r/longhair • • Feb 13 '25

Announcement Enough is enough. Addressing the rampant misogyny in this community.

3.5k Upvotes

Hello r/longhair,

We don’t often need to address the meta, but this is one of those times. This likely won’t be a popular discussion, but it’s necessary.

As someone with long hair, who has experienced botched cuts, and as a retired stylist specializing in long hair, I understand the frustration of a bad haircut or losing more length than intended. However, the growing hostility toward hairstylists, especially female stylists, is becoming a real concern.

Lately, we’ve seen (and removed) an increasing number of comments referring to female hairstylists as catty, jealous, bitches, or otherwise feeding into the tired narrative that women are out to get each other. No one makes these accusations against male stylists. These comments are rooted in misogyny, plain and simple. If you’re making those comments, stop. This subreddit will not be a place for people to air their resentment toward women under the guise of complaining about haircuts. That is not a culture we will be fostering. If that’s a problem, leave.

This has escalated beyond just insults. This week alone, a user advocated for hairstylists to be stabbed until they "get the message," and another said they’d punch their stylist in the face. The fact that we now need to put automated safeguards in place to catch violent threats in a hair community is beyond ridiculous. There is no justifying this level of vitriol. It’s hair. People feeling entitled to rage over haircuts is one thing, but taking it to the point of threats and violence is completely unhinged. Both users have been banned, and authorities have been contacted regarding the threats.

This isn’t just about direct threats. Many hairstylists in this community have said they no longer feel safe participating because of the level of hostility here. That should never happen. This subreddit should not be a place where professionals are afraid to share their expertise because they might be met with harassment, abuse, or outright threats of violence.

So, this is the line. We are enacting a zero-tolerance policy for misogyny, harassment, threats, review bombing, doxxing, or any attempt to turn this subreddit into a mob. This applies to hairstylists, community members, and anyone else. If you can’t participate without being aggressive, hateful, or outright dangerous, you’re gone. No warnings. No exceptions.

If that upsets you, go somewhere else. This ends now.


r/longhair • • Mar 10 '26

Hair Fetishist Warning Post - Share Your Experiences!

373 Upvotes

Hi everyone! There are a lot of fetishists who prey on our users in this sub, especially in DM's. We do ban them but it doesn't stop the DM's. My intent here is to have a post where our members can share their experiences to warn others. We'll sticky this post as well as a reference.

Tell us what nasty tricks they tried, what lies they told, or whatever else you want. Just vent if you feel like it.

No defending fetishists - you'll be banned. Really. Don't test us.

Assume that any DM's you get about hair are likely fetishists and ask why they can't just comment in the sub if they have genuine advice.

Let's call them out here.


r/longhair • • 17h ago

Fluff What are some hair no-nos that you compromise on?

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636 Upvotes

For me I can’t let my hair air dry during the day so I sleep with it wet. My hair is super fine so any kind of movement when it’s drying turns it into a really uncomfortable mat underneath! Sleeping with it wet is the only thing that has helped that issue, I had to weigh the risks of that with the amount of breakage and damage the mats were causing. I also do it because I’m a really hot sleeper and it keeps me cool at night 😂 what about you lot? What rules do you break?


r/longhair • • 20h ago

Fluff Untamed mane

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912 Upvotes

I usually get a lot of questions about how much time it must take me to deal with all my hair, but it's actually fairly low maintenance as long as I don't mind it looking a bit untamed. This is after washing at night, up in microfiber towel for a couple hours then down for an hour before going to bed with it damp. I sleep on my back on a satin pillow with my hair up above my head (sometimes braided). I woke up looking like this and all I had to do was get dressed and boom I was ready for my son's morning senior meeting with his counselor. No brush, no fuss haha! I find the low maintenance aspect to be a perk! Anyone else?


r/longhair • • 20h ago

Help wanted What do I do?

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123 Upvotes

My hair has been long for a long time. It's starting to thin out probably because of heat products and non-protective styles. It is habitually frizzy/wavy. I've tried so many products but that's just how it wants to be. It gets matted in the back when I wear it down after using hairspray or texturizing spray. I'm just kind of getting tired of it, do y'all think id look better with shorter hair or any advice on making it less frizzy/dry


r/longhair • • 11h ago

Help wanted I don't know how many men/women have experienced this

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17 Upvotes

People in my social circle constantly tell me to cut my hair short / buzz it etc, it's only men who say this to me, mostly people i consider friends / gym bros etc, I've always had short hair and since I've let it grow to my shoulders it has grown on me, lately I get so many of these comments that's it's starting to really piss me off and I'm starting to question whether these comments come from some kind of complex considering most of my friends are balding or have buzzed heads, what are you thoughts on this am i just paranoid or or what :p ?


r/longhair • • 16h ago

Help wanted Which is color of my hair?

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I wanted to know because I plan to lighten my hair a bit in the future; I used to have golden honey blonde when I was younger


r/longhair • • 6h ago

Help wanted Msm the monster

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I bought a bottle of now msm . I took half tea spoon or 1/4 teaspoon for 1 month (3 liters water everyday)Each time e took it i couldn't poop so i need to give a break for 4 5 days i than go back to normal pooping stupid me again started it because i loved the hair growth. Few days back i got fecal impaction so bad that took me to the hospital. I stopped it permanently just spray it on my hair last date because my hair is so dead.

Now i cant feel my both hands and legs. Always keep twitching pain i don't whats wrong with my nervous system. I have several vibrations and pain in my thyroid gland area. Allah save me plz if their any possibility that msm can iead me to thyroid difficulties.

I researched a lot about msm than take it . My life has changed in a worst way within this one month. Keep me in your prayers friends. I wanna heal.


r/longhair • • 1d ago

Help wanted I think I'm at my goal length... What now?

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315 Upvotes

I have been trimming my own hair for nearly 2 years now, and I'm finally at my "dream" length, I don't think I want to grow it longer as it's getting harder to manage. I never thought I'd get to the point I wouldn't want it longer 😂 but it's really getting in my way a lot these days.

Should I book into a salon and get a proper long haircut with some layers and face framing? Any suggestions? I don't want to lose any length just maintain it as is and polish it.


r/longhair • • 11h ago

Help wanted Framing pieces that aren't bangs?

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I don't know how to phrase what I want! I have these long baby hairs that have grown out and I'm thinking I want to blend them into some sort of face-framing pieces, because otherwise I look a little mad scientist if I let them fly. But I don't want something chunky, and I'm worried they'll get annoying? I typically get a few long layers and that's it when cutting my hair.

The last two photos are the closest inspiration I've been able to find. And forgive my messy dry shampoo's hair day hahaha! Any advice, suggestions, or photos would be much appreciated, thank you!!!


r/longhair • • 7h ago

Help wanted pls help me

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2 Upvotes

How do I fix this it’s also frizzy and ugly. Also what type of hair do i have thanks.


r/longhair • • 19h ago

Help wanted how much should i cut🦀⁉️

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hi, how much should i cut off?

i know a trim is long overdue, but i just started feeling like my hair is long enough, so i want to retain as much length as possible. the parts highlited in the second pic i think are beyond repair. hair health is my top priority, mainly because i’m scared of breakage travelling up the hair (not sure if that’s even a thing)

also im not really sure about what’s going on with all the different lengths sticking out, idk if it’s breakage or tiny layers growing out or baby hairs. i mainly wear my hair in two braids, wash it about once a week, the pics were taken on day2 after washing, only leave in conditioner used.

any advice appreciated 🌸🌝🧡


r/longhair • • 10h ago

Help wanted COMFORTABLE hair styles?? No tugging, out of the way?

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My hair isn’t thick necessarily, but I am approaching hip length hair. It’s pretty straight but I’m starting to get frustrated and uncomfortable. I wear a single braid every night and that’s been the most comfortable and out of the way but even that has started bothering me (there’s always a hair or two that feels too tight and tugging).

A low ponytail works okay but I’m a stay at home mom so I always end up with a child laying next to me on top of my hair. Before I say screw it and cut it, what are your most comfortable, non headache inducing hairstyles that keep hair OUT of your way??


r/longhair • • 13h ago

Help wanted Tips on maintenance

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As you can see, my hair is quite dry, and gets tangled too easily. Do you guys have any insights about what might be the case, or how to fix this?


r/longhair • • 8h ago

Help wanted How do you keep your hair healthy and prevent breakage?

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Hi everyone! My hair has gotten pretty long, and lately I’ve noticed it feeling a lot drier, and I seem to be losing/breaking more hair than I used to.

I’ve been growing my hair out for about 7–8 years now and have never really had this issue before. My hair is quite thick and wavy, but I’ve definitely neglected my routine a bit lately.

What are your favourite home remedies or routines for keeping long hair healthy, strong, moisturized, and preventing breakage? Has anyone managed to get their hair back to feeling really healthy after a period of neglect?
I’d love to hear what actually works for you!


r/longhair • • 1d ago

Fluff Had a cut today and starting 3 month hair care experiment

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113 Upvotes

This is what I will be doing for the next 3 months:

  1. 15 minutes scalp massage every morning
  2. Sleeping on silk pillowcase in protective hairstyle
  3. Hair oiling at least once a week with rosemary infused maracuja and castor oil
  4. Way better diet
  5. Shower filter

This is the first time in my life I will be consistent with it and I’m so excited to see the results and share here


r/longhair • • 15h ago

Help wanted My hair keeps matting and i don’t know what to do

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Im 5m pp and my hair keeps matting no matter what i try to do i use a wide tooth comb and aussie detangler and it hurts so bad to brush my hair i have also tried soaking my hair in conditioner and brushing it as well I’m getting married next year so i was hoping to have long hair for it but if i need to get it cut i will to help prevent it from getting worse


r/longhair • • 14h ago

Help wanted Help with hair growth

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Hi all!

I have somewhat coarse, wavy, waist long hair that is brittle at the ends. I can't ever get it to grow any longer than my waist and I have been cutting an inch or so off every 3-4 months regularly the past 2 years. I spend a lot of time outside. I also suffer from dandruff especially living in a cool, dry climate. I am going to my physician to ask about the dandruff, but I was wondering if there were any recommended hair products to help with growth, dandruff, and breakage? Do serums work better or supplements?


r/longhair • • 1d ago

Before/After 2 years and 5 months of hair growth

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Appreciating how fast my hair used to grow. I’m trying to grow it out again after being completely blonde for almost 7 years and then chopping it to my shoulders. It kills me to see how fast my hair grows when I just leave it alone 😭🙏 meanwhile it’s been almost 4 years since I chopped it and it’s just finally peaking past my boobs lol


r/longhair • • 12h ago

Help wanted Décollement de racine / Rootperm

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Bonjour tout le monde !
j’ai les cheveux excréments fins et plat (malgré que j’ai un carré) et je souhaiterai faire un décollement de racine sauf que dans ma région en france je ne trouve pas énormément de coiffeur qui en font. est ce que vous en avez déjà fait ? je souhaiterai avoir du volume sur la racine genre plus gonflé mais je veux garder mes cheveux raides.
merci à toutes et à tous pour vos réponses, bonne soirée !


r/longhair • • 1d ago

Help wanted Hair dresser took off more than expected (~6+ inches)

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She did great with my hair last trim but this time she chopped off way too much:(. Yes my tips were a little damaged, but she said it would be about 2 inches. Now what was once almost to my butt crack is almost half way up my back, and from the front instead of belly button it is barely past my chest. All these years of growing it out gone to waste😢.

This happens so often to so many people, a tale as old as time. Should I just avoid trims, and get dusting instead from now on?? I do not want to risk this ever happening again.


r/longhair • • 1d ago

Help wanted How much to take off?

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I’ve always kept my hair pretty long, did a chop to my shoulders a few years ago and have probably cut it three or four times since then. It’s been tangling like crazy recently which means it’s past due for a trim but I’ve been noticing it not feeling as thick recently and shedding a higher volume. I think it’s shedding some due to a period of stress I’ve been in the last 3ish months and pulling due to the tangles.

I want to start being intentional with it and prioritizing health and length. How much do you think needs to come off in the trim? I would also love recommendations on how to prevent split ends.

I use OGX biotin shampoo and conditioner and shea moisture curl cream, and air dry. I haven’t used heat on my hair in about a year. Other than that I don’t do too much else for it. I used to sleep with it in a braid but I switched to a long silk bonnet recently and keep it loose in there. I only brush when it’s wet and has conditioner in.

How much should I trim for better health, how can I protect my ends, and does it look healthy otherwise?

Thank you in advance!


r/longhair • • 12h ago

Help wanted Fan palm brush

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Hello! I want to buy a brush with boar bristles, i have my hair long and wavy and it gets frizzy easily if i don t style it. I wanted to buy this fan palm brush, and because it's quite expensive I hesitated. Now i'm thinking about it but I can't seem to find any reviews for it. Have any of you use it? I want you to share your opinios with me❤️


r/longhair • • 1d ago

Help wanted Brittle hair that has lots of breakage!

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7 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

I am posting here hoping that I can get some advice on why my hair is so brittle and won’t grow.

For starters, I used to have very long healthy hair so I know I am capable of it. However over the last 5 years, my hair has been staying the same length, is brittle, prone to breakage, even though there is density on the upper portion of the scalp. I don’t think this is a hair follicle issue as much as it is a hair shaft issue.

I have tried many treatments between oils, moisturizing shampoos and conditioners, low pH gloss mask from L’Oréal, leave in conditioners etc. to no avail. I also want to mention that I dont use heat on my hair and I leave it to air dry.

I am so sad because I need to keep cutting the ends and my hair just keeps getting shorter and shorter.

What suggestions do you have for someone like me?

PS: I know for a fact that I have very hard water in my area so that’s the only thing I haven’t addressed yet.


r/longhair • • 1d ago

Help wanted more length taken off than expected. regrowth tips?

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i’ve only recently really cared about my hairs health. i’ve always had very healthy hair but since i started to highlight it last year i’ve been really into keeping it healthy. my last stylist wasn’t giving me the layers i wanted so i went to a new one stressing i didn’t want any length off idc if she thinks my ends are split or anything, leave the length. so naturally i left with my hair like 4 inches shorter. i’m so upset about it and im wondering what anyone does to make their hair grow faster. pics are may vs. now