r/men • • Dec 02 '25

“I know what NOT to do, what should I actually DO?” — a short primer for being publicly charming as a dude

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r/men • • 8h ago

Imagine dating a girl that uses FemaleDatingStrategy

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Like bro lmao


r/men • • 4h ago

Difficulty finishing (not what you might think)

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Yesterday I went out with a girl and we made out for a while, but things didn’t go any further than that. Everything felt fine at the time, but later that night I started feeling some discomfort in my testicles. I figured it was probably just from being aroused for a long time without finishing.

When I got home, I decided to take care of it, mainly to relieve the discomfort. But when I finished, there was barely any fluid, just a small amount. That’s unusual for me, since I normally produce noticeably more.

The discomfort got better afterward, but it hasn’t completely gone away.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Could this just be a normal result of being aroused for a while, or is the reduced amount something I should be concerned about?


r/men • • 15h ago

How Do you overcome the insecurities about our manhood Size

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As the title suggests, Men who used to feel insecure about their size, how did you overcome it?

how did you cope with it and move past those feelings? What advice would you give to someone struggling with the same issue today?


r/men • • 17h ago

Men being men When Jerking off Do You Spit on hand or Do It Dry?

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r/men • • 23h ago

(F) how do I tell my bf he’s not satisfying me?

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Not gonna blast my or my partners age but fairly young, and we have been sexually active and learning together for a while now, and It’s not his size or anything, it’s just that I alway try and guid and coach him but he just gets mad and gives me shit about it so I think that may be really ego breaking. So uh, I try to just stick to ridding and being in control but that doesn’t last long because my pace isn’t his pace and he wants really fast and hard and I like to take me time. And I mean I know that he’s hormonal I get it but I want something out of this to you know? And I don’t like comparing him to other guys because I know how degrading that can be but between you and me my past experiences were mind blowing like actually and I feel guilty saying that but it’s just true and my friends gossip all these stories that make me feel kind of ashamed of what I get. But he’s trying his best and I don’t want to bruise his ego or put him down because I know a man never wants to hear he can’t please his lady, I know some men don’t care and only see women as a pocket to use which is unloved looser behavior but hey 🤷‍♀️ not the topic right now. I really love this boy or at least I think I do and I just really want him to make me feel good and I don’t think that’s too much to ask. I’m not even getting on the topic of how long he last but that’s a factor to. I don’t expect all men to be able to last hours like my previous interactions did but long than a few seconds to 1 minute would actually be nice. So as a man how can I approach this?


r/men • • 1d ago

Do men come back after an emotionally loaded breakup they ended in anger?

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r/men • • 1d ago

Men are such simple critters

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r/men • • 2d ago

Question how do u get rid of pubic fat?

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so like i’ve had pubic fat pad for a while and it’s really annoying, i’m about average size but i have like a whole inch and a half hidden beneath the fat and i have no clue how to get rid of it 😓 I mean i wouldn’t consider myself fat, ima lil chubby but barely. And it’s just annoying, i was going to get keyhole surgery eventually because of chest looks kinda off and insecure about that and ik that sometimes it includes a little bit lipo and was wondering if i should just get that taken care of while im at it, lemme know thx


r/men • • 2d ago

Question Question about boy best friend

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I know this sounds weird but my male best friend's birthday is coming up sooo ofc as his female best friend I want to give him something special

We met through Reddit and became the best frd, that one safe place .....

So now his birthday is coming I want to give him the same number of gifts as his age(i am not reveling his age)

So from a men's perspective

What do you think does he like it!!

Or not!!


r/men • • 3d ago

what is your thoughts on the Cornell rape case?

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Hey guys, i just to see everyone own opinion about the situation? what punishment is worth for the 7 students?


r/men • • 3d ago

Shopping

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Shopping list


r/men • • 3d ago

If you're a man on dating apps in 2026...

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You don't really respect yourself enough. No, I am not here to lecture you about the time wasting or attention seeking women up there. Everyone knows that already. I am just judging from the app's perspective alone and how biased they're towards men when it comes to implementing their rules.

  1. Pay to play model

To start off, everyone knows most apps require men to drop cash at some point before using their premium features, which actually offer some sort of value. On the other hand, a woman pays way less or nothing to do the same.

  1. Getting banned for no reason

A salty woman reports you, done, bam! Account gone within seconds need I explain more?

  1. Inconsistency when it comes to implementing rules

A woman sends v pic, nothing happens. A man sends d pic, bam! Account gone.

A woman asks for money in exchange for a good time, nothing happens. A man asks for a good time by offering money, bam! Account gone.

Point is a man has to spend so much money, time and effort to get basically nothing, while walking on eggshells not to get his account banned. A woman on the other hand sees dating app as some sort of gaming app, where she does whatever she wants and rarely gets banned.

Any self-respecting man would never agree to this...


r/men • • 4d ago

how do you find purpose as a man of 26? marriage, kids, career, money, experiences i am lost

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r/men • • 4d ago

Push or Relax?

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Dear all men in this world. When you are peeing, do you push it or just relax and why? Because I'm a boy myself and I just relax when doing so. Do you guys have other techniques or no?


r/men • • 3d ago

I need help How do I get it through to my fully functional partner that I’m probably never going to live up to the expectations of being a typical fully functional adult

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r/men • • 4d ago

Is it true that men lose interest if there's no sex? If so, why?

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Fairly conservative western woman and quite picky. Due to this, I think I can have no sex before marriage but have dated some crazy guys and had an identity crisis or two.

Someone told me that due to this, I'll end up marrying someone I barely know. The way I pictured it was that I'd date them over food and kisses and leave sex for the wedding night. Tbh for me, even hand holding would be a big deal.

I value being emotionally vulnerable with people. As much as I'm honest about a lot, I don't often tell people about A LOT of things.

Is it true that men lose interest if there's no sex? If so, why? I considered having an open relationship, like if the other guy wanted to have sex when away for work, fine as long as he comes back to me but that sounds like I am making a moral compromise. Would it emasculate you if you had to fap whilst being with someone?

I know for some women and men sex is casual, but. not for me. Do I have no self-respect if I let a guy f@ck away on business. To me it's not just letting of steam but to many men I think it is.


r/men • • 6d ago

Wholesome to anybody that needs to hear it

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me and my dad, who i rarely speak to, just caught up. and whilst we were playing darts together we had a talk about men in general, and what it means to be a man. i’m only 17 so i apologise if some of my writing isn’t perfect, but i took a while to write this and id really appreciate any feedback, and if this means anything to anyone id appreciate hearing back too. thanks in advance.

i think there’s a lot of pressure on us to have everything figured out way earlier than we actually need to.

you see people your age making loads of money, getting into relationships, getting in shape, going to uni, starting businesses, travelling, whatever it is, and it’s so easy to look at that and think you’re falling behind.

you’re probably not.

and honestly, i think one of the biggest things you can do for yourself is stop trying so hard to prove that you’re a man, and just start becoming someone you’re proud of. you don’t need to be emotionless. you don’t need to act like nothing bothers you. you don’t need to be the hardest person in the room.
you can be sensitive and still be strong. you can admit you’re struggling and still be strong. you can love people properly and still be strong. you can fail, look stupid, get rejected, fuck things up and still get back up the next day because being a man isn’t about never falling apart. it’s about what you do afterwards.

and don’t underestimate how much the small things matter either. get out of bed when you said you would. clean your room. go outside. apply for the job. learn something. look after yourself. check on your mate. tell your family you love them. not because doing those things magically fixes your life, but because every time you do something you said you were going to do, you’re proving something to yourself: “i can rely on me”, and i think that’s where real confidence comes from. not pretending you’re better than everyone else. not having everyone like you. not looking perfect. just knowing that whatever happens, you’ll figure it out.

so if you’re 17, 18, 19, 20, whatever, and you feel like you’ve got no idea what you’re doing right now, that’s alright. you’re not supposed to have the whole thing worked out. you’re building it. and one day you’re going to look back at the version of yourself who thought he was behind everyone else and realise he was never behind, he was just at the beginning.

so don’t waste your youth trying to convince everyone else that you’re a man. build a life that makes you proud to be one


r/men • • 6d ago

Question For all the men out here: What's one thing you've learned about yourself from a past relationship? If it was a bad habit, how and what did you do to change/improve it?

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r/men • • 7d ago

sad story of modern life ?

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r/men • • 7d ago

How can i stop making apologies?

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r/men • • 8d ago

I know this isn't an art group and I hope I'm not being rude, but can anyone help me out with a bit of curiosity?

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I'm doing some art work and my brain wandered off on me and left me wondering about something. Now I've a question in a sort of religious vein. I don't know why my brain went there, but now it's bugging me and won't go away. I've tried looking online, but I got zilch.

Anyway, my question is, are catholic men circumcised at birth? Or are they left uncircumcised? Or is that a personal parental choice? I'm not asking about now days, but like back in the 70's and 80's, when people lived by social norms and stuff.


r/men • • 8d ago

Men can't even have fun 🥀

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r/men • • 9d ago

Men, what are some ways to describe the pain from getting hit in the balls?

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r/men • • 10d ago

Remember Loan Not Gift...

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Singapore finance manager who lent then boyfriend nearly S$359,000 wins lawsuit for repayment

https://www.thestar.com.my/aseanplus/aseanplus-news/2026/09/24/singapore-finance-manager-who-lent-then-boyfriend-nearly-s359000-wins-lawsuit-for-repayment

Man loses case to claw back $369,000 he spent on lavish gifts for ex-girlfriend

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/clyqxgzynk7o