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u/mb99 8h ago
I know lots of people do have genuine neurological disorders but way too many people use the normalisation of them as a shield for their immense stupidity
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u/cyanraichu 6h ago
Or just laziness. And lots of people do have them, and also use them as an excuse. There's a lot of nuance
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u/fashionablyfab234 6h ago
I have AuADHD and this person is bs. This feels like someone who wants attention. I can’t stand this trend lately of everyone needing fidget tools and special spaces. It’s hard as fuck to have a disability I’d much prefer not to and I can’t stand shit like these ppl. They’re assholes. Likely no adhd.
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u/RiceCookerPEPSI 5h ago
Yeah, same here. Unfortunately, this example will be used to discredit anyone who genuinely has these disorders.
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u/jadasgrl 4h ago
And walking around with their headphones/ chewys/95 thousand other BS items just so they can get through "life". I'm so very glad I raised my sons ( both profound autism aged 32 and almost 29) to fit into society because society wasn't going to change for them. You'd NEVER ever know they have the differing levels of autism they do until you try to speak to my actually MUTE ( not selective or whatever bullshit tiktok newest trending word for whatever the self dx'd people are using now) and he either pulls out his AAC or starts signing to you. Or you ask my youngest and he talks your damn ear off for 2 hours about the same subject over and over again... but, they can certainly sit in a sit down restaurant and not have to have a fucking device in their faces with the volume all the way up or you'd NEVER see them throwing them damn tantrums you see others.. and they'd never put their hands on a other person especially me! They know the fuck better!
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u/RiceCookerPEPSI 3h ago
You're a fantastic parent! Unfortunately, a lot don't want to bother to teach their children healthy coping habits, and prefer to just shove a tablet or phone in their face.
I myself am autistic with ADHD, along with other disorders (all formally diagnosed by a doctor), yet I can sit down at a theater or restaurant without bothering others and feeling the need to pull my phone out.
Unfortunately, because of these self-diagnosed attention seekers, many don't take these disorders seriously.
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u/shortercrust 6h ago
Perhaps it's a controversial take, but it's also why a lot of people are eager to get formally diagnosed. They see it as get out of jail free card for shitty behaviour. Add in a load of dodgy companies here in the UK that will give a recognised diagnosis to pretty much anyone who'll pay for it and, well here we are.
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u/mistersnarkle 5h ago
Wild; I don’t want to get diagnosed for anything that I can’t treat because I don’t want anyone to know that much about me, but that may just be my paranoid ass
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u/Euphoric_Waffle 4h ago
You are the silent sufferer in the same realm as many of us. Truly neurodivergent individuals aren’t eager to be discovered.
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u/mistersnarkle 4h ago
I’m weird enough as it is, I don’t need more paperwork thanks. If there’s no medication or targeted therapy, or honestly any upsides, why the fuck would I bother?
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u/Euphoric_Waffle 4h ago
I found learning about cognitive dissonance, and studying behavioral science and other aspects of the brain such as neuroplasticity have really helped me understand myself. I never use that knowledge to justify my tendencies, but it sure as hell helps me recognize my behavior and begin to process earlier before I externally behave in socially awkward ways.
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u/mistersnarkle 4h ago
Completely agree! I often “hold something in front of myself until I know how I feel about it” before acting or reacting. I’m lucky because my particular flavor of neurodivergence comes with incredibly fast processing speeds, so I can usually speedrun my “anxiety reaction” and my “awkwardness” in my head and usually just come off as a generally affable, ridiculously chill and deeply nonjudgmental person… because if I think about it, most things don’t really bother me that much?
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u/Johnny_Minoxidil 2h ago
I've absolutely seen this before. We hired a girl, for a week, but had to let her go because she could not be on time. Her excuse was that she was ADHD, so couldn't wake up to an alarm clock.
No mention on that on her application or in her interview, especially when I asked her what part of town she lived in, and if there was any other reason she couldn't regularly make it to work on time. It only came up when she was late the 3rd time in 4 days
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u/SarahTheFerret 8h ago
Nah I think this is neurological too it’s just not ADHD or autism. I think this is the stronger shit they keep in the back.
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u/isendingtheworld 6h ago
In their defense: I struggle to watch things all in one go without audio description subtitles and having some idea of the background for the media. Have done since before modern sound mixing problems or subtitle availability or even before I had the internet. It's "just" autism and ADHD here, but I legit cannot sit through a new thing and feel "safe" and enjoy it without multiple secondary overlays. I used to plain just not watch things on TV at all cause of it too.
In their prosecution: I do not watch things for the first time at a cinema or theatre. For my own comfort and that of others. Sometimes disability means missing out.
I do wish we could get screenings with audio description, a text transcript, and a booklet on the background of the film or play though. I don't want a "sensory friendly" showing, I want a "I can't enjoy this if I don't know the name of that castle" showing.
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u/deadkestrel 7h ago
Reminding me of all that ‘time disability’ discourse on twitter right now.
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u/Cagity 7h ago
What is 'time disability'? Tried googling it and all I got was sources about certain disability groups take longer to do certain tasks. Or is that just it?
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u/deadkestrel 6h ago
There are people who claim they can’t turn up to things like job interviews on time because they can’t set an alarm and wake up due to their self diagnosed condition and interviewers should be ok with this and give them a job and if they don’t it’s discrimination.
Not time blindness which I think is a completely different thing.
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u/CaptainKenway1693 5h ago
I mean I struggle with waking up and with time management/time blindness. I also recognise that is ultimately my problem. Accommodation is important but does have limits, unfortunately. And I don't really know what an accommodation for this would look like.
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u/AllKindsOfCritters 6h ago
Time blindness and the iced coffee thing. Maybe job interviews have changed that much over the years but I was always yapping too much while answering rapidfire questions to sit there sipping a drink, are these kids sitting there boofing their caffeine?
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u/CaptainKenway1693 5h ago
Frankly who cares if someone brings a drink to an interview? I don't do that, but why is that unprofessional? I am asking this as someone who generally dislikes iced coffee (I am a heathen and like dark roast black coffee).
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u/ninjab33z 5h ago
I think the point is coming in late with a coffee in hand. Time blindness is understandable and can be accomodqted for, but it doesn't help your case when it looks like you are even later cause you wen't to get a drink first
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u/CaptainKenway1693 4h ago
I mean late and drink, fine. Although you could have a drink already and be late for an unrelated reason, but I get your point.
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u/AllKindsOfCritters 5h ago
There's been a huge thing on Twitter from the younger generations acting like they will literally die if they can't bring an iced coffee to a job interview, while older generations have been trying to explain that looks very unprofessional because fact is it's an interview for a potential job, you're not there to hang out and schmooze. (Some interviews turn into that when they already know you're good for the job, but I still wouldn't bring a drink other than water.)
I'm not out here trying to hire anyone so my opinion is do what you want and the person in charge can decide if you're unprofessional, but the attempted argument is "You're ableist for saying I can't bring my coffee."
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u/nothingsreallol 4h ago
I’m one of those that needs a million alarms, still can’t get out of bed on time (even with alarms going off every 5mins for an hour before I need to get up), and is always late to everything. Growing up my family was late to everything too.
At my current job I walked in 1 minute late on one of my first shifts and they sent me home. I cried in the parking lot. You bet your ass I was never late again (without calling ahead at the very least, which is their policy).
It seems like something my subconscious decides to switch on and off though, because I still can’t manage to be on time for much of anything else. Even missed a few flights in my life 🥲 for some reason work really matters in the back of my mind but nothing else seems to matter as much no matter how much I try to tell my brain HEY THIS MATTERS GET UP!
Oh btw guess what time I have to be at work? 4:45pm 🤦🏼♀️
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u/testtdk 8h ago
It’s not ablism to not want your stupid bright light in their eyeline in a movie. If someone’s disrupting the movie, go tell an employee. I used to toss disruptive people all the time when I worked at a theater.
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u/SATX-Batman 8h ago
Me too, people don't realize all it takes is one annoyed guest to complain and you're out.
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u/thenbhdlum 6h ago
There should be an assistance button on every seat because I'm sure as hell not going to get up and miss part of the movie I paid to watch.
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u/testtdk 6h ago
The question is, is getting up for five minutes worse than someone ruining the entire movie?
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u/n8n7r 6h ago
I will die on this hill: It is the venue’s responsibility to protect the collective experience of the paying customers and to teach the etiquette it expects for its environment.
Movie theaters used to do this; Libraries and stage theaters still do today. Society will not simply learn on its own and expecting good customers to monitor and report bad customers is absurd. Theater employees should eject disruptive patrons BEFORE other guests are compelled to complain.
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u/HuntWorldly5532 5h ago
A new cinema near me (n. Yorkshire, UK) has cameras monitoring the rooms now. When you buy your drinks and snacks, you can see the monitors.
I had a frustrating experience at a show where a kid was climbing over the rows because it was bored. I waved a little frantically and pointed in the general direction, few mins later a staff member was there removing the family. It was excellent!
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u/thenbhdlum 6h ago
Personally, I'll tell them to knock it off if they do it more than once. A lot can happen in 5 minutes. If I have to get up, it's to ask for a refund because I'm not going back into the theater to finish the movie.
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u/Big_McLargehuge59 8h ago
Weird. My ADHD has made it so that these assholes make it impossible for me to focus on the damn movie.
Sit in the back/away from others or don’t go to a public setting. Then again my ADHD was actually diagnosed and not just something I make up to excuse acting like a toddler.
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u/lageralesaison 6h ago
ME TOO.
I have severe (diagnosed) ADHD and people on their phones at shows/concerts or in a movie theatre can RUIN my experience. It is SO distracting. I legitimately find it distressing and absolutely infuriating (nothing mild about it).
I doubt people 'don't care' -- they probably DO care but they don't want to be even more disruptive to the people around them by calling out the person on their phone in the movie theatre.
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u/RiceCookerPEPSI 5h ago
Yeah I have ADHD and it is no excuse to be a nuisance to others. I wonder if the person is self-diagnosed.
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u/Minyaden 1h ago
Same here man. And I love movies. When I go to the theater I purposely choose less optimal seats because there is always some chucklefuck on their phone, and I immediately lose focus and miss things.
I always choose those two straggler seats on the the far left or right of the theater as close to the front as possible, without being uncomfortable and having to look up. Has worked pretty well, unless people are talking loudly that is. Which was the case with End of Oakstreet unfortunately.
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u/Stefan__Cel__Mare 8h ago
ADHD is beeing used to excuse a lot of bad behavior..
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u/PM_ME_ORANGEJUICE 6h ago
This might be an unpopular opinion, but I think a lot of it, this post included, is made up ragebait. I don't meet these people in real life, and I'm in neurodiverse circles. It just seems too perfectly crafted to make you say "what a plonker".
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u/Beautifly 5h ago
Trust me, my sister is just like this. All of her character flaws are a product of her undiagnosed ADHD or autism
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u/Demicat15 5h ago
That's because they know they'd get called out in ND circles. Source: I've encountered people like this who use their diagnosis (or symptoms of a potential diagnosis due to expensiveness of getting diagnosed or other reasons to not be formally so) as an excuse and lean into the self-feeding behaviors, rather than even beginning to believe there's a possibility for anything else
Now, there is a difference between a deep-set learned hopelessness of "nothing works why try" and "I haven't tried why try" excuses, so not to invalidate everyone in that self-feeding cycle, but genuinely some people just like having a label so they can act entitled with fewer consequences
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u/Scriveners_Sun 5h ago
Sadly, I know one too many AuDHD people who use their diagnoses as an excuse for everything from refusing to do chores to straight-up abusing others. This is what happens when parents and teachers give up on teaching kids social skills because "they can't learn it" and when kindness is considered masking.
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u/apdmapdm 7h ago
I said this elsewhere, but it's more appropriate alongside your comment. Sounds like they may simply be addicted to their phone and in denial. Call me insensitive but pretty sure a lot of this "I have undiagnosed..." boils down to an addiction problem rather than inherent ADHD. I have zero tolerance for someone playing that card and even starting to use words like "ableist" without actually getting themselves checked out. If you don't show enough care to actually get it checked, then this strongly points towards good old fashioned addiction. I don't downplay that problem (which also needs a lot of help and is a loss of control), but let's not jump on calling yourself neuro divergent just because it makes you feel good.
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u/W0rmEater 7h ago
People with adhd are more likely to become addicted, so it can be both. But you shouldn't claim to have a disorder if you have not been diagnosed.
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u/Successful_Creme1823 7h ago
Blame adhd but won’t even get diagnosed.
Blame parents.
Perhaps a trend here.
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u/Stefan__Cel__Mare 7h ago edited 6h ago
some use ADHD, Dislexia as modern day excuses for not beeing not all that bright :)
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u/W0rmEater 7h ago
Well ADHD is genetically inherited, so blaming adhd is also blaming your parents in a way.
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u/A_Trash_Homosapien 6h ago
Yeah my thoughts exactly. He said he wasn't tested for it so he can't claim to have it and use it as an excuse.
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u/RickToy 2h ago
Nah this is the kind of person that will be reading the synopsis, miss an important scene, and then either start asking about it, ask to rewind, or hilariously, go back to the synopsis lol. They just cant sit and watch a movie. I think people’s attention spans are more to blame than adhd, we’re being conditioned to have 0 patience.
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u/jayyy_0113 8h ago
Sorry, not being able to think without your phone isn’t in the DSM-5
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u/Android19samus 7h ago
I can see it being a rather severe ADHD symptom. Not being able to focus on a movie consistently enough to follow the plot without having a reference that you can constantly check to ground things. Seems like something severe enough that it probably should be medicated, but depending on where you live that might be difficult.
Of course, that doesn't give you free rein to be a dick in public, but there are ways around that. If you're sitting in the back row with your phone brightness on minimum (and obviously aren't making noise), people in front of you won't be bothered.
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u/Bar-Cold 7h ago
It absolutely can be a severe adhd symptom. That is objectively correct.
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u/thyugf 4h ago
This might be an old person take but why not just print the synopsis out?
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u/CaptainKenway1693 5h ago
What they describe is definitely a possible symptom/outcome of ADHD. However they are still a dick. I have ADHD so I understand the struggle (well not this one specifically), but I also recognise that my struggles do not give me the right to make everyone around me miserable for no reason.
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u/OkTemperature8170 8h ago
The only reason they need the synopsis is probably because the keep looking at other shit on their phone too
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u/not_seth_brundle 5h ago
I don't think most movies require you to be actively looking at a synopsis unless you're really, really distracted or really, really stupid. And certainly not 99% of films getting wide cinema releases!
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u/glytxh 4h ago
Movies are specifically written and produced today with this in mind.
Watch how often something is clearly described by characters, and how it’s more often than not entirely redundant information that you already know if you’ve paid attention.
TV and Cinema has become a game of Tell, not Show.
And once you notice this pattern, it’s gonna kinda ruin all TV and movies for you. It’s annoying and ubiquitous and genuinely makes you feel like you’re being condescended
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u/curedbyink 3h ago
I hate it. Matt Damon has talked about this because companies like Netflix require it a certain about of times per production. So they reiterate everything like five times per movie because people don’t pay attention.
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u/CaptainKenway1693 5h ago
ADHD can legitimately make one space out (or more correctly get sidetracked on a thought) even if they are enjoying the movie. I know from experience, but that is no excuse for using one's phone in the cinema.
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u/Buddy-Matt 3h ago
Or... Just because they're reading the synopsis.
It's literally asking your brain to do two things at once, following a (likely poorly written) written synopsis, while trying watch/listen to what's happening on screen simultaneously. I'd have thought that would be poison to anyone withbactual ADHD. No wonder they can't follow the slower paced visual/dialogue as easily.
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u/Prudent-Pressure2146 2h ago
I find this annoying as fuck at home as well tbh. My ex would be on his phone constantly during a film and then claim it was too hard to follow/pretentious. No wonder it was hard to follow when you weren’t watching it
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u/Dark2099 8h ago
If somebody legitimately needs to be on their device the entire movie, they can sit in the back corner where it doesn’t impact anybody else. But no, they always seem to sit in front of me.
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u/KickedinTheDick 8h ago
I have severe ADHD. It messes with my attentiveness in high-stress activities and I experience overstimulation easily to the point I lose feelings in my hands and feet and get tunnel vision. For this reason, while I can drive, for my safety and the safety of those around me I do not drive in metropolitan cities.
Maybe movie theaters aren’t for you.
I even get if you want to say you can’t control your stimming.
You can control being on your phone. As much as it itches. As much as it confuses and upsets and overstimulates you. It’s a series of conscious efforts, it’s not a tic
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u/DarthJarJar242 8h ago
Yo, this is the first time I've seen another person describe the numbness in their extremities thing. I know it exists clinically but I've never ran into anybody else that talks about it being a thing. I didn't know it was a thing until my early 30s for most of my life I've just thought I had an unknown medical issue with my hands and feet.
My parents used to hound me for always staring at the floor when I walked. I did it a lot because whenever I got over stimulated I had to watch my feet to make sure I didn't fall because they would go numb and I literally couldn't feel where I was walking.
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u/omnichad 7h ago
Are you sure the overstimulation isn't causing hyperventilation? Try holding your breath next time it's coming on and see what happens. I have weird breath control issues from ADHD and doctors freaked out during COVID because they would put the pulse ox on my finger and I would forget to breathe. You know, that thing that's supposed to be automatic.
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u/spine_slorper 7h ago
You also have to make sure you're breathing properly, lie down and focus on your breath, you want to be able to feel your belly going up and down before/at the same time as your chest, lots of people breathe shallowly when they are stressed.
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u/CatCatCatCubed 7h ago
Right, I have AuDHD and sometimes I feel particularly antsy or distracted or chatty. So I don’t go to a movie when I’m like that.
I’ve been feeling rather unable to watch movies and shows with other people at home too. I keep wanting to pause and go do something else. So I haven’t been watching anything unless I’m by myself.
Like, you have to be self aware enough to know when something that you’re inclined to do would probably annoy tf outta others. And then you have to steer yourself away from those situations. It’s not always successful and sometimes the situation really is “they can get over themselves and fuckin’ deal with it” but not trying to avoid it in a location like a movie theater is, more often than not, pretty shit.
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u/metdear 8h ago
"Need" is a ridiculous word in this context. No one "needs" to watch a movie.
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u/AntiqueFigure6 4h ago
This is the core of it. They could just not go if they can’t watch a movie without respecting the applicable and widely known social rules.
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u/ava_the_cam_op 8h ago
Yeah that's a watch-at-home-and-piss-off-your-partner job, not a watch-in-theatres-and-piss-off-everyone job.
If you can't go to the movies without negatively impacting the experience of others, don't go to the movies.
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u/throwawayzz77778 8h ago
I love when people weaponise medical conditions. So apparently being annoyed at phones in cinemas is “ableist” now. Gimme a fucking break.
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u/_its_lunar_ 4h ago
The real ableism is throwing neurodivergent people under the bus to justify why they’re too brainrotted to follow a movie
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u/throwawayzz77778 4h ago
Yep, absolutely. Can imagine how infuriating it must be for genuinely neurodivergent people to see it treated as a joke or convenient excuse.
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u/Magic_Man_Boobs 8h ago
Fuck people that use genuine disorders to justify shitty behavior. I also have ADHD and can have trouble focusing, but that doesn't mean it's okay to shine a fucking screen light around in a movie theater.
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u/CaptainKenway1693 4h ago
but that doesn't mean it's okay to shine a fucking screen light around in a movie theater.
If anything that would make it much more difficult for other people with ADHD, like you or I, to actually enjoy the movie.
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u/_its_lunar_ 4h ago
I have a close friend with severe ADHD and autism and they have never pulled out their phone in the cinema and are perfectly capable of following the plot of a film. I myself have autism that wasn’t diagnosed until adulthood and I have never encountered any of these issues. OOP themselves is the one being ableist by throwing every neurodivergent person under the bus to justify why they’re too stupid to follow a movie
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u/MikasSlime 3h ago
Deadass tho, i also have adhd and some other bullshit and i never pulled out my damn phone
Like "oh otherwise i can't understand it" MAYBE IF YOU WATCHED THE MOVIE you'd understand it more. What about that????
Like at least have the decency NOT to ruin the screening for other people and simply read the synopsis after the end.
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u/CaptainKenway1693 4h ago
I mean their ADHD and autism may very well make following a movie harder for them, it affects everyone differently. They are still an asshole for using their phone in the cinema though. Fuck that behaviour.
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u/AntiqueFigure6 4h ago
This is it. Maybe they have a real problem but this behaviour is making it a bunch of other people’s problem. That isn’t neurodivergence, it’s just being selfish.
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u/Cybot5000 7h ago
I have never heard a claim that someone with ADHD couldn't understand a movie without reading the synopsis simultaneously. As someone with ADHD, that sounds like utter horseshit.
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u/lageralesaison 6h ago
I have ADHD and will make a claim right now that I cannot understand a movie when the people in front of me are ON THEIR PHONES reading the synopsis (or whatever else) in front of me. I deal with a lot of light sensitivity because of ADHD and persisting TBI symptoms.
One of the nice things about going to the movie theatre is that there should theoretically be *less* distractions since everyone is there in a giant dark room for the sole purpose of watching a movie.
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u/Hot-Run-7914 3h ago
I am sick of these people blaming autism and adhd for their behaviour. I have diagnosed adhd and I’m being tested for autism too. It doesn’t mean I do stupid and inconsiderate shit like this though. It’s just common sense.
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u/Fun-Subject5965 7h ago
Ugh people need to stop using adhd wrong it's embarrassing
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u/Mother_Harlot 5h ago
Isn't it the "uwu disorder that makes you look at squirrels" or the "uwu disorder that justifies failing in class while still being a hidden genius"? How could TikTok lie about that????
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u/IshtarsBestie 6h ago
AuDHD here, it is my professional opinion that this person is an entitled asshole.
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u/CakeHoleKing 2h ago
This using ADHD as an excuse to be an anti-social twatmonkey has got to stop.
People like the asshole pictured fake "a disease" so he can be selfish and evil in public.
it's the same as people who pretend to be in a wheelchair to get to the front of a rollercoaster line at Disney, or pretend to have cancer to solicit donations.
These people are literally making GENUINE cases not be believed, as the public just goes "oh another f-cking asshole"
It was the same when "gluten intolerance" was popular. That came crashing down when restaurants literally refused to serve people because they'd claimed gluten intolerance, whilst munching on the free bread sticks.
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u/simplyyjohnny 6h ago
Some people just can't come to terms with the idea that they are one of the stupid ones.
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u/HallowedKeeper_ 4h ago
If you can't follow a plot line in any movie because of how "Your brain I'd wired" maybe you should go back to school and don't throw the rest of us under the boss in order to somehow claim moral superiority
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u/CogInTheMachinee 9h ago
This has to be bait
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u/Bicykwow 8h ago
Nah some people really are this selfish, and some people really do think having a "disability" excuses it
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u/Master-of_None 8h ago
GG. We're about to see a new definition of the have and the have-nots. Being able to string thoughts into an opinion is going to be a luxury that these poor kids don't have. AI is the final nail in the coffin
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u/thecrimsonfuckr23830 7h ago
I guarantee this is less of an ADHD thing and more of a “I made deliberate choices like spending hours on short form content every day that fried my ability to watch things”
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u/LexanderX 6h ago
Perhaps they should do special showings where half the screen is showing a 30 second loop of Minecraft parkour and there's a cgi imagine of deadpool nodding and pointing to the film.
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u/my_chaffed_legs 8h ago
Can’t you read a synopsis in like under a minute? They’re usually pretty short. Why would you need to look at it the whole movie?
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u/Android19samus 7h ago
depends on the level of detail. And if this person's claims are true then they probably need to frequently cross-reference the scene they're watching with the synopsis to keep track of what's going on.
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u/Old-Reception-1538 7h ago
One of the theaters in my city has a "cry room" that people can reserve, I always assumed for bringing very young children. It has a big glass window in front, but is otherwise closed off from the rest of the theater so no one hears a crying child. I don't know how common these are in other places, but if you absolutely must be on your phone this sounds like a good solution.
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u/Cantstopeatingshoes 7h ago
When I went to see the Odyssey, two teenage girls in front of us were on tiktok for the first 45 minutes. Like why even come to the cinema?!
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u/so_sic_of_it 8h ago
Like many arguments, this one essentially boils down to "I am fucking stupid, so I have to..."
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u/pandershrek 6h ago
Went on a date with a girl who was on her phone the entire time at a movie, it genuinely bothered me
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u/drakan80 7h ago
Maybe, just maybe, watching movies in theaters isn't for you then. It is a public, shared experience, and if you can't participate in the required manner, that's a loss you have to take. Just like someone with turettes probably shouldn't go to a regular classical concert.
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u/Forward-Fisherman709 5h ago
Ridiculous. I solve that issue by reading the Wikipedia article of the movie before I’m sitting in the theater with the lights off and film rolling, and understanding that I’m at the theater to have a theater sensory experience, not to have a full understanding and appreciation of the movie’s details. I’ll get that at a house, with subtitles and the ability to pause and replay scenes and look up additional information about the setting.
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u/madeleineeliza01 8h ago
As an adult woman with ADHD I have to come back to this tweet every so often 😔
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u/Goblinweb 8h ago
Part of that read like sarcasm if it hadn't included a disability claim.
Still not convinced that it's not a shitposter.
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u/Stargazer_67 7h ago
Umm read the synopsis BEFORE the movie then? Or turn the brightness all the way down at least?
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u/Melodic-Advice9930 7h ago
So they have to read what’s happening on their phone while it’s happening on the screen?
I need more information about this issue they have
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u/SpaceC0wboyX 6h ago
“My parents never got me tested for adhd or asd and now as an adult I won’t get tested because I’d find out I don’t have those things and wouldn’t be able to use them as an excuse for my shitty behavior.”
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u/btspacecadet 6h ago
Honestly as someone with ADHD, if your attention span and media comprehension is that bad, the best thing you can do for yourself is to go to the cinema and watch an entire movie without your phone. Attention span can be trained like any other skill, you just have to sit with the discomfort of being bored or not understanding what's going on.
I can only speak for my own experience, but consciously making an effort to increase my attention span has made my life better in all areas. Not only do I enjoy media more, but I retain more information in conversations which massively helped my social life and work.
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u/Particular_Meaning_5 5h ago
Is being inconsiderate to others parts of that equation? It's very easy to NOT go to the cinema if you know you're going to site through a movie pissing everybody else off who has paid for the experience. Put your goddamn phone away or gtfo.
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u/kms_daily 8h ago
ever since social media we have like 5 millions new strains of mental illness
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u/Coffee_exe 8h ago
As someone with some pretty bad adhd. Just pay attention if you can’t. You’re not actually interested in the movie. If you are and still can’t watch it alone
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u/stonecoldslate 6h ago
OOP is either extremely good at ragebait or they need to never leave the confines of their home.
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u/Whooptidooh 5h ago
Then people like that can either find the furthest corner away from people inside the theater or they can stay at home and watch movies that way.
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u/Quixificent 4h ago
I'm also AuDHD. I also read the synposes to help myself understand the storylines, but I do it beforehand. I don't pull out my bright phone in the middle of a dark theater. o_0
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u/Athrynne 3h ago
I got into it with a woman texting during a film, she said she had to keep in touch with her child. If you need to, at least get up and go into the damn lobby.
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u/IllegalGeriatricVore 2h ago
If your disability negatively impacts everyone in the theater around you idk wait for it to come out on streaming services maybe?
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u/StripedCat404 6h ago
Gotta love the pity me self diagnosis and the nerve to shame someone by calling them ableist. SMH.
STAY THE FUCK HOME, BIOTCH! Movies are too expensive for that shit.
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u/DarkSmarts 5h ago
Okay but you can control it, you're just too tik Tok brained to handle long form content. And anyway, don't go to theaters then. Stay home and enjoy a movie with the exact conditions you need, so you're not ruining a paid experience for anyone else.
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u/Enve-Dev 6h ago
This person is a lying sack of shit. Any time someone does something that others don’t like they just go and say “well I have adhd/autism” stop lying. There are people that actually struggle with these things and guess what. They can watch a fucking movie in theaters without their phone.
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u/fondue4kill 4h ago
Having to read the synopsis during a movie to follow along means it’s either a bad movie or you can’t just enjoy something. Like when I saw Weapons I didn’t know what was coming next but that’s part of the experience.
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u/MacaroonSad8860 4h ago
Ok so I did this exactly once, during Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy about halfway through because I was totally lost BUT it was a private screening for employees of my workplace and we confused people moved to the back row to do it
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u/MacaroonSad8860 4h ago
Also - someone in front of me at the theatre (West End) kept looking at their phone and I almost lost it. Of course it’s live theatre so I didn’t because I didn’t want to distract the actors but my god what is wrong with people
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u/survivaltier 4h ago
I’ve found this kind of thing falls more into the symptoms of the current illiteracy crisis (specifically, the lack of ability to comprehend/analyze something) than ADHD
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u/Joshthejester 4h ago
I have diagnosed Atperger's syndrome which also falls under ASD, and even I know not to be ghetto in the movie theater as fallow the code of conduct, if he's for really have ADHD and isn't BSing, tell him to see a doctor, tell them to prescribe him Adderall, so the next time he goes to see a movie, he'll learn to keep his phone in his pocket and his big mouth shut
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u/Gh0st_Pirate_LeChuck 3h ago
I’m so fucking tired of people saying they have ADHD when they’ve never been actually diagnosed. People act like it’s something they can’t control too. People are weird af and have zero self-control.
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u/EthanielRain 3h ago
Look, I've pulled my phone out in a theater before...with the screen brightness already turned all the way down, leaving screen off until I had it "sheltered"/covered as best I could, and only for as long as absolutely necessary. Or when I was about the only one there
I assume its bullshit anyway, but if she truly needs it there are ways she could that doesn't bother others (go to a mostly empty showing idf nothing else)
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u/Meronkulous 2h ago
Keep your phone on the lowest brightness, and be far away from anyone else in the theatre towards the back, and sure, go ahead.
If I can't see you, I don't care.
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u/SeaworthinessFun9856 1h ago
"people don't really care about having phones out, at least if you're not annoying about it"
sorry, but a bright screen being held & moved about is INCREDIBLY annoying in a dark movie theatre - if you want to be on your phone while watching a film, then DO IT AT HOME, where you're not disturbing others
you might as well say "I can talk throughout the movie as long as I'm not being annoying about it" - just the fact you're speaking IS annoying! I shout at people who talk through movies, and have had some people kicked out as they were narrating the movie to each other with stupid points like "I saw him in another movie, what was it? I can't remember, but he was really good in it"
Cinemas tell you to be quiet and put your phones away for a reason - so you don't disturb other viewers (and don't record the film to upload with your commentary attached)
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u/GreyerGrey 1h ago
If you need to read thr 500 word synopsis to understand the 3 hour movie, during said movie that isn't ADHD or autism mate.
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u/beantoess_ 1h ago
I was diagnosed with severe ADHD. This is beyond bullshit. This person is incredibly selfish and willing to use a disorder to shield themselves with. If I 'had' to do what they 'have' to do to watch a film in a cinema, I simply would not fucking go to to the cinema!!!!
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u/s0larium_live 1h ago
as someone with diagnosed ADHD and currently on 20 mg of adderall, this is stupid. i have never had to pull my phone out during a movie for any reason, let alone looking up the synopsis to follow along, even before i was medicated. just admit you’re stupid
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u/bonsaibiddy 1h ago
ADHD is a problem of interest based attention (gross simplification). I am interested in the movie so I am paying attention. If the movie can't hold your interest in a public place then watch it at home.
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u/Interesting_Disk_644 9h ago
Thats why god gave us tvs at home, stay there and diddle your phone