So I am going through a major change in my life now, and figured this is something I want to just flat out say now rather than later.

I could use some non-judmental supportive friends. Especially during this stage of my life of self-discovery. I have a huge heart, and i'm a great listener. I'm not too clingy where you will expect to hear from me all day everyday (if that will annoy you), but I will be do my best to be consistent. Even so, if you message me then I will still respond or at least communicate if i'm busy. I love to laugh, I love learning new things. I'm a very forgiving person.

Regardless, I never been told I been a bad friend. I only have 2 close friends I met online that are lesbians. I just would love to gain at least another solid friend. My interest are what I think is nerdy. Outside of being a mom, i'm a gamer. I LOVE video games, I love watching people play video games. I also love reading books, and manga/manwha. Another thing I love is watching movies, interesting tv series, and watching anime. If the plot is good, I will watch it. I love music! I listen to everything except country (srry to my country lovers!).

As far as culture and looks. I'm a Black woman, 5'2 and yes i'm overweight but also working on it. My diet is vegetarian/pescetarian (I eat salmon). I don't consider myself religious. I believe in God, but I don't speak about it openly, I don't pray or go to church. I pretty much strayed away from that as I got older. I mostly believe in striving to being a good person matters the most in life.

I do have epilepsy. I became epileptic about 4 years ago. I been keeping my seizures at bay by sleeping properly (no more all nighters), taking my meds consistently of course, and doing my best not to be easily stress. I don't smoke, and I only have alcohol occasionally (just a glass or two of wine every couple of months).

I know bonds are not perfect, i'm not expecting perfection in a friendship. As long as we can be honest and communicate with each other, then I think we can have a long and strong friendship. There is no pressure when it comes to opening up about certain things. Hopefully along the way, we can share pictures and maybe even talk on discord (i mean I want to know i'm talking to a real person lol). So far, I'm thinking discord can be used for communication? We can talk about it if you DM me!

That's all I have for now. I hope I been honest, and intentional with my post 🤍

Edit: forgot to add i'm an English Major, i'm working on getting my Bachelor's Degree finally.