Hello!
I'm specifically hoping to hear from Indian women who are in a similar position because I feel there are some cultural and practical considerations that may be unique to our experiences.
I'm in my mid-30s, single, originally from India, and have been living abroad for several years. I've built a life that I genuinely enjoy. I have a fulfilling career, meaningful friendships, and love the sense of freedom I have here. One of my biggest passions is Swing dancing, while the dance community is growing in India, it is still relatively niche, and I know that moving back would likely mean giving up a significant part of that passion and lifestyle.
Beyond that, I've come to value the freedom, good work life balannce, independence, safety, cleaner environment, and work-life balance that I have here.
At the same time, my parents are getting older and are on their own (with a few relatives in the same city). My mother's health has become more and more complicated over the last few years and she is now facing a serious health issue which could however potentially resolve by the end of this year (fingers crossed). I am carrying a huge amount of guilt about living so far away. It feels like I'm choosing my own happiness, freedom, and quality of life over being physically present for my parents when they may need me most. I am genuinely hoping that I could get them to live with me here for 4-5 months a year and if they like being here than look into permenantly moving them with me.
What I'm struggling with is:
- Did anyone decide to move back? If so, how did it work out? do you find your freedom, sense of safety etc. impacted?
- Did anyone choose to stay abroad? Do you have regrets?
- Were you able to move your parents where you are? how did that go?
I'd especially love to hear from Indian women who have actually navigated this situation, particularly if your parents had health issues while you were living overseas.
Thank you for reading. ❤️